Shan - posted on 05/07/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
my 15 year old daughter has started seeing a boy who lives 45 min away, they only see each other on weekends but talk flat out on phone. He isnt the type of boy I want for my daughter, he is 18, smokes weed and cigarettes, dresses like a try hard rapper and is way to forward for my liking. I believe they are sexually active (which is why i placed her on contraception), although on the odd saturday night when he stays here he is made to sleep in the lounge room, i dont think the rules are so strict at his house. My daughters behaviour and attitudes have changed since she has been with him but i am worried that if i attempt to stop this relationship that she will rebel against me. She wants to move schools to be closer to him and has started pushing all her friends away, she is argueing at home more with me and being totally disrespectful to everyone else in the house. Im at a total loss at how to deal with this without pushing my daughter further away. This boy apparently is the only person who "understands" her in her eyes. Everyone tells me to end it and ban him from her but i know she will only sneak out and rebel against me if i do that. Should i accept the situation, make her end it or just keep a eye on it and hope she doesnt stray down the wrong path? The drug taking worries me, what if she feels the need to start smoking weed too? What if she ends up pregnant?