Jennifer - posted on 03/13/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
Well, my husband of almost two years has decided that after a child that is 9 months old and a child on the way, he is not ready to be a daddy or a husband. He has 3 kids by two different mommies before me. It hurts, because he is the one person that was never suppose to leave or never hurt me and keep his promises to me at any and all costs. It hurts more now, because I know our boys will be affected by this once they get older. The unborn child will barely even know him and the 9 month old just sees the back of him every time he leaves. I feel so bad for him, but am thankful he is so young that HOPEFULLY he won't know the difference. It just hurts so bad, because I exhausted myself literally trying to make it work. We were separated once before because he would not try. Now, I gave him the option after trying to work it out by separation and counseling or a divorce, he chose divorce. He is having me file because he has no time. He is a disabled Army vet from the Iraq war, and has many issues. I have had to really grow up and mature so I can raise our son, and our child on the way. Both his ex wife and family have pretty much made me the "black sheep" of the family since day one. His ex wife even said recently that she was proud of him for going to school full time and working full time to get away from me. Yet, I am a pre law major and would advocate for her as much as him. I even took care of her girls when she abused them. I have always been there for him and his kids, and now he wants his freedom leaving me to care for the two we are having together. Only now it won't be together. He has agreed to alimony and child support, but when they get older they are going to have questions. I hate that this is happening to me. I won't be able to move on for a while, mainly because of being a full time stay at home mom and a full time student...but more importantly because I don't want to confuse our boys. That and the pain is too great to even try to have someone else. I don't know if I can trust anyone else right now....anyone else have advice or know of something to help me get through this besides prayer and all that. I pray everyday and am very religious. Please any advice would be wonderful!!!