Behavioral problems due to ADHD

Shanna - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 65 moms have responded )

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I have major trouble with my daughter and her behavior. I mean one minute she is good as gold and the next she is uncontrolable. she will scream and throw fits and the doctors says part of it is because of her ADHD but it makes lean toward her being bipolar, does anyone else have this type of problem and if so how do you make things better???

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Cheyenne-eve - posted on 07/22/2011

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I can not stress enough PLEASE try 1,2,3 Magic by Dr. Thomas Phelan. I started using it with my son when he was 3 and now at 12 if he is acting up all I have to do is say his name and hold 1 finger up and 95% of the time he stops. CONSISTENCY no matter what if you say it fallow threw with it. PICK YOUR BATTLES start with the behaviour that you want to deal with first. Don't try all of them at once. CONSEQUENCES the misbehaviour must one even the smallest behaviour. It's the only way to teach them. The consequences depend on you as the parent.TIME-OUT should only be 1 minute for each yr old the child is. For example for me, my son had to so time out in the corner because his toys where in his room. I also had to have him where I could see him to ensure he stayed in time out. Also time out didn't start until he was quiet. As he got older the time out changed but that wasn't until he was around 9. I would have to say that if you implemented all of these things and worked on your consequences your daughter will show improvement.
I have my own child who is severe ADHD and 20 yrs of exp. dealing with children with behaviour problems from downs syndrome, OCD, Anxiety,PTSD, ODD. If you would like to talk some more feel free to email me. Also remember it takes 21 days to form a habit so if you have a hard time ask a friend or family member to help you keep it up for the 21 days. Cause it'll get worse before it gets better. gaelicvampire@hotmail.com

Cookie - posted on 10/04/2011

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My daughter had been diagnosed with emotional disturbance, has speech and sight disability, and her behaviour was so outrageous, she sent 3 teachers to the hospital, ran away from school frequently. We moved to 5 diffrent area schools trying to find her fit, and we avoided prescription drugs at all cost. I do alot of research and I see a lot of kids misdiagnosed, and the school makes money off these children and their diagnosis, and your child may not be getting the educational benefit from it. So I began to go herbal and finally found what works for her, so I would like to share.
My daughter was born perfectl healthy, was talking at 14 months, walking and playing, she received a MMR shot at 16 months, proceeded to have a super high fever and swelling for 4 days, the doctor was not concerned. By the 5th day, she was not speaking, and her left eye muscle was so relaxed, she couldn't straighten her eye to look at someone directly. Of course, all doctors I spoke with said it was NOT the MMR, but I know better, hence the reason I do not believe in prescription meds, anymore. After years of imbalance and therapies, we have finally gotten her physically under control, time to work with the emotional..;)
I used Frequesea to cleanse her body of any and all metals, and these were put into her body thru shots, and is a disruption in the body and the brain. Then we started using GABA.
*GABA, an inhibitory neurotransmitter, is found throughout the central nervous system. GABA assumes an ever-enlarging role as a significant influence on ADD, ADHD, stress, anxiety, and depression, as well as stress-induced illnesses. According to Candace Pert, a neuroscientist who discovered the GABA receptor, every cell in the body has a GABA receptor, which is one reason why GABA has such positive effects. GABA inhibits the cells from firing, diminishing anxiety-related messages.*

We have had some awesome reports, and even better, she is no longer complaining of daily headaches or anxiety, which was a huge problem.

I suggest parents look outside the box for their children, not take a prescription that can and will alter their child for life.Here is some info: http://www.intelegen.com/nutrients/add.h...

Jnstewa8 - posted on 09/02/2011

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This sounds like my sons whole school life. We did not get the proper help until he was out of school. He will be 20 in 5 days. They said he was ADHD and Bi polar. None of the meds given to him for those problems ever worked. He is OCD and Paranoid schizophrenic. The OCD causes the outbursts of anger. The other cause different behaviors. He is also MR. Good luck. It took us a very long time to get him the proper help and the correct medicine. Now there is such a change in him. He still is very different. He has filled for SSI. Sadly for him, being around people is not and never has been easy for him.

Tenniel - posted on 03/25/2010

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Oh there is one other thing I forgot to mention! While medication has its advantages, the affects are not long lasting, and they can be detrimental to your childa health. Your child can form an immunity to the medication over time. I am only speaking from experience. I have wittnessed this with my own child, and with my students also. Medications can cause a variety of other problems. So please do your research before you allow a shrink or physician to prescribe your child medications.

