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mother of an only but not by choice

Samantha - posted on 04/25/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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well I have an 18 month old and I planed on when he turned 1 I was going to try and have another. well right after his first birthday me and his father split up because he never helped and said I had it easy just sitting at home on my butt all day taking care of our son but I also started having saver anxiety attacks and he didn't understand so we split up. But then I got with a guy I have known for 4 years and we are very happy together but the problem is I was just diagnosed with cervical cancer and had to have to parts of my cervix removed and they told me if I didnt have kids within 2 years my cervix wouldn't be strong enough to carry a baby more then 3 months and my boyfriend is in collage he is 26 soon to be 27 but he doesn't want a kid yet and wants to wait till he finishes school and that wont be for 2 more years so I will not be able to have kids after that and it sucks I dont know what to do I wish I could have another one I'm hoping they are wrong cause I have a friend that they said the same thing to and 4 years later she had a healthy baby girl. I'm hoping I will be able to have a kid one day.

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Luciana - posted on 05/19/2009

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I'm sorry to hear about your diagnoses...I wish you well. As far as your current situation, if you are a woman of faith all I'm going to say to you is pray about. If its in God's will for you to have another child....it will happen. I will keep you in my prayers.

Wendy - posted on 05/19/2009

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Hi, I had 1/3 of my cervix removed when I was 23. I gave birth at 29. They told me I could never have children, that it was not smart and I would never carry past the first trimester. I spent a lot of time on my back and a lot more time in the doctor's office getting ultrasounds to make sure everything was all right. If it is right for you it will be right for you, don't let science and medicine dictate your life. They said I couldn't even get pregnant. You see my daughter in my wall photo! Take your life one day at a time and get through what you need to do now, and with your little one now, and if the time is right in the future it might happen for you, and it could. Don't give up the faith that it won't.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

Nadine - posted on 05/03/2009

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Hi Samantha, I am sorry to hear about all your difficulty. I have an only child also a boy but if it was up to me I would of had more, my soon to be ex is sterile and it took me 10 years to convince him to have a child by artificial insemination, I was pregnant at 35 so now I am in my 40's and do not see myself having a child in my 40's. Beaware that there are many other ways to have other children you can look into adoption or suragacy. I wish you luck in the decisions you make and hope everything works out for you.

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