my son & his siblings

Elizabeth - posted on 06/02/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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how do your other children feel about your special need child what are their feelings on that?

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Julie - posted on 06/07/2011

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Being the Other One: Growing Up with a Brother or Sister Who Has Special Needs by Kate Strohm is an excellent book about what the siblings go through and how the parents can alleviate some of the negative feelings. I grew up as a sibling of a special needs child and could relate to the authors points. My daugther has two older sisters. Both of them resent the extra attention she gets and have become more resistant to helping her as she gets older. (she's 9)

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Sophia - posted on 09/20/2012

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I AM NOT BEING MEAN... HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT HAVING A SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD ? ITS HARD.. ITS CHANGE FAMILY LIFE ... ITS TRYING... ITS NOT FUN AT TIMES... THEY WILL NEED STRONGE SUPPORT TO ENCOURAGE THEM THAT FAMILY PULL TOGETHER. FAMILY CANT SIDE WITH THE WORLD WE PULL TOGETHER. LAST THING THE CHILD IS A WONDER PART OF WHAT MAKES THAT FAMILY ... FAMILY.

Christine - posted on 06/08/2011

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My son is 14 and his special needs sister is 12. He knows she is "special" but he like my husband and I don't treat her any differently. So with that being said- it is the typical love/hate relationship between them at this point. But my son also understands that he can openly tell me and my husband how he feels about Kaylyn at anytime- Because she can socially embarrass him. People tell me he is the neatest brother to Kay. And he is, and I truly believe it is because we are empathetic to his situation. Christine

Terralyn - posted on 06/07/2011

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My son is 14 and he has down syndrome. His sisters are both older than him and they think he is the greatest. They have a very close relationship but like all siblings they also fight at times. The girls sometimes resent that he still can't be left alone at 14 but other than that they are really supportive and they love him very much.

Angela - posted on 06/07/2011

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I have one daughter 8 years older and my special needs son is a twin. My daughter dotes on him - now. At first he wasn't the "fun" one since he didn't do anything. the other boy would laugh and giggle and respond to her. Now she's very protective of Brody and babies him a bit, which I don't care for. Don't worry though, she sure chews him out if he does anything wrong! His twin on the other hand is very jealous of the attention. He doesn't know any different life than what we have and he just feels left out of all the "fun" stuff, ya know, like therapies, more teachers, leaving the classroom all the time. Brody has a more charismatic personality and so gains more friends (plus it's cool to high-5 Brody at our school) and Boyd is jealous of that as well.
Julie - I appreciate the book that you suggested as we're having problems with Brody's twin. I'd like to help but don't know how, and I'm going to order this as soon as I'm done typing! Thank you!

Ali - posted on 06/07/2011

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Thanks for sharing that book Julie. I always worry that later on my other children will resent Amy. Right now they are so young and don't know any different but as they grow and see what is happening they may resent her or dislike helping her and I don't want that to happen. I will definitely check out that book. Thanks.

Ali - posted on 06/07/2011

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My daughter has down syndrome and autism. She is 7. Her brother is 6, sister 4 and sister 3 months. The 6 and 4 year old just love her to death. They are very protective of her and want to include her in everything we do even though it may be something she can't do. The kick a kick out of her when she laughs and smiles. The desparetely want her to talk and are always asking when she will talk. The ask a lot of questions about her too which is great. Because she is the oldest, the other children don't know life any different so she is just a part of it.

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