There are also Holistic medicines that have no side effects. Like Blue-Green algea, Flax seed oil and there are a few more I cant call to mind at the moment. You can check with your local health food grocerer. Some of the pharmicutecal meds for ADHD can cause weight gain, thyroid issues, suicidal tendencies, lack od energy, more severe mood swings, vomitting, unexplained anger, I have even witnessed children becoming violent. Some of the meds can cause excessive agression in boys. I have painfully toiled with some of the decisions I have made as far as medicating my son, due to the after affects. I am now 32, a lot of the choices to medicate my child were because iwas young and couldnt afford to miss work, being that I am a single mother. If I had it to do again, I know what to and what not to do as far as my childs well being. research is so important. ART, MUSIC, MARTIAL ARTS and MENTORING REALLY HELPS A LOT!

Tenniel - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have a 12 year old that is sucessfully handling his behavioral disorders. The #1 thing t5o have is patience. I found that focusing on the positive things in my sons life could help him to focus on other things. He knew that there would be a reward if he did in fact apply himself. It didnt matter to me if he could only focus on whatever wa sat hand for a short amoutn of time, as long as he applied himself, he had accomplished a great deal.

You have to remember that people with ADHD see everything with and equal equivallance. Simply saying that when iut is time to sit down and focus on one thing, they cant, or may have a very difficult time because everything is of equal importance! They hear and see everything. So when it is time to focus it's near to impossible, especially for a small child. As they get older there are different things you can use to encourage your child to stay focused on the task at hand. Mrtial arts has helped a large numbe rof the children I have worked with. Art programs are also VERY VERY HELPFUL! A large number of people with ADHD are VERY Creative. Find out what form of art your child is good at and focus on it in down time. Use that as a tool to negate your childa behavior. Rewards work a lot better than punishments. Love is the key1 As long as your child knows they have your loving support they will be able to over come anything. You are the key to your childs success!

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Deanna - posted on 10/02/2011

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My son seems to have ADD and has behavioral problems in school. He had two problems in school last week. Sometimes he seems to have two different personalities. Sometimes it seems that he does not even hear me when I tell him to do something. I have think that medicating him would make things worse. I think that I need to take action to solve the problem. I need to show him extra love. I have read "The Five Love Languages of Children" and learned about APD which stands for Auditory Processing Disorder. Some children have problems processing the information that they physically hear, but the message may not make it to their brain. I think many children are misdiagnosed with ADHD - I just hope that people look at all the possibilities before trying the drugs for ADHD. Once a child is on the drugs, if it doesn't go well, or as they become adults, they may try to get off the drugs and that is like going through withdrawal. I think its great to try showing more love in different ways (hugs, praise, spending quality time together, play a game or something) and see what a difference that could make before trying medication. If medication is necessary, still try to be understanding, patient and spend more time with them. Good luck everyone - I know these children's behaviors can be difficult. :)

Sanja - posted on 10/02/2011

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My youngest son just turned 4 and he behaved very much like many of the children described here previously... By nature, he's a very sweet and cuddly boy (also very intelligent), but when he got mad, you'd better gotten yourself out of his way, or he'd kick you, hit you, throw something at you - just like that!

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Good luck! My heart goes out to all of you...

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My 6 year old son is the same way. One second he is sweet as pie and in the next beating on his younger brother. It also goes along with the hyperactivity too. One second he is calmly watching a movie and the next he is literally running around. I have just recently discovered a way to help him learn how to control his impulses. We have a tall glass jar that we place colored gems in when we see good behavior. We never punish with taking any away, only rewarding for the good behavior. When the jar is filled to the top he gets a new Nintendo DS game. If he starts, or looks like he is going to start, getting out of hand I just remind him that only good behavior will earn him stones. He does have a hard time controlling his impulses, but it is helping. It has taken about a month of serious consistency for it to work though. Consistency is the key! Good luck!

Blossom - posted on 09/28/2011

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@Helen Baker I used to use my hand to spank until I attended a course for Effective parenting in a defective world. Using the thing "hand" that is for nurturing and protecting them also to punish with is confusing for them. using for e.g a wooden spoon is differentiating between punishment and nurturing. I am not at all offended. We are all different and know what works for our families.

