Im going nuts help!!!!!!!!!!

Shelly - posted on 01/12/2010

Where is she getting the behavior from? Perhaps she is imitating a relative's behavior or friend's behavior. Be consistent and firm and do it with love, its possible. You tell her she is such a great kid and you are dsappointed in her behavior express that you are shocked, she is just 4 . Tell her in their language you are not feeling her behavior. Her punishment could be that she is placed in a corner or acing the wall NOT time out. Make her sit there after explaining to her the reason for her punishment. Eventually she will figure it out. If she is smart enough to make the remarks you listed, she is smart enough to figure out how to display a negative reaction to get response and attention, she will soon know how to get positive response from all of you. That doll she threw should be taken from her, explaining that since she threw the doll she must not like the doll ( talk to her about how strong hate is and that its not good to "hate" anyone especially your parents). Give her examples of hate and how wrong it is, she has figured out that there is a negative connotation to hate.



Back to the doll throwing,take all her dolls and put them away. When she ask for them remind her of her behavior and tell her that everytime she throws something, anything, it will be taken away. Tell her that its not a good way to treat the dolls and that the dolls don't want to be treated that way when she is mad with her dad. Let her know its ok to be mad but she sounds angry and she sounds smart to be 4. She is basically rebelling for attention and you must nip that now or you will dread when she does become older like 13. I also noticed that you stated she yells? Has she witnessed yelling? When you are in a disagreement its best to have the child go to another room. Even if she can still hear at least she gets the notion that its not acceptable. Treating her like a solider for cleaning or gaining respect is not a bad deal however your mother would need to reinforce your disciplinary actions.

Moms....Grandma's...we love em but they also want a hero badge from grandkids so they to tend to bend the rules and it enrages me when my mother does that to me. My soloution that worked was that, I let my son know in front of grandma that she will also discipline him the same way or its boot camp when she leaves.

JOH'NETTA - posted on 01/11/2010

I NEED HELP WITH THIS ONE ALSO BECAUSE I HAVE A 6 YEAR OLD WHO DOES SOME OF THE SAME THINGS. WHEN SHE GETS MAD SHE WANTS TO THROW THINGS, BE SMART MOUTHED AND LAUGHS WHEN YOU TRY TO DISCIPLINE HER AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO EITHER. I DON'T KNOW IF IT IS A PHASE OR WHAT, BUT IT NEEDS TO STOP. ANY SUGGESTIONS??????

Julia - posted on 01/11/2010

Wow...that's a tough one. I am not going to even pretend to try to tell you I understand or try to make excuses for her. It sounds like there is a lot going on in your life and in her life and she is just flat acting out. With your main line of emotional and parental support about to leave again, my only advice would be to seek a professional. Not in the sense of you or your child are crazy or anything but in the sense that you need an ear that knows what you are going through, can observe your daughter and maybe find out what the key is. Hugs to you. I hope you find the support (real life support) you need and that others here will have other ideas to offer.