Happy to be mom of only child

Dawn - posted on 01/24/2010

Just tell them I do lol... I only have the 1 child and dont intend to have anymore,hes all I need... Anyways I'm too old to have more plus its hard work bringing him up by myself thats what I tell ppl if they ask me about more kids.

Tanya - posted on 01/18/2010

I use to get questioned all the time but not so much anymore!! I just state that we've happy with one child. She's great and thanks for asking! *grin* People will always have an opinion but I do find many are just curious or striking up conversation. If you feel uncomfortable...change the topic about something completely different not child related. Mine is usually...wow, where did you buy those lovely earrings or how do you keep your skin looking so healthy...the focus is now on them! :) It works great!

Bethany - posted on 01/18/2010

I would say "I've had mine, it's my husband's turn next". Charlotte is 11 mths, but friends and strangers have been asking us pretty much since her birth. It's mostly small talk, and deserves a small answer.



I always get "is she your first?" and I just say "Yes".

"Do you plan on having any more?" and I say " You want to drop 80 grand in my bank account, I'll give it some thought. I'm not made of money!"



Aside from morbid curiosity, I think people ask questions to justify their own actions. If they get a relpy that is different to what they did, they start to question if they made the right decision themselves.

Allison - posted on 01/16/2010

I am so glad I foudn this thread. When my daughter was about a year old I remember being at a party and a single lady with no kids asked me when I was going to have my next. When I told her that I didn't plan on having anymore, she really went to town telling me how selfish I was. I could not beleive it!

People should really mind their own business, especially those who don't have kids. How dare they! My daughter is 15 now and I don't regret it, she got my undivided attention at all times and it really paid of in school.

Sapphire - posted on 01/03/2010

I am also very happy to be a mother of an amazing almost 5 year old. My husband and I are content with our family of 3 and to others who tell me my son NEEDS a sibling, well they can go bite me in the a$$! As long as you are at peace with your family situation, then it is no one's business how many kids you have.

Karen - posted on 01/03/2010

I too am very satisfied with only 1 child--that's all we ever planned on having. When my son was an infant, a lady (total stranger) at walmart got extremely nasty with us when we told her he was our one and only. It amazes me how people can be so nosey! Anyway, we told her it was none of her business how many children we should have. When well-meaning people have asked me about having another child, I tell them that we have the most perfect child and why screw up a good thing :)

Ann - posted on 01/02/2010

I have told people that my son will get more love and attention without brothers or sisters. Not only that he doesn't want any. He won't miss any siblings, he has no idea what its like.

Jenny - posted on 01/02/2010

Quoting Heidi:

Quoting Lyndsay:

I am only 21 and I want to get my tubes tied. I had my son at 18 and I love him to death, but it turns out that I'm not really as maternal as I thought I was and I still like to have my own identity outside of just being a mom. I really really love being a mother, because I have someone to share my life with, but I am quite happy with just him. I'm going through college now and I'm going to be starting my career, I don't want to have to postpone it all over again to squeeze in some more kids. Unfortunately nobody seems to understand this, including my doctor who is urging me to continue birth control "just in case" I change my mind.

I know how you feel. I am 28 and when I say I want my tubes tied I am also told that I am too young!! My doctor donsn't even want to tie my firends tubes and she just had her second child! 

I'm going back to college and getting ready to start my career as soon as my daughter goes to school, I also don't wanna postpone my life to have more kids. I am so happy with my one beautiful little girl, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Good luck to ya!

I tied mines at 24, and I am happy with it, if you are done who cares what the rest of the people feel like. U know what you can handle.

Jenny - posted on 01/02/2010

It doesn't matter how old you are, I am going to be 28 this month, I have a 4 year old daughter and I tied my tubes after having her because I only wnated ONE child and people then bug me because I am too young to not have anymore... Whatever, is not their business, their not the ones that raise or pay their bills so they better keep siletn, and have a 12 kids for all of us that only have one!

Kalpana - posted on 12/30/2009

Believe me it's so irritating that people cannot mind their own beeswax! I am a 33yr old Indian woman & we are suppose 2have 50 kids or more! I intially wanted another, but my husband & I hav now decided that we are happy with our son. Plus...they expensive! ...but seriously...it's all about lifestyle & what u want. Emotional wellbeing is important, especially after experiencing a miscarriage.

The ugliest thing i was told was..."U must hav another child just in case ur son dies!" ...WHAT??? Where do people come up with these things? ...I say...small minded, igorance. Anyway...i'm HAPPY! I'm sure ur too!

