Do you have a good resource for handling a behaviorally challenged child?

Charity - posted on 03/23/2010

In response to some comments,

Our son was in preschool. It was very structured, but he couldn't handle being around other children. He sent a child to the hospital because he wanted the toy the child was playing with. That was the last straw. We can not alloww him to hurt others that way, so we took him out and have a retired social worker watching him.

Time outs don't do much and taking a toy away doesn't work because he will give me ALL his toys. Then he will sit in the room and bang on the windows, walls, ect. or scream. I also teach Kindergraten, so I have tired redirection, holding, timeouts, taking things away, rewards for good behaviors. Know luck yet.

We have his behavioral evaluation in May. So, we are holding on. He is starting to settle as the medicine dissloves in his system.

I have looked into many of the seminars that were suggested and the expense is just more than I can afford. I got a few books and I am going to give them a try.

Thanks!

Harmony - posted on 03/23/2010

oh yeah, and we just enrolled him in preschool and he has already calmed down quite a bit, maybe try getting him/her involved in something enjoyable that is structured and where he has to listen to other elders. But, as parents, we are our childrens' first teachers, so, you can do it! And there is no one else better equipped or that knows your child(ren) more. Also, we had a cluttered house, and keeping things in order has really helped as well.

Harmony - posted on 03/23/2010

Our son responds well when we take away a toy or have him sit in a chair for several minutes(esp. with a repeated behaviour, i.e. wetting his pants). We also spank our son, especially for hitting. Be consistent. As for a book, the Bible is what I would recommend to get wisdom from on how to train up your child(ren).

Ashley - posted on 03/22/2010

Hi! My son has a lot of behavior issues. We have been working with ABA Therapy. Its a life savor. It takes about a week to get use to it but it changes everything and can make things a lot easier. You should look it up and consult your doctor. They can help you get in touch with an agency near you to help you enroll into ABA Therapy. My son is autistic and thats when I first started using it. But it works with all children. I even use at work (child care). Good luck and hang in there!

Erienne - posted on 03/21/2010

my son has this i found that its a branch off his ADHD and put him on that medication but also to put him to a routine were his bahavouir rapidly changed it was were if things changed in his daily rutine that would upset him and he would take it out on other children...these are just some suggestions.....also take away things that are really important to him if he does misbehave because he will begin to realize if he hits other children he loses that one toy for a day....

JaTonya - posted on 03/15/2010

My 11 year old has PDD and ADD and has had violent episodes almost all of his life. I hate, absolutely hate putting my son on medication to control his behavior but sometimes it really is the best thing you can do. After trying everything from Ritalin to Risperodal, (he also just came off of a med for seizures), his doctor prescribed him Seroquel. Now I know that Seroquel is entirely way too strong for your son at this age but please keep in mind that sometimes therapy and the "right" medication are the right tools.

JessieRaye - posted on 03/15/2010

Try researching Love and Logic seminars. The speakers have wonderfull advice to help with many topics. I have heard of putting a weighted vest on kids that have a little hyper activity. When my son bite we gave him a special something to bite. When he became frustrated he could bite the blanket. Be patient you will find something that works for him.

Kelley - posted on 03/14/2010

Hi Charity. My little boy has some chromosome abnormalities but does have behavioural issues. I am currently attending a group Behavioural course called The Incredible Years. If you look it up on Google you will get some imfo on it. There is also a book. I am in session 5 of 12 and already I see very positive signs. My sons behaviour. temper, biting etc are all calming down. He is like a different child! Good luck. Let me know how you get on!!!

MOM - posted on 03/14/2010

I have a grandson that my husband and I are raising. we've had him sense he was 6 months old and hes now 15, we are both 60, H has A.D.H.D and can be a challenge sometimes. Advocating for him is a must. He also is a kind caring young man who has come a long way. His mom is in his life and he loves her very much. I wouldn't change this time in my life for anything. He is a gift from God.

Jill - posted on 03/12/2010

our daughter who is 15 now also has behavioral disorders. she is much better as she has gotten older, however we had a challenge to find things that would allow her to express herself without being destructive or disruptive and we found that art, drawing, painting, working with clays,etc. brought her to a calming place and allowed to to express all the frustrations that she was feeling. not to mention a little peace to us too. hang in there

Iridescent - posted on 03/11/2010

This website has excellent suggestions for behavioral modifications; we used them with my son, instinctually really, not knowing about the official terms until recently. They really help.

http://www.childbrain.com/pddq11.shtml

Good luck with all you're going through!