should i be so worried that my daughter only wants me most of the time and not her daddy?

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Debbie - posted on 11/04/2009

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my daughter went thru this same stage but it was because I spent most of the time with her for her dad has to work so see only seen him 2-3 days out of the week. I was her steady person in her life. Now that she has gotten older she understands that when daddy leaves he will be back in 2 days not never comng back. Hope this helps. Mother of 1 age 3

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Heather - posted on 09/10/2012

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my 4 year old goes through stages. It does seem to have died down a bit lately but I remember when he would go days at a time and only want daddy. At first I felt a bit sad, or left out.... but I soon began to appreciate the time they were having together. They were bonding, which was amazing!!! I love it so much to see them playing... and I was getting some much needed me time! Then I was his favorite again for a while and the roles were reversed. He's pretty close to both of us now but I definitely do think it's all a stage. So, no, you shouldn't be worried but if you want her to spend more time with daddy maybe you could slowly integrate some just daddy and daughter time.

Amy - posted on 09/01/2012

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Are you correcting her behavior when she tells Daddy to "go away" or saying "My mommy"? She needs to learn that she has to respect him as her father and your husband. Don't just thrust her to him though. You will have to wean her dependency on you. Start doing activities together as a family and as she starts enjoying her time with Daddy, slowly fade away. Even during the first family activity. Also, make sure you have open communication with your husband about it. Both of you need to be active listeners and talkers otherwise it could cause issues in your marriage.

Amy - posted on 08/28/2012

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My daughter is 4 and for the past two years has only wanted me. Its very hard because she will throw a fit if I leaver her with her dad . He is a great father and loves her very much. We have a great relationship, but it feels like there is a strain because she doesn't want to go do fun activities with him without me. Its almost like a jealousy issue with her, she gets mad if he so much as sits by me. I don't understand it. She tells him "my mommy " and things like "go away". I pray this is a faze but I am concerned about why she has such separation issues it's not like I leave her all the time. We spend tons of time together. If any one has ideas about fixing this please give me advice.

Vandy - posted on 11/12/2009

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Are you a stay at home mom? I was and my daughter only wanted me for a year. I couldn't even go to the store without her wanting me. When your around your child so much you are there safe zone.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2009

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I don't think you should worry too much about it. My daughter is a little over 2yrs old, I'm a stay at home mommy and my hubby is working all of the time, he doesn't get to spend a lot of quality time with her. However, when he is home, I let him feed her and change her and have quality play time with her. If she gets hurt, she usually comes to me and calms down easier with me, which I think is a comfort thing because I'm always there. If it's worrisome to you both, encourage them to spend as much time together as they can.....go to the store & leave them together for awhile, have him take her for a wagon ride or to the park for some play time. I think it will pass as she grows, daughters tend to be closer to thier moms anyway I think. I love my dad, but I always went to my mom....I miss that and I miss her. Good luck!

Carly - posted on 11/09/2009

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i was my daughters fave person at first because i was the only one who was with her 24 7 but now i live back with my parents and babys dad is out of the picture her bampi (my dad) is her fave person because he lets her get away with everythhing. you shouldnt b worried about it. i loved every moment of it and i miss it now lol

Welch - posted on 11/09/2009

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nothing to worry about all kids have a favourite person i was and still am my daughters just not to the same extent. thank god was very tiring. my partner found it very hard but she does alot with her dad, i dont have to be there all the time now. so dont be worrying there is nothing u can do it,ll pass

Arletta - posted on 11/06/2009

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No sometimes they need their mothers more than their dad's. I think you find as she get's older she will get closer to her dad. I was not very close to my dad until I was in my 30's. It just takes some of use a little longer to come around..

Arletta Enyart

Chick - posted on 11/05/2009

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How old is she? Mine is 5 and is constantly changing who his favourite person is.. ultimately it has always been me :) but secondarily he switches from grandpa being king to grandma being queen...

I think things are different between same gender parent/child relationships though, so enjoy it while it lasts, ie) eventually my Dad became and still is my favourite parent :)

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Laura - posted on 11/04/2009

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It's common for young children to want the person who cares for them most of the time, which tends to be mom. But you should still give her time alone with daddy to develop their bond. She will go to him more as she gets older.

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2009

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mine was like that to for along time beacuz her dad works a lot but it is getin a little bit better and she is fixin to be 4 so it happend and her dad has always lived with her

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