What is the worst thing that anyone has ever said to you about being the mother of an only child?

Angie - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 175 moms have responded )

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"Hi-I'm Angie and I'm the mother of an only child." There-I said it. Sounds like I need a 12 step program or something. Although others seem to think I do-I don't! I'm very proud to be the mother of an only child and I'm glad to have other mothers of only children to talk to. I'm just curious to see if anyone has heard any comments as bad as the ones that have been thrown at me.



What is the worst thing that anyone has ever said to you about being the mother of an only child? Here are just a few things that people I know quite well have said to me:

"You are not a real mother until you have more than one child."

"Don't put all your eggs in one basket."

"Something could happen to your son..."

Of course I've also heard all of the classic lines about how my son needs to have a sibling, but the other 3 comments have absolutely shocked me! We just don't deserve this kind of abuse! The best line that I have ever heard is "the more educated you are, the less children you have." I'm sticking with that one!

Thanks for your support!

-Angie

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Rachael - posted on 06/06/2012

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Hi Angie, Once you have a child you are a real mother, pure and simple, you don't need to have more than one to prove it either. Ridiculous. It was actually a father of 3 who said that to me "you don't need to have more than one to prove you are a mother". We have had the same comments you have, I find it amazing that people feel they are at liberty to comment "you need to give him a little mate" was one that really annoyed me, but when I think about the children that person has raised I have a laugh to myself.
I love being a mother of one, yes it does have its challenges, but being a parent in general is challenging. My little guy who is 7 is funny, articulate has many friends and very independent.
Ignore these people, I reckon they are probably jealous !! :)

Bethany - posted on 01/19/2010

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I am the oldest of 5 children and I must say growing up was hard. We are close now, but not extremely and we fought for our parents attention constantly. We also had no money. i don't want my son to go through that even though i love my siblings dearly. My husband is one of four and doesn't talk to any of his siblings at all!!!!



I feel we are raising our son well and he has no problem making friends. i can't wait for him to start preschool next year.



A lot of my friends are only children and they are all EXTREMELY close to both their parents. I hope my son grows up to be the same way. I love not having to worry about being fair, spliting my attention, and money!!!! I am guilty of spoiling my son and its Great!



i have also heard the if something happens to your son comment. i can't believe anybody would say such a thing. Yeah i am going to have another child just in case something happens to my first one. What kind of crap is that!!!

McCall - posted on 01/18/2010

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I was told I was a selfish mom for not giving him a sibling. I think it would be selfish of me to have more when I know I can't handle more than one.

Michelle - posted on 05/09/2012

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Dear Angie,
I'm sorry people are acting like this to you. It is absolutely uncalled for. I'm not a mother of one child. I however have 6 of my own. So, I haven't had people say this to me. I'm not someone to judge someone else all because of you having 1 child. Some people can't have more than 1. My next door neighbor has only 1 for the way I understand she can't due to medical reasons.
When someone approaches you and says these things to you. My opinion...( I don't know what kind of person you are), you should tell them that it is none of their business of you having 1 child and you don't need to explain yourself to them and as for educated people only having 1 child is right down stupidity. There are many woman with education that has more than 1. It is your life to wether you want just 1, not anyone elses. Noone has the right to put you down. If it is the same person that is running their mouth to you...I'd tell them to go and stick their nose somewhere else and not in my business. Tell that person the go lay an egg or stick it where the sun don't shine.You're not living your life the way they think is fit. You are living your life the way you see fit and there is no shame on that whatsoever. If the same person won't leave you alone, tell them that you are going to get them up on harrassment charges if they don't back off.I don't care what subject it is, it's harrassment. If this is various people out of the blue, just walk away and ignore them. If they approach you again, tell them once again, That you don't have to explain yourself to noone and if they don't walk away, you will contact the law. I believe these people will back off if you stand up and tell them it's none of their business and they need to go about their own business that they have enough to do.
Don't worry about these idiotic people. If they don't like it, and you are related or friends, stay away from them...they are no good whatsoever. If they are related or friends, then they are no friends at all if they are hounding you and putting you down. If no relation or friends, walk away. That will make them mad and if you stand up to them, they will see that they can't just say what they please.Show them you aren't taking no crap I'd have to say. They'll back off. So good luck and the heck with these annoying, s.tupid people

Azza Jamila - posted on 04/19/2012

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I think it's always "You're so selfish because you only think of yourself."

