How do I keep my very active child from getting so bored every 5 minutes?
Amanda - posted on 02/06/2010
it depends on what you mean by active. There is a difference between entertaining a child and providing an enviroment that has a range of different things available to them. Entertaining can be time consuming and expensive. Every few months I have gone through my child's toys and pulled out anything she no longer plays with and added new things. A the moment her favourite things are a writing book (NZ$$ 1) and a pen and her play pram. I try to spend time with her just the two of us, whether it be jumping our bed or throwing a ball, this doesnt always happen as i would like as I work as well, one thing i will always remenber is after telling my mother "I'm Bored" was her reply "Great, while you're bored go and read a book or go on the swing"
Sharna - posted on 02/06/2010
hi, i wanted to just comment on what you said about maybe thinking of having another child, with such a big age gap. My daughter has just turned 9, & me & my husband have had the same thoughts, is that too much of a big age gap? However, i have some friends that have children with a big age gap and it hasn't been a problem, the older child likes too help etc. Its a hard one!!!!
Jessica - posted on 01/28/2010
Duct tape him to the wall in his (?) room. Just kidding, that is hard esp. because to be sucessful in school your kiddo is going to have to learn to slow down and pay attention. Find your child's interests that do not re-enforce the short attention span (tv and video games do that because it changes something like every three seconds). Try to feed the other interests. Otherwise, it is ok if they get bored because they have to learn how to manage that. I would be willing to be that when you are at work you are not 100% engaged 100% of the time. However, you have learned to manage those feelings of boredom for yourself. Don't let him be a "pest" about it though. Cue him to go find something to do and make sure that he has positive things to entertain himself with. Remember when your parents would look at you and say go play outside, same thing. By solving this problem for him he's not going to learn to do it for himself. (sorry all children are boys unless otherwise noted because mine is.) hope that helps.
I think this is the biggest difference between us mums of one and mums of more than one. I had my daughter at the same time as a few of my friends had their first, most have gone on to have one more. The biggest difference between the first and second is their first children aren't good at playing on their own, their siblings play happily on their own, I suppose because they had no choice. I would suggest getting them to play on a game where they're using their imaginations on their own.... we don't need to feel like we have to entertain them all the time.... its the one thing I think I'd do differently.
Jessica - posted on 01/26/2010
less distractions, but more activities available at his/her reach. i have a small apartment, and its messy, but my adhd son knows where things are. his attention span has gotten better with the LEAPSTER. i never thought he'd be into it,but it kept my neverending child still for an hour one day. that hour in itself made the leapster paid for. im lucky if he stays still or focused between leaving the front door and sitting in his car seat.
Shanita - posted on 01/22/2010
I always thought it amazing that we would give our daughter everything she asked for. She has the nintendo wii, a play station2, a psp, a cell phone, lots of books, stereo system in her room, computer, t.v., her cousins are always over at the house; my husband and I play with her, read to her, watch t.v with her and yet still she seems so lonely. It's as tho she needs that constant companionship. She is 9 and her teacher says she is always wanting to talk or play or do something. she is a great student but distracts the other studnets when she is done. I wonder if I should consider having another child seeing that she is 9. It' a big gap in between.
Yarin - posted on 01/21/2010
I struggle with this one myself! I agree with Keisha! The problem is that they are so lonely and we're so busy sometimes, or we just need some "me" time to regroup. Figure out away to make him or her feel included. It depends on the age of your child as well for me to give you suggestions. My son has always been extremely active. Since he was 2 months old, he's wanted to be constantly doing something active. If your cooking though, have him or her help you get ingredients or if there's a box (like pasta), give it to him or her to open, let them mix things. If your cleaning, give him a job to do. If you're busy make him or her busy.
Keisha - posted on 01/20/2010
Lots of one on one time by reading together,movies,drawing, or painting. It wasn't hard for me because my daughters attention span was excellent. It's not so much as them being bored it's just that being the only child is lonely! Set up play dates with other kids around the same age group it also helps!
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