Help? what should i tell a potential employer about my special needs child?

Sheila - posted on 06/08/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am currently trying to find a job and it seems that if i mention my child in an interview that i never hear back. What should i do

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Heather - posted on 06/10/2011

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you can take two roads here. 1- don't tell them, it's none of their business ans legally, they can't ask you about your family, martial status or if you have any children.

2. mention it in passing, and work in there that you have a wonderful day care provider, or whatever you've arranged for care during the day. Also,, slip in there that your child is medically stable (if he/she is) and talk about what skills you now have due to that- working under pressure, multitasking, time management, etc.

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F.A.S. - posted on 09/21/2012

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wait until your probation period is over some employers will fire you for missing so many days or try to schedule her appointment on your off days or after you get off work or maybe a frnd or grandparent or cousin sister brother can take her to the appointments god bless!

Sophia - posted on 09/20/2012

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WHY DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO TELL A POTENTIAL EMPLOYER ABOUT YOUR SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD ? MOST PEOPLE DONT CARE WHAT YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH AT HOME. FIND A JOB ... GET A JOB.. KEEP A JOB... TAKE IT FROM ME YOUR FUTURE BOSS DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR CHILD JUST HOW WELL YOU CAN DO YOUR JOB. NO ONE CARES... EVERYONE IS DEALING WITH THEIR OWN CROSS. PLEASE STOP SETTING YOURSELF UP.

Sheila - posted on 06/11/2011

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Thanks everybody. and i did mention my daughter but told them i always make her appointments at least a month in advance

Sheila - posted on 06/11/2011

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yeah but not until after 6 months. luckily she is still on the ex's insurance

Jane - posted on 06/10/2011

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I would tend not to bring it up at all if it isn't going to impact your work in any way. The only things that really should come up in a job interview are your skills, training, and experience that will help you do the job, your references from previous employers or coworkers, and any accommodations you might need because of your own disabilities.

However, if your son's situation means you will have to use your leave a lot, then you may need to bring it up in the way that Heather says.

While there are indeed legal guidelines that interviewers must follow, it is always easy to exclude an applicant by simply citing someone else as having more pertinent experience. They can't ask you about your personal life, but if you volunteer it they can figure out a way to decide you are not the right hire.

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