Mid30's Mom - posted on 01/27/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )
Hello - your feedback would be welcome.
I am 37 with a 5 month old and married to a wonderful man who is 42. We were very lucky to have our son as I was told that I would have difficulties - turns out I didn't. I adore my son. Now we are contemplating a second but have so many fears/doubts. My husband went back to school in his early 30's so we still have alot of financial saving to catch up on for retirement. We bought a house with a big mortgage but we both make a good income and have no consumer debt. Our concerns are:
- being an older parent
- time for our marriage
- time for our own interests
We love the idea of a sibling but we worry that it may also add stress to our future goals. But then I think about our son not having a playmate and that saddens me. I also like the idea of having another kid. I am so confused especially because I feel an urgency with our ages. My hubby is already 42 and he would have to work longer to support another child. I know some women say to just go for it and not worry about age, but I think it is important to think about what is best for the kid(s).
Be honest, be blunt - I welcome it all!