Lynnette - posted on 09/27/2011

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wow i seem to be having the same issues. im starting to wonder if its the meds my daughter is on and thats whats causing all the other issues she is having.

Helen - posted on 09/27/2011

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Courtney, I would be strict and firm with him. Explain why the behaviour is unacceptable and that it can affect peoples feelings and make them scared of him. Don't react and get angry about it because it most likely won't help. If you are using a punishment method already then keep using it. Personally I don't agree with spanking a child, especially using something other than your hand, (sorry if that offends anyone) So I wouldn't advocate using that as a method.
I am strict but as my children say I'm also fair with it. I always explain the reason they are being punished and ask for their feedback, mainly to make sure they understand. My autistic son doesn't understand cause and effect so it's particularly important with him. (He's also boarderline ADHD and we are waiting on a diagnosis). He still gets punished. His diagnosis is a reason for a behaviour, not an excuse for it.

Hugs
Helen

Blossom - posted on 09/27/2011

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@courtney, I dont know what discipline tools you are using, so difficult to suggest how to deal with it. How I deal with my 10 year old. My ADHD son tells he's brother he hates him and he wishes he was never born. He also once told the teacher he will take her out "as in out of this world" he's 10. I punished him for he's behaviour by spanking him with a wooden spoon lightly on he's bottom (the emotional act hurts more than the actual physical part of it) and put him in the corner. I spoke to him with eye contact and explained to him what saying those things mean. and that it is wrong and mean and will not be tolerated. I also told him that he can be locked up and will be a criminal the rest of he's life with no family around. I then give him the choice to choose family or choose being a meannie.

Courtney - posted on 09/27/2011

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my son had an episode at school today it was bad enough that they called it an absolute. what it started out as was he was passing notes in class when a little girl tore the note up. my son got mad and told the little girl that he was going to kill her. this terrifies me that one of these days it might happen. i have done interventions. i had the juvenille probation officer talk to him. i have had the police talk to him and still nothing has helped thus far. right now he is in counseling and on meds and other types of therapies. my thing is i really don't want him in trouble with the law and some times i wondering if i am doing the right things. i have even went to some parenting classes to learn how to nip these behaviors in the bud. what else can i do?

Blossom - posted on 09/27/2011

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It was suggested that I put my ADHD child on medication and was told to try it out instead of not trying at all. I chose not to try it out and see how therapy and a different school would work first. And I dont regret my decision. He has less tantrums since I learnt how to communicate more effectively. I'm not saying medication should be avoided in all cases. I'm saying try without and with and see what works for you and your family.

Courtney - posted on 09/21/2011

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i am still having that problem with my son. what i did is made his room some place he wanted to go to when he was having one of his episodes. it has worked so far.

Rhonda - posted on 09/21/2011

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Hello ladies im new to the site and have a question to ask? Do any of you regret putting your kids thru the ringer (trying and failing with meds until you found the right one)when it came time for them to be put on meds. If so, what would you do differently? Im terrified of me and my son going thru this process, even though i know it may be necessary.

Blossom - posted on 09/20/2011

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Hi, I have a son that is ADHD 10 yrs old and he has speech Impairment. What works for me is clear communication well in advance. I bend down to he's level, and look him in the eye. and inform him of events happening within the next day, they dont like surprises or change in routine. They get comfortable in their own routine. e.g: I get up, I eat cereal, brush my teeth I get dressed. If you are late that morning and change 1 thing like maybe brush your teeth and have a cereal bar in the car it will cause havoc. this is just 1 simple example. Ever since I started doing the eye to eye communication in advance and keep reminding him of events that he agreed to, there are less tantrums (cos life is very unpredictable - i cant foretell everything) Worth a try, I learnt about this on an Effective parenting course in a defective world. worked for me!

