Mother's Who do not have Residential Custody of their Children

Cheryl - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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If there is anyone out there who needs help, or advice, please contact me. I have found out that there are alot of Moms who do not have their kids, for whatever reason.......there is alot of help for you out there, contact me anytime!

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Ellie - posted on 06/11/2013

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Last summer I had an episode of severe depression that resulted in a suicide attempt. To avoid any issues with dfys I signed residential custody of my child to my mother. All was fine as i also moved in with her but months later as typical I couldn't be in the same house with her and decided for my overall sanity I needed to be on my own again. However my mother went on a power trip and now refuses to even let me take my child to my new home. I am livid as my time to see my child is now limited to one day a week on my mothers terms yet she insists she's trying to make sure we still maintain a bond. I am no longer comfortable with this situation as it is. She says because of my episode she no longer trusts that i am capable of being alone with her and that i have to prove myself worthy by her standards which mean id never be able to prove it. For school purposes my child needs to live with her grandma but I feel that removing her title as residential guardian will put her back in her place as to who is and has been responsible for making decisions on welfare. All I want is to be able to have my child sleep in my home as we see fit not as my mother determines.

Jessica - posted on 06/20/2014

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I need lost of advice. My mother has custody of my three sons, but refuses to let me see them. Tomorrow is my youngest's 11th birthday and I won't get to see him. I miss my babies.

Cheryl - posted on 06/15/2013

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My Daughter is 23 now,well adjusted, hard working, and Loves me as much as she did before her Dad took her for residential custody.I am going to tell you what my parents told me when I lost my court battle, get on with your life,I did, I have a loving Husband, and you are already more than half way there already! your children will hear a lot of bad things, they appear to go along with it, they have no choice, they definitely DO NOT hate you,when they figure it all out and they will, you will have them back focus on your relationship,take care of yourself, because we have our hands tied when we are abused, so rise above it you can and keep them in your heart bonds of mother and child are never broken no matter what.

Kristy - posted on 04/28/2014

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Thank you for your post, that gives me hope. My daughter is almost 8 and I think she is starting to understand already. I have had zero hope, for 7 years I have been trying but it is a small town and the main judge is my ex's uncle ( trust me, I know) I finally got a lawyer last year and held him in contempt for not allowing visitation but holding out for custody is apparently a loss. I had never been "unfit", just without the family and support he had. I suppose after so long I just need to see her as much as possible and move on because it is killing me

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Sandra - posted 1 day ago

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i need help please , how can i contact you
my email is spicersandra@live.com my \name is sandra spicer+

Yvette - posted on 11/29/2014

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PLEASE HELP ME GET MY DAUGHTER BACK. I was a full time mum for four years to my beautiful little girl who is now five. I left my ex partner as their was domestic violence in the relationship, emotional abuse, financial abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, constant mind games, he was extremely controlling and was putting my daughters life in great danger due to his alcoholism and drug taking. We went constantly back and forth with litigation and at he beginning of 2013 he won sole parental care of or daughter due to a VERY BAD decision made by the Judge and because of my useless Legal Aid Lawyer who simply did not care that he was fighting for my child and who did not stand up for me in Court not even ONCE to defend me when I was being cross examined by my ex's Lawyer. My daughters father has been and still is sexually abusing our daughter. My daughter started disclosing the sexual abuse to me when she was three. I reported it to the Department for Child Protection and both my daughter and I were accused of fabricating her disclosures and at our Trial the Judge accused me of accusing the disclosures so therefore I was trying to alienate our daughter from her father Go Figure Ha. I was simply a mother who believed I was doing the right thing by reporting to DCP and I was punished for it. What has the Family Court System come to and the Department for Child Protection were meant to be there to PROTECT my little girl and they have failed her in every possible way. In the end the father got sole parental care of our daughter he does all these horrendous things to our daughter and to myself yet gets our daughter pretty much full time. I only see my daughter five night a fortnight and it is not enough. Every day Im not with her I just don't want to die. My daughter is my ENTIRE world. Se hates living with her dad she tells me all the time. In the past couple of months my daughter has started displaying signs of severe separation anxiety disorder from me and it is traumatising to watch as she is unconsolable when having to leave me to the point where she is using physical force such as hitting, punching, biting, kicking, scratching using everything she can not to go back to see her father. This is having a traumatic effect on me as I am so unbelievably worried for my daughter. She needs more time with her mother but the father just will not allow it. I want to go back to Court but I am petrified about representing myself as I don't have the confidence to speak in front of a Judge or go up against my ex's phenomenal Lawyer. I must save my daughter from the hell that she is living in but I feel that I don't have a leg to stand on as its like fighting City Hall.

