Laurie - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )
I am always on the fence about having another but now that my daughter is almost 4 I feel that I do not want to start over and go through those tough infant and toddler stages again (and childbirth!) I finally am pain free from childbirth, just recently. We did try for another when she was 2 but then had to stop trying because my husband, who is in the military, was leaving again. Many, many days I think THANK GOD I DONT HAVE 2!!! Also, i think I am pretty scarred from childbirth and from raising her by myself with no help. My husband was always away. He recently had a spinal fusion from a injury, a stomach tumor removed, and a diagnosis of diabetes, I always joke and say "I already have 2!!". I feel that when he is out of the military I will just want to spend time with the 3 of us and finally enjoy each other. On the other hand, I feel that the second one will not be so bad because dad will be around way more and we will be home with our family and friends. My little girl would be a great big sister....AHH there is always a debate going through my head!!! I do have to get through nursing school first...so by the time we are ready my daughter would be 5 or 6 and off to school! On the other hand, I am a big fan of that age range! I like being a younger mom and did not really want to have a baby in my 30's. Would love input, advice, and stories!!