Towanna - posted on 12/23/2009

I knew when I had my daughter that she would be my one and only child. I loved being pregnant and adore being a mother. She brings such joy into my life. I get asked all the time whether or not I'm going to have anymore and my response its always a polite but firm no.

Queen - posted on 12/15/2009

Wow! These are awesome answers and statements about having an only child! I love my little princess who is now 12 years old. I've always just wanted to have one child because I am the oldest of 5 and I'm the only girl! All though I was raised with one of my four brothers I always wanted a sister! But my mom couldn't have anymore children after my brother. (My other brothers are from my ex-step-mother). I just got the statement during Thanksgiving..."It's not too late for another son or daughter for you!" I told them this factory is closed!" LOL! I'm a single mother and it's not easy financially. The last thing I want to do at 41 is have another child. But if I was to get married and really was loving on my husband....then PERHAPS! LOL! But I'm really loving being a single mom with one child! AMEN!

Ilene - posted on 12/12/2009

I guess everyone just figured I'd only have one. I'm now 42 and my son just turned six. He has asked why he doesn't have any siblings and we just tell him that we wanted him, had him and don't feel it necessary to have another child. He's now asking for a dog which we have agreed to look into after the holidays...

Michele - posted on 12/11/2009

Sometimes when I get frustrated with this question I tell them that I got perfection the first time, so I don't need to keep trying :)

Heidi - posted on 12/07/2009

Quoting Lyndsay:

I am only 21 and I want to get my tubes tied. I had my son at 18 and I love him to death, but it turns out that I'm not really as maternal as I thought I was and I still like to have my own identity outside of just being a mom. I really really love being a mother, because I have someone to share my life with, but I am quite happy with just him. I'm going through college now and I'm going to be starting my career, I don't want to have to postpone it all over again to squeeze in some more kids. Unfortunately nobody seems to understand this, including my doctor who is urging me to continue birth control "just in case" I change my mind.

I know how you feel. I am 28 and when I say I want my tubes tied I am also told that I am too young!! My doctor donsn't even want to tie my firends tubes and she just had her second child! 

I'm going back to college and getting ready to start my career as soon as my daughter goes to school, I also don't wanna postpone my life to have more kids. I am so happy with my one beautiful little girl, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Good luck to ya!

Lyndsay - posted on 12/04/2009

I am only 21 and I want to get my tubes tied. I had my son at 18 and I love him to death, but it turns out that I'm not really as maternal as I thought I was and I still like to have my own identity outside of just being a mom. I really really love being a mother, because I have someone to share my life with, but I am quite happy with just him. I'm going through college now and I'm going to be starting my career, I don't want to have to postpone it all over again to squeeze in some more kids. Unfortunately nobody seems to understand this, including my doctor who is urging me to continue birth control "just in case" I change my mind.

Christella - posted on 11/30/2009

it's your choice weather or not you want more children, they don't pay your bills and they don't live with you either. i have one child myself and people ask me if i want anymore and i tell them i'm not sure if i want more, it's my choice.

Valerie - posted on 11/29/2009

i have this question put to me all the time too, i had my son when i was 37 he is now 5 years old and i love him so very very much. I am happy with just him. I dont make that question bother me at all.

Tammy - posted on 11/24/2009

Thanks for all the comments. Happy Thanksgiving to you all.

Mom of Jade; my one and only Blessing that I am so happy and thankful for each day.

Karen - posted on 11/11/2009

My only daughter is now 14 and the questions have finally stopped but it can be irritating. I had medical reasons for not having a second child but in spite of that I never felt it was someone else's business. When I got those comments I would just say "Ya maybe your right." How can they respond you have agreed with them. I does tend to end the subject because you aren't causing opposition.

Amy - posted on 11/10/2009

I don't think you can ever stop that question. I was barely out of the delivery room with my little one and everyone started asking me if I was having another one. I just say, no, I'm happy with the one I have. The question itself doesn't bother me as much as when I get that knowing smile and they say "oh you'll change your mind". Grrr.

Tammy - posted on 11/10/2009

Thank you, I will have to try that line next time.

Jennifer - posted on 11/09/2009

Good luck! I am 'at that age' as well and not having anymore. Everyone keeps telling me I am not too old. I just say that I am thoroughly enjoying my son and like it that way. It usually shuts them up quickly. :)