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Behavior gets worse more time he spends with dad....

Alisha - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My son is 7, he lives with his grandmother (his dad's mom) but there has never been a problem with visitation. She allows myself an is father to spend as much time with him as we want, his dad has never been good about actually spending time with him. But now that he is getting older an into the same things that his dad is then dad is around more, but his grandma an I have both realized that the more time he spends with his dad the worse he behaves for us. Dad claims that he has no problem getting him to behave but he is really getting out of control. He will look at me while I tell him something an then turn an do exactly what I told him not to. His grandmother an I are ready to pull our air out, anyone have advice????

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Careen - posted on 04/19/2010

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Hi! In reply to your post, I would think that if like you said, your son is enjoying spending more time with his dad because he is into the same things as him (which is understandable as he is a boy and all men are boys at heart really! :P) I would say that maybe he feels upset when he has to go home to his gran's and even though she may try to do the same activities, hobbies with him as he does with his dad, it's not the same to him. Do you get that?? Y'know, when he's doing it with his dad it's more fun to him than doing the same with his gran! I know I wouldn't really have enjoyed going fishing with my gran or skateboarding!! Not that I could see her doing that! lol :P But at the end of the day he's got to realise that he can't play up like that every time he comes home from being with his dad. If need be you should maybe turn round and say to him that when he comes back next time, if his behaviour is the same then you will speak to his dad about maybe not doing as many fun things next time. Maybe if you spoke to his dad about it he could have a word with him?? Maybe if he seems to behave more for his dad then he will listen to him and take on board that he needs to behave for you and his gran or he won't get the treats off his dad to begin with?! I hope this has given you something to think about and I hope you get this sorted! Bye! x

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