My reason for not having another child because husband and I wasn't ready when our son came along. He was very unplanned, so why tried to catch up to the moment and waited for ourselves to get ready to have another baby.

Our son is 7 years old and he also wants for us to have a baby. He said that he can take care of himself now and he will even help me take care of the baby. Right now we're TTC.

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Corrie - posted on 01/31/2014

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I have been so devastated and hurt by the comment "you are not a real parent until you have more than one child." I had one child at a young age (21) and my husband and I decide to waited 5-6 years to have another. At that time we were plagued with low sperm count, ovarian cysts, and severe Endo. I had half of my ovaries removed and really came to grips with the fact that I may never have more child. We have been trying for #2 since I was 26 and I am now 32. It has been so hard on me. I am/was devastated. There is NO WAY to explain it to anyone who hasn't been through it. Even my husband doesn't understand the pain I feel. I beg of you, anyone who is reading this, never tell a woman those words. Don't belittle her life as a mother no matter the circumstances. If it makes you feel like a better mother it is for all the wrong reasons.

Sophia Marie - posted on 11/11/2012

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well who cares what other people think...... I feel that people have what they want......... more or less kids dont mean you are smart..... it mean you made a choice for youself. when a child is born even if you have 10 more no child can replace a child that die. so one works for you than you should stick with one.

Sinclairbrooks - posted on 07/16/2012

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I have never had anyone comment to me about having only one child. Perhaps it's because we were 40 when we had Jacob (we had been married for several years & yes, he was planned) and all of our friends and co-workers had known us for years, so there really wasn't anything to comment on.

Paula - posted on 05/26/2012

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Yep, the one about not being a real mother by having JUST one child I found is a common one in my world. Used to really bother me but not any more. Being single and a mum is tough enough so I'm not going to have more kids and make it hard on myself! My daughter is turning out to be a wonderful human being. Smart, kind, giving, beautiful! I'm able to give her the best of me. I think the only thing is that I am her world, so as a parent I let her know that I won't always be here, so I try hard not to do everything for her, she 11 now. I love her very much.

Gail - posted on 05/07/2012

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Let your daughter know that kids cost a lot and they are a lot of responsibility. You may want to make her feel very special that she is here since you had to have a hysterectomy, you could have had that hysterectomy before having her, so make her feel special that she was able to be in your life and how much you cherish her. She will have great friends in the future and sometimes they can be better than siblings. Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they will like you or want to hang out with you. Good luck and please don't feel bad about anything, there are a lot of children that are being born and no one cares about them.

Jenny - posted on 05/07/2012

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My mom hit me hard. I am the oldest of 3 children, and when I was a child, I resented her for having my siblings, and I resented them for being born, it was never regular sibling rivalry between me and my brother and sister, I literally hated them for being born. Anyways, before my daughter was 1, I had to have a complete hysterectomy, so I cannot physically have other children. She said to me "you know how you resented me for having your brother and sister, well Sera's going to resent you for not giving her sisters and brothers". Sera is now asking about siblings, and she has imaginary siblings now. I can't have children, and I don't know how to tell her that she has to talk to her dad about that without making him seem like a bad guy for not giving her siblings either as he and I are not together.

Liz - posted on 04/10/2012

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I desperately want more children but can't have them. In fact, it was a miracle that I could have even one, as I'd been told by doctors for 15 years that the likelihood of me conceiving even with IVF was around 5% (0% without IVF) , and the likelihood of me having a successful pregnancy was about 3%. Everybody was surprised when I got pregnant without even trying or planning for it - naturally with that prognosis and history, I wasn't bothering to take contraception.



I was a huge bundle of emotional trauma when I thought I couldn't have any kids. When I first heard that it would be dangerous for me to attempt a second pregnancy as well as extremely unlikely for it to happen in the first place, I went through some sense of bereavement all over again, though having one relatively healthy and very happy little miracle daughter is more than a simple consolation.



If people ever question me about having more kids it is still, however, rather a fresh 'wound', especially as I know that my husband really wants a bigger family. I'm afraid I have now frequently told people something along the lines of, "Well, you should be aware that there are many women in the world who desperately want a child but can't have one for medical reasons, so that is quite a personal and potentially insensitive question that you are asking." That usually does the trick.

