Amanda - posted on 02/29/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I really need some advice and support. This is very hard for me because I don't often ask for help, but I have reached my limit.. I will describe for you a very unique little girl (unique in my experience, if there are others out there, it is you I am asking to help!!)
My step-daughter has many delays and is very difficult to handle. We recently had her tested by a psychologist who declared her borderline, which gives us NO information about her at all. There is no diagnosis, no treatment, and no help to be had. She is in the 7th percentile, and only 5th and below is considered an intellectual disability and receives help, but the 25th is the low end of normal. She is so close to the disabled group but they won't help us!
Worse than that, is that we presented to the psychologist our concerns, and were given no advice at all. My step-daughter is 5 and a half and in Senior Kindergarten full days.
She regularly wets her pants at school, and overnight, after having been fully potty trained at age 3 and a half, and not having accidents for a full year.
She cannot be controlled at school, she attempts to leave the classroom, refuses to cooperate, she won't go out for recess but once out she won't come back in. She has so many more problems and I just don't know what to do anymore. I am trying to be patient with her. I don't get angry when she has accidents, she wears pull ups at night again because I can't keep up with the laundry otherwise but I still don't make a big deal of it.
She needs constant supervision because she puts everything in her mouth including paint, chalk, glue, markers, brushes, garbage, toilet water, poop, and her hands. She has chewed her nails right off and regularly breaks the skin on her fingers from constantly biting and chewing.
She looks like she may have fetal alcohol syndrome or effects and her bio mom admitted to drinking in excess. We are waiting on an apt with a geneticist to confirm.
In the meantime, ANY suggestions for how I can handle this, ANY ideas to help me and her teachers modify her behaviour, and a sympathetic listening ear would be great. Thank you all in advance.