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Feeling like I am doing everything wrong for my daughter.

Dana - posted on 03/10/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have a yours ,mine and ours family ,2 daughters 27 ( mine and his ) a 21 year son (his ) and a 12 year old daughter ours . Sami has been diagnosed with odd and depression ( her father has been dignosed bipolar and depressed . I have some depression but have it under controle with meds and I work with mentally and physically handicapped chilren and adults so my hands are full but I find myself wondering with so many children coming up with so many diffrent diagnoses why cant the shcools do more to help .we need teachers to start being a little more understanding to yes the specail needs of children that are smart but cant always do things on their time and the courts I am sorry but my daughter tries but cant always make it to school for fear of being hurrased about her emotinal state they say I baby her ,no I dont .I let her get away with too much , well I dont think so . I pick my battles, if we dont have a Dr. note we are going to court well Dr.s are not there to always wright notes. they are takeing away the rights of the parents and giving it to people who do not know ar understand what goes on in this house I Love my Daughter but when the school has her thinking that she could get me into trouble for not always making her go to school that makes her feel worse and then she wants to die. we are very close but when I am the one she feels safe letting out her anger on I get angry at school for making her get angry in the first place I would always rather her get angry at me then its not herself or some one else . I just want a safe enviroment for her to go learn that isnt her hell on earth ... well any way thanks for reading .A good MomDana

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Schyla - posted on 03/10/2010

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The town I live in offers charter schools as an option they do not follow the same rules as the public school district although they are part of it. They work with these smart "but different" children I am very impressed with them here. We also have a online school were the child has teachers and touters but learns at their own pace this probably wouldn't work for you since you're so busy because you have to be there to help. Dose your daughter have an IEP if she dosen't qulify for one then you're going to have to be an advacate for her. You know what she needs 12 is hard enough on girls as it is and yours needs some special TLC if the school she is in won't work with you find another option there is more the homeschool and public school out there as your probably well aware. see about a Transfer to a different school and when you start her there talk to the principal the guidance counselor and her teachers about yours and her concerns. (of course this is only if you cannot find a solution with the school she is in.) your right there are some serious flaws in the school system my sister was called stupid in front of her whole class she had dislexia and would write her words backwards and couldn't read because everything got mixed up, and her third grade teacher started yelling at her in front of the entire class and called her stupid and said she would never learn my mother happened to be volunteering in my other sisters class down the hall and heard the entire thing she pulled us out and home schooled us for three years we learned what worked for us so when we went back to school we were able to cope.

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