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/19/2011

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I agree with Helen Baker everything that she has said about the fiddle toys, weighted items....i have done them all, it's all trial & error to find what works for each kid & even if one thing doesn't work the first time it doesn't mean it wont help later on either & to Dana Gratias i'm sorry but i don't agree with your option on the meds...my father was diagnosed with "hyper-activity" as they didn't have all the labels like they do today when he was 5 yrs old, much later on it was actually diagnosed as ADHD in his adulthood, he has been off & on for years going through all the meds & dosages available out there (even the trail meds in testing) & he said even though they didn't all have the same feel they all had the same result of a groggy zoned-out feeling, he's now 51 & says he much prefers being off the meds then on...my husband was diagnosed at the age of 2 with ADHD & same thing, he is now 25 & being off the meds other then a anti-dpressant which works as a mood stabilizer for him (which helps beyond belief)...he said the best through he had been on was the cylert, same with his cousin who is now 36 who was diagnosed at the age of 8....the list goes on & on of personally speaking with people who are the ones that would no more then anyone who "thinks" they know through speculation or from what a doctor tells them...they live it everyday! like i said though the cylert has always been the one that people say was the best for not giving this feeling

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/19/2011

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if your talking medication i was actually recommended "cylert" by a few people that were diagnosed with ADHD at early ages & were put through the ringer trying to find what worked...they said it claimed them down but didn't make them groggy or feel all f@$ked up inside & they are the ones that would know....you don't want a well behaved child because you've "zomified" them....after speaking to many professionals on the subject & reading up on it i decided to avoid meds all together & instead treat through behavioral techniques & keeping them busy with multiple activities....i have a nephew right now that's been on meds for the past year & it's sad cuz although he behaves a little better it's like its no longer the same kid!

Kara - posted on 09/19/2011

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i do my daughter has adhd and is on intuniv it works for the most part i would definetly go see a doctor

Kara - posted on 09/19/2011

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i do my daughter has adhd and is on intuniv it works for the most part i would definetly go see a doctor

Christina - posted on 09/17/2011

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The concerta will work for awhile then the med start s to wear off. The doc will increase the med, then wait till pubirty starts...... This is when it gets really hard. I joined
My son in music lessons and it was the only thing that calmed him. Apparently children with adhd have the ability to do great things when music is introduced to them... And he picked it up so quickly too. He has volunteered at charity events to help raise money for animals with his new found gift of music....

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/16/2011

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Try to keep her on routine (and occupied with activities - usually hands on stuff works best for ADHD) as much as possible, usually the least amount of unexpected changes in this routine will help.
Be firm but not a drill Sargent when it comes to discipline for such behaviors, always give them the chance to stop the behavior that is the problem and explain why it is not exceptable. If she still doesn't stop then tell her what the consequence is (like timeout, etc.) and begin to count to let her do it ( i usually count to 5). When my sons won't go to timeout after the count of 5 the time that I have set out will go up and I will tell them what it has gone up to & then simply start counting again and do this until they go on their own....it started out where they were having long timeouts at 1st but after a while they realized that the quicker they did what they were told the quicker they were done their punishment.
Don't give to many chance or warnings, follow through with what you say, and always make sure that afterwards you get down to their level and ask them what they did to be punished and make sure they understand as to why they were punished - i always like to give a "I love you" after the little talk as well.
And as hard as it sounds try to keep a claim (but firm) tone while doing so - it's hard a lot of times i know lol
Punishments can range anywhere from time outs to loosing privileges, or even a favorite toy or they toy they have while doing it for a while.
It takes time but after a while I found it didn't reverse the behaviors but really made a big difference.

Debra - posted on 09/16/2011

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I've read so many articles on chemicals in food causing behavior problems in children and ADHD disappearing when food coloring/preservatives/high fructose corn syrup are eliminated from the diet.

Dana - posted on 09/16/2011

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Kids only become "zombies:" because the medication is too much for him/her. A lower dose might do the trick.

Christina - posted on 09/08/2011

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I had to take my son to a professional phyciatrist . The meds he was put on helped but then after a while didnt, its been an on going issue since he was five. He is 17 now and its the counceling and the Kinark office in Cobourg Ont that has finally been helping. Its an on going issue. he has ADHD & ODD. It has been a long road getting him help.

CHRISTINA-CHRISSY - posted on 09/08/2011

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@Danyele Atkins
That sounds just like my 8 year old son, pretty much what u said sums up what I was gonna say, and yes he is on Melatonin to as well but w/ Intuntiv they work very well together.

