Stephanie - posted on 08/02/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
Well taht pretty much sums it really.... but yep i have one delightfull young man, after much persisteant persuasion of hubby. He was nto keen on kids but caved. Loves J to bits btua damant there is no more. ANd well there is definately no more now as he has had the snip. I did knwo he was getting it, and gave a hollow "approval" as i made a stand taht i was nto going to take responsiobility for no kids anymore.. and so that was the result. At first i was ok withit...well in a "everything is fine if you ask kind of fine" way... you know the one you dont really mean.
He had the snip.. a few complications later and we have the all clear that there are no more swimmers. To be honest i was/am gutted... and the finality of it is more dificult to comprehend than i really thought it woudl be. I am almost resentful of it. He did not want anymore because "We dont have time, etc" - he does nto have time or does nto make the time - i have no choice really - i am the mum and so i make the time. And a reply like " you have one you shoudl be happy with that , or there are heaps of only children out there - and they have not come to any harm" does not make the pill any easier to swallow.....
Teh fact is hubby and i both have siblings - he has one and i have 4 - and i would not trade having those for anything - J is not going to have the option to contemplate it.. and when he is older who will he caht to and fight with like we do as adults? the kid from down the street?
Dunno - i dont think i will ever be "over it" to be honest
SO then, how have you ladies that haev one, eyarn for more but there will be no more.. how do you deal with it ?