Lisa - posted on 06/27/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
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as i write this i am broken hearted. we have a 16 year old son that we adopted when he was 7. he has been in our lives since he was 1. i was his pedi nurse at the time he was placed in foster care. he was a failure to thrive{in this case ment mom didnt feed}wonderful foster home for 16 months then sent back home due to error where birth mom's rights where violated they forgot to give her a piece of paper and get her to sign.so i continued to do nursing he had a trach and other problems.so we would keep him over the weekend and such. then when he no longer qualified for nursing care then we would keep him for weeks at a time.anyway when he was 7 he was left alone and found wondering the streets. taken into cps custody again.mom didnt report him missing until 4 hours. we got he as a kin ship placement that means no 1 in her family could care for him.so now he's 16 he had agreesion problems is in a behavior school they are calling it post tramatic stress syndrome.he is small statured about 4feet 10 and weight about 165. 99% of the time he is the most kind loving passive child but that 1% is crazy he has to be restained.u don't know when it will happen or why' he does have big issues with food and sneaking it No he doesn't have prader willie.the other day i was watching my 3 month old granddaughter{we are extra careful he is never left in the room alone or allowed to touch her without us right there}the baby had pooped everywhere so i changed her and put her in the middle of king size bed she only had a diaper on he was in the room but about 3-4 feet from bed in the blink of a eye he had onto bed and stapped her flat on the back as hard as a adult would hit i was scared and picked up phone to call dad to get home i was yelling baby screaming and it was my son the baby dad not my husband. he and my husband got home at same time our son called police. the police theapist his teacher whom i called knew what to do. i am devistated that this happened but my son is saying we have to pick that our 16 is a danger to every1 he does hit us to.he is the only child left in our home.we are so upset we want the best for all.that night we call hospitals per ppl request but with his age and disability none could help. i feel so alone like im being force to choose.our middle son is coming home this week before he's being deployed in august and is angry that we are even concidering placement.he have done 5 years of plAY THERAPY he is very verbal but can't say whats the problem but how many 3 year old can.we don't know what the answer is. i feel that unless 2 adult around he cant be in room with baby but son saying if we dont place him long term we have choosen and will not see the baby anymore.
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