Appropriate age to have a boyfriend?

Pamela - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter will be 15 in November. She is interested in boys and more interest in a "specific" boy. What age is it appropriate for a teen girl to have a boyfriend? I know I had dated pretty young but things go alot faster now than when I was young (and they went pretty fast back then). What should a 14 year old's limitations be? Thanks for any advice!!


Dorothy - posted on 05/18/2012




I'm struggling with that same question. My daughter will be a freshman this coming September and has asked if she could have a boyfriend in the 8th grade. At first I thought no way, but than I remembered that I was in the 8th grade when I got my first boyfriend. I allowed it only because I knew the kid since they were in 4th grade and I know the parents. I wanted my daughter to kind of experience the whole I have a boyfriend thing before she goes to high school in a couple of months. Once high school comes into play the older guys will try and prey on the fresman girls as always. Needless to say, her boyfriend lasted only 2 weeks. She was crushed and upset because she had been crushing on him for years. I'm happy she went through it and maybe now high school will not be so challenging with curiosity about what does it feel like to have a boyfriend. 8th grade should probably be the grade I'll say that I would be comfortable with for group dates and so called boyfriend/girlfriend. High school is where I would leave dating for.At 14 you should be able to have a boyfriend, but nothing serious. Couple of movie dates, maybe a kiss here and there, but that's it. Definetly no alone time in any rooms, ALL VISITS SUPERVISED!!!!!!


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Char - posted on 10/24/2015




I'm new here and having a bit of a time figuring out how to use this website. Listen your post resonnated with me as I have a daughter 15. I always thought no boyfriends until 16. The decision for us came down to trust. we are really fortunatel, living in a very small town, that the boy my daughter liked was a good kid. Come from a very nice and well respected family, not all communities are going to have this luxury. I would encourage you to talk to both your daughter and the boy and see if you can get a sense of whats going on. Is your duaghter open and confident in speaking frankly with you? I would encourage abstinance as much as possible, but if you think that's not working, take her to a gynological appointlment and have the Dr. explain some things to her. that way it isn't coming from you and maybe she'll hear some advice. Good luck

Tara - posted on 04/22/2010




Good luck with this one! I think it's important to look at trust and responsibility when answering this question for yourself--and remember to not let the rest of the 'world' influence what you allow (you will never be able to compete with what "everyone else gets too", trust me :)

With my daughter, and my older son actually, we differentiated between having a bf and dating. They weren't allowed to date until high school. We did allow group dates, though, in 8th grade.

Hope this helps :)


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