Helen - posted on 09/07/2011

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I have a child who is autistic and scores very highly on the ADHD side of things. What you need to remember is that ADHD is a reason for a behaviour not an excuse for one. That means although there is a natural impulsiveness it doesn't mean they should be allowed to get away with misbehaving.
Keep the rules in place at all times and ALWAYS follow through on a threat.
It is hard work but you must be consistent at all times, the child will learn where the boundaries are and push them but all children do.
Try to find things that might help. We have weighted lap pads to go over his legs, a weighted back pack, fiddle toys and are willing to try most things.
Also keep a food diary. I have no doubt my son would have had the ADHD diagnosis long before his autism one if we hadn't taken dairy out of his diet. Obviously food sensitivities vary and some children won't be reacting to a food at all but it certainly helps you to be more aware of things.
It's hard work but remember you did NOT cause the ADHD, you just have to come up with strategies that might help you all to cope with it.

Hugs

Sharon - posted on 09/03/2011

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breaks your heart when your child can not be all they should be and others dont see the beauty like you do

ERICA - posted on 09/01/2011

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This sounded so much like me a couple of months ago my son who is 8 has ADHD,odd,PTSD and we have him on vvyannse and a mood stabilize and something for sleep and I have had any out burst like use to I mean we still have a bad day ever no and then but since being on the meds he started them in June he went from being in special Ed for everything just to having to be in there for reading and spelling I couldn't not be so much happier but now I have a 5 daughter that is showing all his signs it has taken me 3 years almost to get the right meds for him now I am about to start all over with her cause she has the most awful fits may god bless us all have a great night everyone

Sharon - posted on 09/01/2011

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my son is eleven .he showed first signs of adhd and oppositional defiance at 7. we refused to medicate until there was no other way for him to be allowed at school. He is taking strattera which is much less harmful than ritalin . Thing is it doesnt work in about 20 percent of cases. it is slow reacting so he can sometimes miss a few days. he is also seeing a psychologist which really has helped both of us. I was on the verge of a breakdown . It is so hard to not think you are a bad parent but you are a great parent for seeking help. You really need a teacher and principal that has a lot of patience and really sees the good in your beautiful hearted very intelligent child. It breaks my heart to think he is not using his gifts but now he is coming out the other side. he is finally maturing and they do grow out of it.important note; make sure they are punished for their bad behaviour and know it is not acceptable. they cant help it but on good days you need to talk about it with them. i used to be distraught at some of things he would say that i wished him dead that he would kill himself and certain classmates that taunted him. i decided one day that this was not my boy speaking and those words upset us both so i learned to say go away from me i am not listening and would ignore him , it would soon stop. the teacher told him is free to go and a splash of water and sit out if angry. he is now learning to deal with or ignore his anger over the little things and the horrible children have left the school. and if he wont eat his vegies just say goodnight and dont argue cause its not worth the upset

User - posted on 08/23/2011

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My daughter is on Vyvanse right now & it seems to work; until recently. Her aggressiveness has been worse lately, she just started school a couple of weeks ago. I thought school would help her get rid of all the pent up energy, but she is more nervous & agitated when she gets home. She has a sleeping problem too. sometimes she can't go to sleep until 3 or 4 AM! And then it is a restless sleep. She takes Clonodine for her sleep, but its not even working.

Neva - posted on 08/23/2011

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My son is 10 yrs old and is on meds for ADHD/ Bipolar we have him on Abilify, becuase the rest of the meds did not work on him, some made him realy, realy hyper and some made him sleep a lot. The ablilify I give him around 6pm he falls asleep around 8pm then he is up around 6 am. and it seems to be doing ok. he still has a moth but i think punishment can take care of some it.

Shaylynn - posted on 08/23/2011

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My daughter is almost 4 and is a very aggresive child. She will b the perfect child one minute then demon spawn the next. The doctor says that it might be due to her not getting the proper sleep at night. I personally think that medicating children for ADHD is just neglegence. I have worked hard to stop the mood swings and tantrums and after about 6wks they came to a stand still. Its about being persistant and letting her find a better way of venting her frustration. Hope it helps

Christine - posted on 08/21/2011

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My 13 yr old son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was like 6 yrs old, then in the last yr he was diagnosed with asbergers and they say he might have bipolar too but haven't come out and fully diagnosed him with it as of yet ??? oh yeah the bhavior is like Dr Jekell and mr hyde :) oh yeah he is only on abilify for everything right now, they keep telling me there is no meds for bi polar or asbergers. ?? :(:)