Lynn - posted on 08/06/2014

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i left in october bc the mental abuse was too much to take. my kids now live with my husband in the house i raised them pretty much as a single mom. husband (going through a divorce now)makes a lot of $$ but is a controlling asshole. My kids were and are my life. I raised them for 16 yrs. he hired a nanny who washes the clothes and thats about it. she watches tv all day and the kids hate her. i go to the house every day and cook for them and take them places. I am also in recovery for alcohol and have a breathalyzer in my car for everyones' own protection. Do you think I can get the house and kids back?

Jennifer - posted on 07/17/2014

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Jennifer Kendrick July 12, 2014
1636 Curry Street
Brandon, Florida 33510]
(813) 802-6278
Jenniferkendrick2014@gmail.com

To whom it may concern:
Re HEART BROKEN MOTHER!!!
I don’t know who else to turn to and I am begging for your HELP getting my children back from their father due to a BAD custody decision on the part of Judge Tracy Sheehan, Plant City, Florida family law court.
I recently went through a divorce that I filed for back in September 2013. I and my ex-husband have 2 children together. I personally have 5 children in total. I have been a mother since I was 15 years old and have been a single mom to three of my children full time.

History: When both of our children were born I was not married to their father. Eric was born on May 19, 2006 and Ian was born on June 6, 2008. Their father and I were married on December 1, 2008. When I gave birth to our son Eric his father was married and living with his previous wife. I raised him alone for as a single parent until he finally left his wife October 2006. We later had our son Ian in 2008 and married in December 2008. He was never a very good father and didn’t spend time with his children. Instead would play video games 24/7 and take no responsibility for them. Example, he did not work to support them and for many years we had to live with my mother. I was a stay at home mother for both of the children and was the one that took care of them 95% of the time. Both of our children have had medical issues. Ian was diagnosed with speech issues and sensory problems. He attended occupational therapy and speech therapy at All Children’s Hospital. Our son Eric has many medical issues as well. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, speech issues, he sees a gastro doctor for SEVERE constipation, developmental delays. He also has been seen for severe joint pain by a juvenile RA specialist at All Children’s Hospital and his PCP doctor said that he has emotional issues as well. Eric has suffered with MRSA several time and has 22 different allergies and is currently being seen by an allergist. He receives 4 allergy shots per week for the next 5 years. I was the one that made sure that our children received the medical attention need to correct these problem. Their father did not ever take the children to any doctor’s visits. By the way my ex-husbands name is Robert S. Kendrick. Robert was married a total of 3 times and has a son with his first wife as well. This son is now 16 and lives in Japan with his mother. Robert abandoned his now 16 year old son and has never had contact nor supported him financially or emotionally. For most of Robert’s employment history he was a truck driver. For the year of 2012 he was employed with Rountree Transport and Rigging, Inc. out of Jacksonville, Florida. In January 2013 Robert came to me and advised me that he was going to start driving for an owner operator leased to the same company that Robert was a company truck driver for. He advised me that he was going to be making $600.00 per week cash. I believed him because he was my husband. Robert would be gone the entire week, left on Sunday and returned on Friday evening. He was only a local truck driver but slept in his semi the entire week so that he did not have to return home every night and deal with me or our children. Many months pasted and I began to question his honesty and employment status, so I questioned him as to why he would leave a job where he was making 1500.00 per week to take a job where he only made $600.00 per week cash. He stated that over a period of years that he would eventually own the Semi that he was driving and could make more money. So him being away from the home and his children started taking a toll on our family. Robert was not a good father, Spent no time with our kids, screamed at them when he was around them and tried to stay away as much as possible. It even came to the point that my son Eric would cry because daddy WAS COMING HOME! He did not want him to return home. I finally had enough of all the deception and filed for divorce September 4, 2013. When I told Robert that I wanted a divorce, he agreed and we discussed how this would all work regarding the children. We mutually agreed that I would be the one to file the dissolution of marriage papers and that we would continue to live in the same home with the children until January 2014. This would give me a chance to get a job, since I was a stay at home mom and did not work and to get through the Christmas season with the children. A short time later I began to date my current boyfriend and he as well began to date his current girlfriend. Things were going great and so many people couldn’t believe out well we were working together to make this as easy on the children as possible. I had taken a cruise with now current boyfriend and Robert and his new girlfriend agreed to keep the children while we were gone. Our two children Eric and Ian as well as my daughter from a previous relationship name Haley. I was gone a total of 5 days. The day that the cruise ship docked back in Tampa, FL my daughter called me and stated that Robert has taken items from the home, to include. A 16x20 shed, my wedding and engagement ring, the TV. Off the wall even removed cable boxes and had home phone service turned off, the most important documents, his motorcycle, his truck and other items, and hired an attorney and left the two children at that time aged 5 and 7 with my then 16 year old daughter and my boyfriend’s then 13 year old daughter and left the home for good. I