How do I get my 1 year old to sleep in her own bed?

Rachelle - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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She has been sleeping in her bed off and on, but lately she just sleeps with my hubby and I. When I do put her to sleep in her room she wakes up within two or three hours screaming. I just don't know what to do, I kind of want my bed back but I don't want her to be scared of being alone in her room.

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Lauren - posted on 03/18/2010

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I thiks thats best huni its got to be when you are ready otherwise nothin will work. Good luck with everything x

Rachelle - posted on 03/17/2010

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Thanks for all of your advice. I think I will do a little research and when I am personally ready I think it will be for the better.

Lauren - posted on 03/16/2010

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Thismust be awful and you feel she will be scared but there is nothing to frighten her so it isnt that she is scared its that it is much nicer to be cussled up with you two than on her own - but that doesnt mean its riht. She will get a much better sleep if she sleeps alone. Studies have shown kids need 10 hours sleep when at school to help them get the best from their education.

If you are not sure about wanting your bed back or not then you wont get her into her own bed hun because when the gowing gets tough you will give in (and i mean this with the greatest respect). When you decide you really really want her in her own bed then there are ways but you have got to be strong.

Take your daughter to bed, if she gets out of bed you take her back to bed, give her a kiss and cuddle say goodnight and leave her. The 2nd time she gets out of bed just take her back to bed and say 'bedtime darling night night''. The 3rd time take her back and just say ''bedtime''. Then every other time she gets out of bed dont speak to her at all just take her back to bed and leave the room. You may be doing this ALL night for the first night and in the worst cases this may go on for a few nights but stick with it as in the end you will all get better sleep. If your daughter screams and shouts and cries in her room then you have to just let her, as long as she is in her room - you only intervene if she leaves her room.

If you are worried about her being scared then you could take her shopping for a night light - that way she has chosen one that comforts her. If you stick with this i promise it works - it will be very stressfull and you WILL want to give up but it will pay off if you are consistant. Just keep reminding yourself she is crying cos she wants in your bed and cos things are changing - it is her way of trying to get controll she is not in pain, you are not mentaly scaring her for life and its for her own good.

Good luck hunny and stay strong x

Meghan - posted on 03/15/2010

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I did and still do the cry it out method. My son hadn't even been in a crib until 10 months old and it was probably one of the hardest things I have had to do so far! Google it because there are right ways and wrong ways to do it. He is probably going through seperation anxiety. I know how you feel about wanting her back in your bed because I am a single mom and it is nice to cuddle and I think every now and then is ok but all three of you need some good sleep. Good luck

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