Renee - posted on 08/20/2011

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I hear ya! Our son is 13 and has ADHD. He throws huge temper tantrums, even now, when stuff does not go his way. He thinks that we treat his older sister better, but she honestly does a lot of housework and contributes to the family more than he does, so it's hard to deny her privilages. I've tried talking to him, he just tries to manipulate me when I do or argue back. 2 nights ago, he was told "no computer" and freaked out. Stomped around, screamed, slammed stuff around, etc. We calmly sent him to his room, where he continued the tantrum. What I felt worked best for us was staying calm, matter of fact, and ignoring the tantrum completely. He actually came down after an hour and appologized to both of us telling us that he was completely out of line, which is a HUGE milestone since in the past he would just go to bed. We accepted his appology but said it really was out of line and that he needed to gain more control of his moods. I think it's maturity and age that's helping (my brother has ADHD and Bipolar and is probably the nicest and most laid back guy you could meet. Stays on his medication for the Bipolar and he's 100% opposite of how he was as a boy. Hang in there! You are not alone!

Heidi - posted on 08/19/2011

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My daughter has ADHD & severe mood swings; on & off of her medication. She doesn't sleep, and most of the time she takes out her frustrations on her older brother. NOBODY will ever convince me that ADHD is just an attention problem like my pediatric neurologist says. It is a behavioral problem too.

Beth - posted on 08/16/2011

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My daughter had similar mood swing issues, and was treated for ADHD also. The ADHD meds she was on didn't help the mood swings. She went on Risperidal and the giant mood swings stopped. Over time she has learned to control her emotions and mood swings at age 13 we took her off all meds and she is doing great now. There's lots of mood disorders that make a child act ADHD, you might want to talk to your doctor about alternative meds.

Christina - posted on 08/08/2011

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I didn't know about the low sleep bit. He has been having trouble sleeping lately. Thanks

Christina - posted on 08/08/2011

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I am having the same issues with my son. He is 7 and a half. Everytime he has to do something he doesn't want to do...its temper, temper. We have been to pediatrician, therapist and psychiatrist. He's on Intuniv. It worked for a while and now its back to full blown anger issues. I am going back to the pediatrician to see if we need to switch it up again. Try talking to Dr, and if they can't help, try another. We have tried several. One med we started with was horrible! He had soooo many prob with it. See if you can change diet, routine, dr's and meds. Good luck, I know it's exhausting. Hang in there, I'm sure your'e a great mom!

Lynsey - posted on 08/07/2011

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you must make sure you treat her as norma as possibe or she wi know that she can pay on adhd (excuse my speing one of the character on keyboard is missing) pz for your own sake you must nt treat her with kid goves cos when a the do gooders are through with their advice you are the one who is going to be eft with the come backs not them do not put up with the tantrums make sure you show her its unexceptabe at a times cos mark my words the fun hasnt even started yet you wait ti she knows the system and how she can manipuate it to her advantage this is advice ony you can do it and you know what anybody is capabe of forget she is your daughter they can and wi manipuate you must if you want an easier ife (as much as you can poss get anyway) show her consequences and dont et her know having adhd is a ticket for her to 'use' it as an excuse good uck hunni x

Michelle - posted on 08/02/2011

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Hi Moms, I am going to go out on a limb here just because I have been hearing so much of this since I started my Wildtree business. I will give you a little background....I have one child with Down Syndrome (5) along with 2 other "normal" developing children (9) (11) The older 2 had a case of eczema when they were younger. We were prescribed a medication that I found out to have cancer risks. I stopped that and went to reseach other options. I found out that artificial food dyes can have an effect on eczema. I started there and found out that it did get better. The plus to it all was even though they do not have ADHD their overall mood improved. So being curious about artificial food dyes I contiued to read on and I found out that artificial food dyes can also have a negative effect on childrens behavior. This is when a friend introduced me to Wildtree foods and it has changed things for me in more ways than one...like most other parents I try to do what is best for my kids and from there on I am particular about what goes into my children. I teach them too. Fast forward to today....Now that I know what I know I can't help but share with others. Since sharing Wildtree some of my customers have reported they have removed things like mac and cheese, colored cereals or other items from their childs diet and they are seeing a different kid. I encourage you to check out FIENGOLD.ORG It's a good resource for ADHD and actually has Wildtree as a referred site. The truth of the matter is that not all pediatricians will look at a childs diet first. Their training leads them to look at meds which we all know the side effect are not always the greatest. I am NOT saying in all cases meds are not needed. We as moms have to be proactive for our children. So if I can reach out to one mom to look down the diet road and things change for their child then I feel good about that. Good luck and I hope I have helped someone If you have any other questions you can email me at michelle_3@charter.net

Christine - posted on 08/01/2011

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OMG.. my son acts that way... he is just at the beginning stages of figuring out what is going on with him.. I wonder if its adhd as well... the hard days are hell and we've tried everything in the book and then some... we use a constant revolving door of ideas including time outs, taking away toys, talking to him, reasoning, negotiating and a BUTTLOAD of patience...