Rebekah - posted on 04/05/2012

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I want to say that no one has ever said anything to me about only having 1 child, unless it's to ask if we want to have another child. I am a Type 1 Diabetic (since 6 years of age). I always thought I would have a coule of kids, but I didn't get married until I was almost 30. When you have diabetes, you are supposed to plan to get pregnant, therefore making sure you are healthy. I was beginning that process when I got pregnant. I like to say that God planned our son. MInd you, our son was ALWAYS wanted! Being pregnant was very difficult for me, being tired ALL the time, and fluctuations with my blood sugars. We found out at 5 months gestation that our son would be born with Spina Bifida. I also ended up having preeclampsia and having to be hospitalized about 1 month before delivery. My son is a wonderful little man! He loves life, is friendly, extremely outgoing, helpful, considerate of others, polite, and the list could go on. Not to mention, he is a VERY active child. Considering he doesn't have proper use of his legs sure doesn't dampen his motivation or spirit at all :). Even if it was not recommended for me not to be pregnant again, I would not want to be. I struggle alot with my diabetes and do not have energy for more than 1 child. Maybe the reason no one has ever said anything rude to me about having only 1 child, is because he is always with me and people can see for themselves how happy, sociable, and well adjusted he is (I have stayed at home with him since he was born). There is no lack of interaction with other children and people in general. I make sure of that since he is so sociable. (also since we school him at home on the internet). God allowed me 2 of my greatest desires in life;to be married and to be a mother. For that I am truly thankful!

Rebekah - posted on 04/05/2012

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The worst thing that could happen to a child is to be aborted and never given the chance at life. Pure and simple.

Stephanie - posted on 04/05/2012

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Wow I am sorry people have said those mean things to you. I never really got mean comments just that I would change my mind. Dh had a vasectomy so we are obviously not changing our mind!

Amber - posted on 03/23/2012

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I just tell them that I managed to achieve perfection the first time around!!! Shuts them right up!!!!! Sorry to sound rude, I'm really a nice country girl but I get sooo sick of people's ignorant comments. Just think, these people are not going to be there when you're buying diapers, washing bottles and helping your first grader with his homework, all while juggling on little to no sleep and doing mounds of laundry. Hold your head high and be the proud mommy of a ONE AND ONLY!!!!!

Shavonne - posted on 03/07/2012

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When my son (6) who's a ball of energy becomes active my family says "he's bad it's time for another one" or " he's weird he needs a sister or brother". But my family is also use to little girls so they don't really understand how boys are. I just say "Oh well" and keep it moving.

Wendy - posted on 03/07/2012

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I have had people imply that having an only child must be so easy...yeah, except that he has no one else to play with or talk to and I am it for him most of the time and sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind....but other than that, it's a piece of cake...yeah.

Christy - posted on 09/26/2011

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Thanks mayka! I keep reading all these posts and I'm feeling so much better! U guys rock!:) forgot to mention my daughter has sensory processing disorder....medical issues....developmental issues....I read once somewhere that said these children were meant to b "only" children. It's true. The amount of time money resources therapies appointments energy.....there's no way my daughter would b as fully functional and healthy if she were not an only child. I can't wAit to see who she becomes:)

Mayka - posted on 09/26/2011

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I know how you feel. It's terrible that your mother made you feel that way. It's difficult, but don't think about it, it's not impossible, just do what's best for your child. It's what counts!! big hug for you!!

Christy - posted on 09/26/2011

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Angie me toooo! I'm an only as well and have a 5 year old daughter. I didn't want that for my child but life happens u know?? I'm tired of all the judgements and questions and the astonished looks....it's hard enough that for reasons I won't go into here that we are where we r....but to add people's opinions...it's really horrible. But I know....should I have another kid so that I "fit in?!" I don't think so. Lol.
So happy I found this blog!!!! Even tho I feel it most of the time, I'm not Alone!!! :)
Also I'm a stay at home mom which is even harder bc it feels like u aren't doing "enough" with ur time. U r lazy. People are like, "u don't work?!" what do u do? Let's see, it's even harder w one child bc u r their playmate! And I do everything they do! Just makes u question ur purpose.
I was an only and my mom told me I wasn't enough to make her life meaningful. She went back to school and was absent most of my childhood.
I feel like I'm going that route as well in my brain but in my heart I want my daughter to b enough. Feel enough. Special enough for me to pour my life into her. Just her. Why isn't she special enough to have all of me? I wish my mom had seen me as enough.
Thank u for letting me vent!:) hang in there everyone!

