Would like to talk to other moms of borderline personality disorder, bipolar in young adults

Dawn - posted on 11/22/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm looking for some tips to survive the crash times... also some wisdom to implement so I don't make their problems my problems. I am hoping for a response to my post:) I know this is hard to talk about - but we need to encourage one another!

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Tonja - posted on 12/06/2009

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i have a 12 year old son that was diagnose with adhd at 5 and a 8 they said he is bipolar but wont diagnose him with it until he is 16 at least.it has been rrough but if theres anything i can help u with please ask

Kelly - posted on 12/05/2009

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i honestly dont know how young you are talking about but my daughter is 11 and she is adhd and bipolar has been since she was 5 you can message me any time and if you just ever want to chat i have yahoo messenger i will send you my name i am also on facebook

Diana - posted on 12/04/2009

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Thank you Dawn. Wow! I am not alone? Rod has a type 2 Bipolar. He is now out of the hospital and going to therapy and a great psychiatrist. Still trying to get him leveled out on meds. Truancy Court is something we get to look forward too, not because he is bad kid, just because the anxiety and depression has kept him out of school. It stresses him out. We start homeschooling in January. I am like you, I forgive him for his episodes! Sounds like you did a great job and are still doing so with your son...Hands up to you my friend....Lots of Love, d.

Dawn - posted on 11/24/2009

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Hi, Kristen Carter:) CONGRATULATIONS on being stable and in remission!!!

My question to you would be that I would like to know if what the therapists are telling me about my 24-year-old daughter is true... that borderline is mostly a young person's disease, and that by her 30's she will be stable and have most of her issues resolved? I don't dare to hope that what we lived through the past 4 years isn't going to recur...

She did the cognitive therapy for a few months, but felt that it wasn't going anywhere. She got shuffled between 2 different therapists (not their fault; maternity leave) and lost confidence in what they were asking her to do for her "homework."

She is much better, actually; she has a new baby, has gotten married, and is leaving for South Korea to be with her husband very soon (he's in the Army.) For my part, I am trying not to panic that she will get over there, have culture shock, and fall apart - half a world away. I have told her that if she feels she is slipping, and needs help, that she had better get it on base!!! Is that enough for me to say? She likes to pretend that she's fine - when she isn't at all. Is that normal for a borderline person?

Dawn - posted on 11/24/2009

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I hope this is the box where I reply to Diana Rehling-Grieb:) Yes - I too know the feeling of being surrounded by people who don't understand. It isn't that they are mean; they just cannot imagine what we live with on a daily basis! They are only ignorant. Perhaps your son is handsome, too - mine is more than blessed with good looks. People look at him and say "he's normal - he looks just fine!" Yeah, sure... My son is 21, almost 22 - and is trying to go without medication altogether. His bipolar is actually the II type - the rapid cycling type - it's the ADD that brings him down the most in daily life:( It is at least 3 x harder for him to live his ordinary life than it would be for a "normal" person. Now in young adulthood he knows, at least, enough to apologize for when his behavior gets ugly. And we love him enough to accept the apology.

Diana - posted on 11/24/2009

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Hi Kristen. I am so proud that you are med free and in remission. I too have had Depression all my life, so I understand. Therapy is very important. Being patient is the hard part, but I may take your advice for that one also. When you have a child with Depression issues, it is so different than dealing with your own. help....

Diana - posted on 11/24/2009

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Hello Dawn, Am I not alone? How do you survive the crash times? I would also love to know. I would love to be your ecouragement....Our son will be 15 years old next week, a Freshman in High SChool and has been diagnosed with Bipolar, Anxiety and Depression since he was 4 years old. He was doing great on Abilify for years, until puberty kicked in and then he went into a 2 year depression. It finally got so bad that we put him in the hopsital for a week. He seem great when he go out, and than regressed. Due to depression and trying to get him well, he has not been in school. We are expected to go to truancy court now. We have had him on a 504 plan at school, but nothing seems to work with that plan. He can't handle large groups and noise. Can't blame him... I am now going to online school him in January and up until than we are working closely with Doctors and therapist to get him stabilized. I feel so alone.. Nothing I do seems to be good enough right now. I feel like I am in this cirlce.....surrounding me is society that does not understand, family members and friends that do NOT want to understand, the school system, the legal system, the Doctors and Therapist, His Sibling and him....

Kristen - posted on 11/22/2009

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As a person who has had both illnesses since I was 18 (I am 36 now) the best thing that you can do for your loved ones is to just listen. Also get therapy both individually for you and your loved one, but also family therapy. If your loved one is heading towards suicide he or she may need hospitilization and medication. Just be patient! The road to recovery is long and medication may need to be tweaked around a bit. Also, I have been medication free and in remission for the last 7 years!

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