Dusty - posted on 01/04/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )
I am a Mother to 3 Special Needs children. I love them all.
I am married to a man who doesn't know how to treat my eldest son. My son is 13, ahead in his class in every subject, makes high grades in all of his classes, is great @ cooking/baking, & loves to play video games. He is Autistic, ADHD, OCD, takes 6 different medicines to cope throughout his day, is on a 30-page I.E.P., & has 4 different Doctors to assist in medical care. My husband uses my son as a scapegoat for practically everything. When my son tries to say something to my husband about it, my husband cuts my son off (usually harshly).
I have confronted my husband a/b his behavior (repeatedly), bought him books on how to cope w/ my son's needs, asked my husband to treat my son as a human & not some verbal garbage disposal, asked my husband to seek counseling w/ me, etc. &, nothing is working. What do I do to help him see how much he is hurting my son? How can I help him see how much this hurts me? My son knows that he can come to me a/b anything (& thankfully, he still does). I don't know what else to do, though to help change this situation.