Dee - posted on 07/03/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am new here and am often tortured by the fact that my daughter is an only child. I am recently 47 years old and a recent cancer survivor. My daughter just turned 6. We live in a neighborhood that is not family friendly and the few kids that are here are not home as they are in summer camp all day. I am a stay at home Mom since my daughter was born and I am the only one around that I know of. It is a huge task trying to find playmates for my daughter who is a really bright, very active kid. It doesn't really seem to bother her most of the time that she is the only kid, but it bothers me terribly. I am one of 3 girls, one year apart and my husband has a brother, one year younger. None of our siblings have children, so no first cousins for my daughter either. We don't belong to church or synagogue as we are not religious that way. It is so painful to me that we have to try so hard to find a playmate for her or I have to hire a babysitter to play with her so I can get things done. I worry about her being alone in the future with no siblings or first cousins. We have no community, nobody to call up and do things with easily. I feel like I've tried everything I can think of to find this and have failed at every attempt! I don't know what to do. Being at home probably doesn't help because I am not meeting any new people or making new friends ... who might have kids and I gave up a couple of friendships after finding out few people showed up for me while I was dealing with cancer. I just had to let those people go and that was painful too .. and they both have little girls. I don't know what to do next. My daughter goes to a private school because the public school in our town is terrible. All the kids in our town go to different schools and the kids in my daughter's school, all live in different towns. It's SO hard making lasting connections or building community and I am feeling so discouraged. Right now my daughter doesn't want to go to camp. We are planning on it for next summer so she will be around kids, at least half a day. But, the future is what I'm worried about most ... her being alone, with no family unless she makes one herself. We did try to have a second and could not and now it appears I am entering an early menopause because of losing my thyroid to cancer. At this point, i don't know if I would even have the energy to raise another child. I even had the crazy idea of my hubby donating sperm in the hopes that my daughter might have some half sibs out there at some point! That's how much I have thought and worried about this. I am distraught. Sorry for this long post.