Natalie - posted on 04/17/2010

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as a mother of an only child i feel that we can give some extra attention to our kids. when my girl just turned 3, she was taken to a speech pathologist because of a lisp. the speech path was so impressed with her language. she uses words that 5yo or a 6yo would use. she could count to 10 before most of her peers and she also knew her alphabet early too.

i know someone who had 2 children and her eldest used to speak for the youngest. the young one was way behind in his language because everyone spoke for him. he was barely able to talk and he didn't have any disability, he was just lazy. i have other friends with 2 or more kids and these kids seem to have a personality deficit. they are clingy and seem to compete all the time. you call the mother on the phone and half the conversation is them yelling at the kids to go away. my daughter is happy, self sufficient, self amused!!, she can have a decent conversation and can also be demanding but atleast she has a personality and when time comes for school and kindy i wont have to worry about her not enjoying herself because i wont have to have er surgically removed from my leg everytime i leave the room.

Carrie - posted on 04/17/2010

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I have heard a few comments like "only children won't be socialized enough." I have also heard good comments to about having an old child too though like "some of them grow up to be the nicest people." I myself was an only child and now so is my daughter. I like the comment about "the more educated you are, the less children you have." I have heard that somewhere before and I like it. Everyone has the right to have 1 or 10 kids if they want imo., but we are happy with just 1 child. :-)

Jessica - posted on 03/12/2010

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So true. My son was exactly the same way. To contain my son I would've had to sedate him, which I will never do. Perhaps if my first child had been less active, it would've been a possibility to have more, but I know my limitations and two would just be two too many and unfair to everyone.

Julie - posted on 03/12/2010

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I'm going to start asking these people what their first child is like. I'll bet 9 times out of 10, the first one is a perfect angel. My son is not. He's very smart, but has so much energy. I used to take him to the mall with my Moms' group. We all have kids the same age. While theirs would be content sitting in their strollers, mine would be trying to encourage them to get out and run around with him. Other moms would give me the 'why can't you control your child?' look. I could have, if I sat on him the entire time. That's the only way kiddo was staying in his stroller. I always say that I could be a decent parent to one child or a terrible one to several. I would have never been able to take him out when he was a toddler if I had a baby to tend to as well. I would have lost one of them.

Jessica - posted on 03/12/2010

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I think the worst comment I have ever been the recipient of was: "Who will your son turn to when you die?" Seriously? I hope to have given him the skills he needs to cope with life's losses, and since he's an only child, I believe I will successfully accomplish just that. As well as an appreciation for what life has to offer - relationships, love, beauty, art, and travel. I am very happy with just one child, and blessed to be in a position to offer him a life rich with positive experiences. I can't imagine trading that for anything.

Abbey - posted on 03/11/2010

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Love that line! I have had some one tell me i should seek help from a psychologist b/c its just not normal to only want one, lol. too funny!

Lisa - posted on 03/11/2010

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In response to a comment someone said about her mother in law saying she should have a boy or the last name/family line will end with her husband... thats a load of crap. I am one of three girls (both my sisters are married and only have girl children) and I am the mother of a beautiful smart and independent thinking 16 yr old girl. If/When she gets married should she feel the need to continue the Spence family name she can request her husband to take her last name instead to the other way around. Don't listen to your M in L or believe it for one minute.If you want the family name to continue it is possible without having a son to carry it on. When your daughter gets married instead of her taking her husbands last name it is legally possible for HIM TO TAKE HERS. that way any children of that union will still bear your family name and it will not be lost. I cant believe the crap some people try to put on others...just enjoy your daughter and tell her and anyone else that comments to mind her own business.

Anne - posted on 03/11/2010

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I have also been told that it's easy for me because I only have one. They haven't met my daughter! I started out thinking that I would have more than one (I am an only child and am very close to my parents - sometimes we worry too much about eachother and perhaps sharing the responsibility with a sibling might be nice but I wouldn't swap my happy childhood for anything) but then I changed my views when my daughter came along. To say she is a handful is an understatement. She is one year old, doesn't sleep at night, runs about like a maniac trying her best to do herself and everyone else an injury. She is the most fantastic and exhausting thing in the world. I decided that it would not be fair to her to have another. I want to give my full attention to her. She is sure she is number one in our lives.

CAROLINE - posted on 03/10/2010

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Hi Angie,



I am also the mother of an only child as well. And yes people kept asking me when am I going to give my daughter another siblings so she has someone to play with. Not quite sure why I need to have another sibling for her to play with. She is quite happy and contended with being an only child. She does what she likes, when she likes and she has numerous friends that she interacts with at school. She is a very happy child. I am quite bless that I was able to have a child and for that I am very grateful. People might think that I am selfish (as mentioned by some of the other panelist) for having only one child.



