What am I going to do?

Sheleen - posted on 11/04/2010

I'm kind of in the same boat as you. Except my says I still love you I just don't know if I wannt to be married anymore and live the lifestyle that we've lived the past 7 years! It's been 3 almost 4 months now for us and I'm having a heck of a time doing it. I also thought I was pregnant, as we were trying. Then he comes home from where he works after being on shift and gone to visit his family so it had been 3 weeks almost since we'd seen each other and then basically tells me that he's not happy, has lived the past 7 years of his life sick to his stomach cause he feels like he can't talk to me and a whole bunch of other stuff. Then 2 weeks later i get a cell phone bill and yea you could imagine how happy i was to discover that he was talking to slut that he met over visitin his family. He has not physically cheated but he's having/had an emoitional affair and doesn't want to admit to it even though he has admitted as far that what she has said to him is inappropriate. I don't understand either. I can't imagine going through this and being pregnant too. It would be hard to not stress, kinda like you said, how would you not?! Mine still calls and talks to our two kids and we still talk but it is hard. It gets a lil easier by distracting yourself with stupid little things, going out to a movie or park, and stuff like. But you will have bad days. My guess is there may be another person already pulling him away depending on how he acts towards you or comes across to you, we can usually tell. You are good enough. I think guys totally have a way of pushing their insecurities onto us and making us feel that way and bad about ourselves becauase they feel guilty and want to make it someone else's fault not their own. And since you are the closest person to them, guess who gets the blame.....us! There is no preparing. Mine came out of the blue, but even thinking that it might happen doesn't make it any easier. Sometimes us doing the right thing doesn't mean it's any easier or makes us feel any better. But at some point, we have to do what's right for us and our kids, not them. I wish you all the luck and I'm here if you want to continue to talk. Sending prayers and love to you.

Kristy - posted on 08/01/2010

I am with you completely! I have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old. And my husband has decided that he wants to single life and want to go out and party and drink with his friends, but then once a week he wants to come over and spend the night. It is so hard because I would have done ANYTHING for him. But I am just now starting to realize that our relationship was not how it should have been but it is still so hard. I love him to death and it is hard not knowing what he is doing. Feel free to vent to me anytime!!!