Looking at the brighter side of things...

Ljubica - posted on 11/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Having a child with challenges teaches us that the smallest steps are the biggest accomplishments and pleasures. Cherish and celebrate every step!

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Ljubica - posted on 11/21/2009

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Quoting Cecilia:

I try to thank God everyday for giving me and trusting me with his special child!! i am very blessed!! my mom sent me this after we found out about ilias and it has helped.

Mothers of special needs babies

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.

This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

"Armstrong, Beth, son, patron saint, Matthew. Forrest, Marjorie, daughter, patron saint, Cecilia.

"Rudledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint, give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."

Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."

The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," says God. "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But has she patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it.

"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and dependence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."

"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness. "

The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.' She will never consider a 'step' ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.

"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see . . . ignorance,
cruelty, prejudice . . . and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, pen poised midair.

God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."



OMG!!!  I love this!!!  Would you mind terribly if I repost this on my fb profile in the notes section?  I'm in the midst of getting together a support group for parents with special needs and I think everyone would love this.  I hope you say yes!!!

Cecilia - posted on 11/20/2009

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I try to thank God everyday for giving me and trusting me with his special child!! i am very blessed!! my mom sent me this after we found out about ilias and it has helped.



Mothers of special needs babies



Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.



This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?



Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.



"Armstrong, Beth, son, patron saint, Matthew. Forrest, Marjorie, daughter, patron saint, Cecilia.



"Rudledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint, give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."



Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."



The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."



"Exactly," says God. "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."



"But has she patience?" asks the angel.



"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it.



"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and dependence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."



"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."



God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness. "



The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"



God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.' She will never consider a 'step' ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.



"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see . . . ignorance,

cruelty, prejudice . . . and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."



"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, pen poised midair.



God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

Ljubica - posted on 11/18/2009

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I can relate to that. My little guy is 7, but he functions at a 5 year old level. His speech is very delayed, and when he learns a new word, I'm thrilled!!!

Melanie - posted on 11/18/2009

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I found that out the hard way. I was always frustrated that my son never reached any milestones. Yet my mum & stepdad made me look at him through their eyes instead of mine. I slowly learned that each new thing he did no matter how small was significant. It was amazing watching him grow however slowly, I just had to learn to do things more slowly with him. I now cherish each small step xx

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