Shawni - posted on 10/18/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hi, My name is Shawni. I have been a single mom for about nine years now. My daughter is almost nineteen, and feels if things are not going exactly her way. She will stage a outlandish behavior that may or not appear to be a seizure. I am beside myself with her behavior, because I am put in a position where I don't know weather to believe her or hold a position that would not encourage it.
My daughter was born with Multiple disabilities, MMR, Epilepsy, Cerebral Ataxia. I have had her seizures under control for six years, but I am still on edge for warning signs. She has been totally off her meds for approximately 2 years now and really hasn't had any signs other than the ones she stages. I know they are stagings because she is absolutely fine within minutes after, and before when they were real she would sleep, or be very disorientated. Another problem with her staging these episodes is that I am much smaller than her and I suffer from disc problems, and fibromyalgia, so trying to get her physically, to and from places, carries the risk of me hurting myself. I agonize at the thought that it may have become the time to place her in a group home, because I am the only one she has. But, at the same time, she is not comprehending the repercussions of her actions. I have tried different punishments like taking her favorite things away, and disallowing her to engage in activities, but that has only lead me to cause her to recluse herself without remorse now.
I guess my Question is: What would you do? I am wide open for suggestions right now! Please help me solve this before she puts me in to the nut house.