How do you get a 5 yr old to WANT to do something?

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If any can please help me I would be forever greatful! I know my son can draw and color and write some of letters, but he never wants to, so he does a poor job with it, does everything he can to get out of it, and just will not focus! Any tips? I am at my wits end!

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Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2009

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You have to "think" like a boy - what boy likes to play school??!? Turn learning into a game where he has to compete to win - then you'll spark his interest. Boys (unlike girls) don't do things just for the "love of doing them" - they aren't interested in the "process" - they want a clear start, middle and end. And the END should usually involve WINNING or LOSING. Also fine motor stuff (like writing) just isn't fun - nor is the sitting quietly in order to complete the task...

Don't obsess over what you may think are poor attempts... it doesn't make him any less intelligent or capable - besides when was the last time you were able to read a prescription - written by a doctor?? Have you seen how bad their writing is?? :)

Just my two cents...

Heather - posted on 10/16/2009

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Also wanted to say that I am trying a new game with my son he seems to like ..I take a piece of printer paper and I write a bunch of diffrent upper and lower case letters on them and say I am teaching him the letter A well I make sure to put in lots of upper A and lower a case A's and then I give him a flash card with that letter on it (i bought the litte einstein ones from the Dollar store for a buck cause they have the upper and lower case letter on them) anyway I give him the paper with all the letters i wrote and the flash card with the letter I want him to find and a birght green highlighter and have him highlight the letter on the paper that is the same as on the flash card and to say the letter everytime he highlights it and he seems to really think this is fun...

Heather - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have the same problem with my son so I started a game where I am teaching so many letters at a time like I get some blank papers and write M on each on and then stick it on things in my house that start with M , I also do this with a couple other letters like 3 or 4 letters at a time and then I have him go through the house and find all the M's then when he does that all the A's or whatever you choose. I am hoping this will help.

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When you are out and about, have him pick out activity books at grocery store or at Barnes and Noble. If you can, scout things out and then you may be able to influence manage a bit. This is a great thing to do before a trip. Good Luck!

Deborah - posted on 10/09/2009

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I completely agree; when you turn it into a game, he will get interested. Another thing that worked for my daughter was to tell her I needed her help with some words, etc. That worked like a charm because she got to show off for me and "teach" Mommy.

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we have absolutely no problem with him reading, and reading at bedtime, he loves to do that! I will definately try turning it into some kind of game. Thanks for the tips!

Alissa - posted on 10/04/2009

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I definitely agree with reading every night, reading to your child is a crucial part of their learning. Also, the suggestion to make it into a game is dead on. It sounds like your son is feeling like it's a chore and no fun. If he's motivated well by external rewards, go to the dollar store and create a "treasure box" full of fun little toys, when he finishes his work he can get a prize. Also remember to praise him A LOT! Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 10/03/2009

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I always loved playing teacher. I would start writing something on paper or use magnetic letters on the fridge. I'd say letters can talk and make the sounds. It was a game. I'd act so smart. I wuldn't force to play. I'd just do it over and over everyday untill they wanted to play and if they didn't... I'd just play alione. Then children get interested because they want to play and out smart you!

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