Jessica - posted on 07/21/2011

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My son is gonna be 3 Dec 3rd, He hits, spits, screams, runs off, yells and throws things at people and the walls and does not listen... I asked the doc if this was normal because I have a daughter who is ADHD and she didn't do this but the doc said it was normal for his age ?? I'm so confused it don't seem normal to me ... Is it?

Dameeka - posted on 07/21/2011

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I have a child with ADHD and it is a hard situation. I have to pray for the strength everyday.

Jessica - posted on 07/18/2011

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My son is only 2 1/2 and he acts the same way, He spits, hits, screams etc... I'm lost and don't know what to do because my daughter was dignosed with ADHD at age 5 and gets wild hairs but never outburst like he does ... She scares me sometimes when she does not think before she does ... I really wish I had advice for you, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone ...

Belinda - posted on 07/17/2011

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My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD, I have had a lot of trouble with her at home and at school, she has been put on Medication for the last month just for a trial to see if this would help. I didn't want her on medication but i had to do something i was afraid for her safety, she says she wants to kill her self and can be very violent towards herself throwing herself to the floor, punching herself in the head over and over. Her behavior has improved since being on medication, she is doing better at school she's able to sit still with the other children. I have also been told she has signs of Asperger syndrome just waiting for her appointment to get her assessed.
I didn't want my daughter on medication, but i had tried everything. My daughter did a CASEA program which is run by the royal childrens hospital and i went once a week, it really did'nt help. Medication was my last choice, it does seem to be helping her , if things change and i dont think its the best thing for her i will take her off them.

Orla - posted on 03/22/2010

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i have a 9 year old girl and much the same storys as all but i tried concerta 18 mg and she is a compleatly different child in the best possible way she has friends now and her school work is great the only side affect was she did not eat very well for first month but she eats fine now and i can go anywhere now and not have to worrie about her kicking off :)

Paula - posted on 03/22/2010

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I hope this will help you. I have a 5 year old that has been diagnosed with adhd for about a year. He is on ritilin (15 mg twice a day). He still has mood swings like your daughter only not quite as severe. It helps to keep them on the same schedual every day. Also, when mine is starting to go into a 'meltdown' I try to get him into a different situation like, if he is at home, and starts up, i make him go into his playroom and play with different toys. This distracts him and calms him down. If she yells at you....remove yourself to another room. make sure she is safe and wait till she starts calming down before trying to talk to her. If you can, another technique that i was told works is get her to press the palms of her hands together hard, with her fingers opposite each other when she gets agitated.

Leanne - posted on 03/21/2010

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hi i have a 9 year old daughter who as adhd she had it since the age ov 3 at first she got put on ritaline and some other med to her her sleep as she only slept for 3 hours a nite she was really bad she stab me with folks and hit me with anythin she could get hold ov but i son tuck her off the med i found it made her into a zombe she would look as if she was off her face and you could no get any sence out ov her she was ment to have it 3 times a day i she as not had it in over 5 years it is hard to deal with but you have to learn to live with it and find way to destract her if i think she going to lose itshe also suffers with eperleptic fits and she as surfier learning differicultys which is so frustating for her and that can also kick ov her mood but we getting there with her she started doing out side school programs that are helping in all kinds ov ways.i think med can make matters worse and have made the best chioce for my child not to give them to her and deal with the problems in hand not everthing is resolved my medication

Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2010

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My son is 11 yrs old. He was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) when he was just 4 yrs old. I have so many problems in school that I can't even count anymore. He does not seem to act out when he is with me, but he lives with his dad now and they are always having problems. He is extremely competitive and gets angry very easy. They have tried so many things with him: counseling, classes to help control himself, medication, etc. Kids like this need a little more attention and interaction than we would think. We still have not found any one thing that helps him, but when he has one on one time he does better. They also need positive reinforcement. Hang in there.

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