My suggestion to you is - ignore all the remarks that are thrown at you. As long as you and your child is happy, that is all you need. Continue to show her all the love that she deserves and needs.

Kim - posted on 03/10/2010

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People do have alot of nerve to say the things that they say. Im new to this so please bare with me on postings =)

Joi - posted on 03/09/2010

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"maybe it will happen accidentally so then you can have another" seriously?!? did you even hear that in your head before you decided to spew it at me? thanks 'preciate that lil nugget of inspiration and mis-guided hope

Igna - posted on 03/07/2010

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Hi everyone. I am an only child, not by choice. And, also not by choice, am the mother of an only child. My mom told me the other day, when I was in primary school our preachers one girl came over for a play-date. Her mother made the comment to my mom that she can not understand how parents can decide to only have one child. So much inconsideration, coming from a preachers' wife! Never once giving thought to the fact that maybe it wasn't the parents who decided. I always dreamed of having at least 3kids, as I always wanted siblings. Now I have a beautiful almost 6years old daughter and I love her to bits. For almost 4years we tried for another one, and missed so much of her growing up, that we decided to call it a day. Overall I am ok but when it's Sunday and babies get baptized, I end up crying. The longing will always be there. Good luck to all parents of only kids. People can be so cruel. And to those who made the decision themselves to have only one. Good for you. We know what is good for our family, and no one else has any business meddling.

Amy - posted on 03/06/2010

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I am the mother of an only child, my darling daughter Shelby. I think one of the most hurtful comments was from my mother in law....you are letting the family name die because you only have a daughter. I thought to myself...I could continue to have children and NEVER get a son...so, my response..maybe YOU should have had another son!!

Mayka - posted on 03/06/2010

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I'm an only child, single mom of an only child. I think I'll be the best at raising an only child... but there is something... I've always felt some emptiness, the need of a sibling... that is something that will never go away...

The only thing I can say to you.. don't listen to what other people say, good or bad... if it's good advice, you won't learn from other's experiences, if it's a bad comment, don't let it get to you...

Always do your best for your child... that's all that matters...

User - posted on 03/06/2010

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wow, i get quite a bit of greif for not wanting to have a second child, but i have never heard the comment about 'what if your child dies'. i am actually quite disgusted by that comment.

Rose - posted on 03/06/2010

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Tell them you're thankful you were able to have a healthy child, when others are paying to adopt, or stressing themselves out going through fertility treatments. REALITY CHECK!

Rose - posted on 03/06/2010

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Tell them you're thankful you were able to have a healthy child, when others are paying to adopt, or stressing themselves out going through fertility treatments. REALITY CHECK!

Salli - posted on 03/06/2010

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Im completely amazed! I am a single mum of a 5 year old and I've never had any of these things said to me, not ever! Maybe im in some kind of bubble - although friends and family know that I would love more kids so that could be the reason. I see nothing wrong with having an only child or many (as long as you can afford to support and nurture them) each to their own and all that!

Kim - posted on 03/04/2010

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Hi. I think that the worst thing that someone said to me was "your just being selfish". I had to agree with that comment, I have health issues that prevent me from getting pregnant. I have had others but that is the one that sticks out the most. I love my daughter very much and she is truely a blessing in my and my husbands life. I should not have even had her with the problems that I have. I am very content with just having her, she is funny, loving, caring, and just overall sweet. Sweeter than those that have more than just one.

Michelle - posted on 03/02/2010

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Also, it's been show that people with higher intelligence (closely linked to education, of course), have fewer children! I am also PROUD to be the mom of my one-and-only. So we are smarter than those insulting us, ha ha ha on them!

LeAyshia - posted on 03/02/2010

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Wow...i havent quite recieved those but i have recieve comments such as what wrong are you not fertile or something or you know that makes your child a selfish person. i have learn to ignore te comments I figure the Lord only give you what he feels you can handle, and if it was meant it will be :)

Krystal - posted on 03/02/2010

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It is nice to see there are other people that believe that having 1 child is not an unforgivable sin! We waited 10 years to have Keaton, and I had my tubes tied after he was born. Usually I get the "*gasp* why would you do that?" comment but I guess I should look forward to the other comments as he gets older.

