i love special needs children

Suzanne - posted on 06/29/2011

I am with Trish on this one! I feel very bless to have my beautiful 6 year old girl. She doesn't walk or talk, and yes it gets hard at times, because she has a lot of complex needs, but I really am the lucky one.. to have her on my life. And when she hugs me or laughs and smiles at me I know she is saying in her heart, "I love you mommy" That's what melts my heart and makes the hardest days seem not so bad.. She is my world!

Trish (Bullard) - posted on 03/21/2010

Wow! I think this was taken a little too personal. I understand what Katherine was trying to say, maybe not in the best words..but I understand. I work at school in the special ed department. I fight for my students each day and want them to reach their fullest ability. Some of the students and behaviors I work with also make me "appreciate my child". As a matter of fact, the special ed students I work with are "my walking, talking kids" as I have a daughter with severe special needs which I am proud of and feel very "lucky" to be her mom.

Cherish - posted on 03/19/2010

I totally agree,working w/them is not the same as raising them.

I am sure no body would say "I am so lucky to have a 8 yr old that can not speak,eat food and is sick all the time" or "a 13 yr old that can not walk" or "Im blessed because my child has constant seizures"....etc

I think all children are a "blessing" but I do not think that children w/disability's or their parents are "extra blessed"

Iridescent - posted on 03/19/2010

That's exactly it. It's like we had a choice from a magazine when our kids were born and we all said, yes, that's the one I want. I love each of my children dearly as they are, but I would take away their trials in a heartbeat if I could. And I have worked with other "special needs" kids, too, as well as adults, and working with them is not the same as raising them. There is no time out. It's like someone is just looking in at our lives and not really seeing the whole picture at all.

Cherish - posted on 03/19/2010

Amen Amy,
They are not special projects for people with pity.
Our kids are who they are,most of the time there is no reason.

How else would you treat someone w/special needs?
Like there "special"???

I am glad I am not the only parent that is offended a little by this,I thought I was being too sensitive :)

I know she means well,but it really is ignorant.

Iridescent - posted on 03/19/2010

This bothers me for the same reasons. Also, if you treated them "normal" why did you have to be paid to spend time with them? And why did you stop when the job did? These are our kids, not special projects for people with pity.

Cherish - posted on 03/19/2010

I know you mean well but this post contradicts its self a little bit,I am also somewhat offended by it.

You said you would go work w/them b/c it made you appreciate your own children more,what does that mean?



Then you say you give back a little to God treating them "normal" and making them happy...



I have yet to see a "normal" child.

Because you say you treated them "normal" makes me think you think you were doing them a favor???



How are they "special" in there own right?

Maybe someday God will give back to you,and give you a child w/"severe needs" all of your own