Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )
I have two wonderful boys who each have their own unique ways of looking at the world-
If you want labels, they have them. Harry who is six, is on the autistic spectrum, and Greg at age 4, has speech delays and depending to whom you speak, either ODD or ADHD. Anyway... they have some delays. They are my kids. They are characters and very charming to boot.
I am mostly venting here, but does anyone else get tired of getting the blame/shame/ what ever about kids who take longer to potty train? I have gotten such ( pardon the term) crap about my kids not being fully toilet trained by 3 years old that I have had it. My husbands family are so obcessed with this particular milestone! and the kicker is, while I am a registered nurse, my mother in law owns a childcare business and my sister- in law is a special needs teacher. They really really ought to know better.
It was bad enough with Harry, who literally overnight a few days after his 4th birthday just quit diapers. You would have thought the world ended because he took that long. But at this point I really am sick and tired of defending my child from his own relatives- people who really should have more compassion. In the past six months, my younger son has been insulted, yelled at, threatened to have no birthday party and called a baby. It has been so discouraging when he and his teachers and Intermediate unit support staff have been working so hard on his speech and other issues. I am aware it is a barrier to moving on to preschool, but why keep pushing it? I'm not less of a mom for not forcing my child do do something they don't want to or are not ready to do. Just like his brother, Greg is coming along fine and is nearly done with potty training- at his own pace and in his own way.
I just wanted to hear if anyone else gets upset at having to defend their child from not only strangers, but from the family. I'd be the first to say that my boys are not perfect. But what is the point of making them feel inferior? They are sweet and polite boys, for the most part and they are doing the best that they can. Any thoughts on how to deal with this issue?