I'm new here too, looking for friends and support

April - posted on 04/20/2009

I have one daughter and am in my second marriage. For years I wanted another child or two but I became a single mom instead. Now that I've met the love of my life we seem to be unable to conceive so I understand your frustrations. I too see all my family popping out kid after kid and yea it hurts and I feel tremendous guilt for having an only child but I have learned to be thankful for the one that I do have. My daughter is 16 now and giving me a run for my money so I don't think that I would have energy to handle any more right now!lol

Debbie - posted on 04/13/2009

hi!! i have a 3 year old daughter who will be 4 in july. shes the best thing ever!! i got my tubes tied to make sure i cant. my husband and i always wanted one child. i try to have kaitlyn spend alot of time with my neice and cousin. i think its up to you to decide whats right for you and your family. good luck!!

Laura - posted on 04/12/2009

Thanks everyone....it really helps me to hear you support!

Loretta - posted on 04/10/2009

hi laura i no how u feel i would love another child but its not right at the moment me and my partner dont earn that much and only live in a 2 bedroom house so if i got pregnant and had a girl dont no what we would do as we cant afford to move.i just keep telling myself that im lucky in the first place to have my beautifull son as many people are not as fortunate , ive a freind who has lost 4 babies and i dont no how she copes just look at your child tonight and think there is a woman out there who would love to read a child a bed time story,we a truly the lucky ones.x

Laura - posted on 04/09/2009

Hi Laura, I know how you feel but in my case I had to have a complete hysto after my son was born. This broke my heart. I would have loved to have more. My husband said I need to be happy with the one we have. He just doesn't understand how I feel. I have become ok with it now but it took me a while. It's hard to see y friends with 2 an 3 kids and my son I feel is not getting what he could. I feel he is lonely sometimes so I go oveboard, I am sure, with giving him my attention.

Mieke - posted on 04/09/2009

Hi Laura! I know how you feel--and my only daughter is 13! I am finally accepting the face that I won't have another and am okay with it. The older they get the more expensive they get! And the attitude, that's a whole other story. Hopefully you can keep communicating with your husband and will be able to figure out what is best for both of you. It's never really the right time. Hang in there! :)

Rabecca - posted on 04/08/2009

i feel the same way I was 25 single and very much alone when i has my now 8 year old but things are different now i have a great man who really loves my son as his very own the are maybe closer than some bio parent -kids they hunt fish play bakstball together most of my friends and family got married pretty young and had kids soon after it was hard to waltch them with thier families and thier husband ther for them when i had no one and even though i am in a great place relationship wise i still long for that experience with someone and he has shown to be such a great dad i m not sure why he does not understand why i feel like i need more that i am not happy with what we have i am just have this need that i am not sure that i will get past