Amber - posted on 03/02/2010

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I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE THINK IT IS SOO WRONG TO HAVE ONLY ONE CHILD. IF ANYTHING HAVING AN ONLY CHILD IS THE BEST THING. THAT CHILD WILL NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOU NOT HAVING ENOUGH TIME FOR SOMETHING OR BEING TOO TIRED TO DO SOMETHING. I AM FURIOUS WITH THE COMMENTS YOU GUYS HAVE PUT ON HERE. I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW CRUEL PEOPLE ARE ABOUT THE DUNBEST THINGS. THEY SHOULD NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT US ONLY HAVEING ONE CHILD WHEN THERE ARE BIGGER THINGS IN THIS WORLD TO WORRY WBOUT!!!!! LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT ARE FAMILY. OBVIOUSLY IF YOU HAVE THE TIME TO TALK ABOUT HOW SMALL OUR FAMILY IS, YOU'RE OBVIOUSLY NEED TO PUT THAT TIME TWARD YOUR OWN FAMILY!!!!!!!





DON'T WORRY LADIES WE ARE DOING A WONDERFUL JOB WITH OUR ONLY CHILDREN, IF I MAY SAY SO MYSELF!!!!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK LADIES!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2010

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I have had many gems tossed at me about my CHOICE to only have one child. One of the worst was someone asking me "what, are you sterile now or something? Why else would you not want to have more?" Another one was "you dont really understand what motherhood is like then do you" or how about this one "your child must be such a spoiled bratt then huh?" That was by a woman who has 8 kids in her house and all with their ribs sticking out. Oh and by the way, each one of her kids has stayed back at least once as well. When she said that to me I just looked at her and then I said to her it was a good thing her kids didnt mind being neglected. I too find it true that the more educated you are, the less children you have. Priceless!

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2010

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I have had many gems tossed at me about my CHOICE to only have one child. One of the worst was someone asking me "what, are you sterile now or something? Why else would you not want to have more?" Another one was "you dont really understand what motherhood is like then do you" or how about this one "your child must be such a spoiled bratt then huh?" That was by a woman who has 8 kids in her house and all with their ribs sticking out. Oh and by the way, each one of her kids has stayed back at least once as well. When she said that to me I just looked at her and then I said to her it was a good thing her kids didnt mind being neglected. I too find it true that the more educated you are, the less children you have. Priceless!

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2010

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I have had many gems tossed at me about my CHOICE to only have one child. One of the worst was someone asking me "what, are you sterile now or something? Why else would you not want to have more?" Another one was "you dont really understand what motherhood is like then do you" or how about this one "your child must be such a spoiled bratt then huh?" That was by a woman who has 8 kids in her house and all with their ribs sticking out. Oh and by the way, each one of her kids has stayed back at least once as well. When she said that to me I just looked at her and then I said to her it was a good thing her kids didnt mind being neglected. I too find it true that the more educated you are, the less children you have. Priceless!

Julie - posted on 03/01/2010

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You just stay strong for your child. Don't let them bring you down, it's not worth it. Stay happy and healthy for your child.

Connie - posted on 03/01/2010

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I have been told that I put my daughter into open heart surgury for my own satisfaction when her father refused to sign the papers. My ex's say I have the disease where I purposily make my child sick for my satisfaction when I don't especially when I have raised the child on my own and have many doctor's information to back me up and also the fact that my daughter's father is in prison for sex offence

Marisa - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hey Angie - I'm the mum of an only child and won't be having another.



People think that I'm selfish and they look at me as if I'm demented for only wanting one child. My husband and I are older and couldn't do two! Most people don't say anything other than ask me if I'm going to have more and listen to my explanation. I don't know why I think I have to justify it and the look I get is just as bad as what people could say. I have had someone tell me he will be lonely without a sibling and only children are always spoiled and don't interact well socially. I'm a great mum and have a healthy, happy bub. I have a baby, I am a mother, a real mother!

Julie - posted on 02/25/2010

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My favorite one was, "the reason you only have one child is because your body isn't good enough to make another one for my son." How's that one. Beautiful....Right!

Veronica - posted on 02/25/2010

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Wow Angie I can't believe someone would actually say you're not a real mother til you have more than one child! Did you punch them?? LOL Ive had someone tell me who is a mother of 4 that 4 are better than 1! I can't think of anything else as bad as what you were told but I just don't know why people don't mind their own business...If you want and can afford more have at it but if not don't. There are so many people out there that can not even afford to pay for 1 but they have like 5. Thats irresponsible and unfair to the kids.

Rosemary - posted on 02/25/2010

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the worst thing someone said to me is that he is spoiled and he needs a brother or sister.

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