disabled girl nine yrs old periods

Jeanette - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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i have a nine yr old girl with severe learning difficulties. She has to wear pads as she is not toilet trained but as she is getting older i am starting to worry about what to do when she starts her periods. Does any one else have the same problem or give me any advice on how to handle this.

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Beverly - posted on 04/18/2010

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I have an almost 17 y.o daughter that is severally mentally handicapped (functions at a 2 y.o age level). She is not potty trained either & wears Good nights or depends briefs. My ex husband & I decided to put her on the DepoProvera shot. It stopped her periods & gives her the birth control for the unthinkable. We make sure she gets extra calcium as the Depo shot will deplete her calcium some. Talk with her dad & her doctor & weigh all the options available. Make the choice that is best for her & you as the parents. :)

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Mayme - posted on 04/24/2010

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My daughter is 20 and her periods were extremely heavy. She would have a 3 week period and a one week break. We started her on the depo shots but got really bogged down with having to go in for the shot every 3 months with all the other appointments she has. So we got the bc implant. Both depo and the implant usually get rid of the period completely but not so in my daughter's case. However her periods are now light and short compared to heavy and almost non ending. There are a lot of things to weigh when making these decisions. With both of these options it is extremely important to give a calcium with D supplement. Be sure to find a good gynecologist who will sit down and really discuss it with you.

Renee - posted on 04/23/2010

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My god daughters mom just puts a pad in her diaper.I'll ask her more about how she handles it if you'd like.

Annie - posted on 04/23/2010

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I was worried about my daughter also. She had a TBI at 5 and started budding (her breasts) by 7 so we thought for sure she'd start extremely early. She actually didn't start until 13 and we found the Poise pads worked for her. And also, she didn't have a problem with the actual period at all - she doesn't like them because she can't swim (no way we're attempting a tampon!) but she accepts them just fine (she's 21 now.) Good luck, but you really don't need to worry. She'll truly be fine!

Wanda - posted on 04/21/2010

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I understand. My oldest daughter and I both started our periods early. Probably around age 11. So I actually expected my handicapped daughter to be around that age as well. But it wasn't, hers was really late. If you are really very concerned that you may not can handle this, there are some doctors who would take care of things so that she would not ever have her periods. I even had a psychologist from Social Security try to get me to do this. I even considered it, but my husband would never agree to anything like that. Sometimes, now I think he would. But it's just a part of being a female and I'm sure all will be fine. What does her doctor say about it?

Jeanette - posted on 04/21/2010

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i wouldn't normally worry for a while yet but her aunt (hubby's sister) started having the cramps when she was about my daughter's age. so it could be sooner than i thought or hoped for

Tina - posted on 04/19/2010

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I understand your anxiety. I have a 10 year old who is pretty mentally handi-capped and I have been having the same concerns!

Jeanette - posted on 04/18/2010

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thanxs to all for the advice hopefully wont have to worry for a while but i now have a few options : )

Wanda - posted on 04/16/2010

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I understand your concern.. I have a 30yr old autistic daughter who is still not toilet trained. Her period did not begin until she was almost 16 yrs old. We tried the depro shot and that was the biggest mistake that we ever made. It was around this time that she became very aggressive. There wasn't anything we could do but wait it out. She is not on any kind of birth control. She does take Paxil, and medications for severe allergies. I, too, really got more concerned than was necessary as she really did okay. She wears a panty very similar to Depends with a booster pad. I just add an extra pad during her period. She goes through the same things that most all of us do with periods. (i.e. PMS, sensitive, headaches, cramps, etc.) I just explain to her that it is something that all girls do and she seems to take it pretty much in stride. My main point would be to try to relax as much as you can. If we make a "big deal" out of it, they will pick up on our tenseness and it will make things worse for you. Just try to relax and let nature take its' course. it will be fine, just treat her as you would any other daughter. Good luck!!

Wanda - posted on 04/14/2010

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I have a daughter with downsyndrome she is 34. I have her on the depo shot. We somtimes get light spotting but not to often

Trisha - posted on 04/12/2010

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I have a thirteen year old with downs we were so scared for that moment but we know that stopping it was out of the qwestions there are to many risks Beleive it or not they catch on slowly but it happens when she frist started we used pullups or depends pantys at night to controll it then we realized if we had to we could use them in the day to. she uses pads all the time but hides them or wont put them on in morning so we have to watch it very carefully and at school we send a note so they know when they need to remind her and can give her a pad if she not night potty trained as my daughter is not pull ups or goodnights work great at night. She will get it and its not as big to them as it is to us I work with special needs kids and parents encluding make a bigger deal out of it then the child does so dont worrie its easy

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