was confused and did not know why this had happened. We had everything worked out or so I thought. He left me and the children in the home with no money, no food, no job and the rent due in 5 days. He had not been paying household bills, such as cable/telephone, electric or water bill in several months. So the electric was being shut off in two days and water the next day. I had NO PLACE to go with my three children. He had totally abandoned me and his children!!! My current boyfriend took me and my children into his home, with no notice and really not enough room to accommodate us but was not going to leave us on the street. We had to be out of the home that I shared with my now ex-husband within the week. We moved in with my current boyfriend and he took on the responsibility of supporting us. He even added on to his home to make more room for all of us, as he also has full custody of one daughter and 50/50 shared custody of another daughter. So now we have 7 in our household VS three that he has before me and my children. I continued to search for employment but due to the fact that I have been a stay at home mom for so many years it has been difficult. I have no current work history. So me and my boyfriend decided that I would continue to be stay at home mom and care for my three children as well as his two children (my other two are adults and no longer live with me, there are currently 22 and 25 years old) I have been living with my boyfriend from October 2013 to current. The entire marriage to my now ex-husband he was NEVER interested in his children but since I filed for divorce he seems to have had a change of heart (or the truth that he didn’t want to pay child support) So the entire time that we have been living in separate homes he has had visitation with the children. I have gone out of my way to make sure that our children have had a relationship with their father. He has had them every other weekend with them during the school year and every day that they have been out of school. He had them for Spring break and one week of Christmas break. He has seen the kids every holiday and any other time that he has requested. He was paying me elected child support in the amount either $50.00 or $100.00 per week. We both agreed that the children would live with me and that he would have a fair amount of visitation. So we attended many case management hearing related to our pending divorce and both of us has an attorney (I had no money to hire an attorney, so my boyfriend once again stepped up to help me and paid $3500.00 to hire me an attorney) During almost a year that we were waiting for the divorce to be handled through the Florida court system we tried to work out our own terms. These negotiations went back and forth and no matter if I agreed to the visitation that he wanted he would then not agree with me and want even more. He had been discussing with his attorney how much child support he would be required to pay and was told that the more overnight’s that he has the children that he would be required to pay less. So no matter what I agreed to it was NEVER enough. His lawyer was calling my lawyer and trying to bully me into giving him anything and everything that he, Robert wanted. Trying to encourage my attorney to persuade me to just agree. I had already agreed to every other weekend during the school year, all school holidays, such as teacher work days etc. half of the summer, all of Spring break, half of Christmas break, all of Memorial Day, Labor Day, 4th of July and Christmas Day, Thanksgiving and Easter to be shared (half day with me and half day with him). Robert wanted overnights 3 Wednesday during the school year and I would not agree to this due to the fact of all of Eric’s medical issues,like ADHD. I felt like this would be too disruptive to the children while attending school. As well as having a doctor’s note to back up the fact that it was not advisable to have this kind of visits during the school year. I have had our children enrolled in Mango Elementary school since August 2013 and they were in the 2nd and kindergarten. They have both received Honor roll, citizenship awards the entire school year. I was able to maintain them having perfect grades even through the divorce and residential changes. Ian even received Perfect attendance the entire year. When Eric was in kindergarten he attended Hugo Elementary school and had many problems. Both in grades and behavior. He almost didn’t pass kindergarten and was being physical with other children. This is the time that I had him evaluated by his pediatrician and evaluated for ADHD. He was put on medication for ADHD the summer after finishing kindergarten. The following year I went through the school board and applied for special assignment to a different school in hopes of improving his educational experience. I did receive permission to enroll him into Mango Elementary School at that time. He attended Mango beginning in 1st grade and did much better. 2nd grade he continued to attended Mango Elementary and continued to excel both in grades and behavior. Even dealing with having ADHD. 2nd grade is the same year we moved away from his father and were going through a divorce. I continued to take Eric for his ADHD evaluation’s every 3 months with his pediatrician. As report cards can prove, Eric seemed be doing 100% better being away from his father and that atmosphere. I also continued to take Eric and Ian to ALL doctors’ visits and his father only attended 2 or 3 at the most. He only attend any doctor’s visits since we had separated, none while we were married and living together. Eventually Eric started to develop side effects due to the ADHD medications and experienced weight loss, so the doctor removed him from the medications. At this time he was taking 4 medication daily. ADHD and several allergy medications as well. Even during the time of not being on medication for his ADHD I still managed to maintain him getting good grades in school. As time passed I still tried to come to an agreement with Robert regarding the children’s visitation. He would agree with me to an arrangement on the phone, tell me to have my attorney to type it up and he would sign it. As soon as my attorney called his attorney, he would inform us that he does NOT agree. This went on 4 or 5 times and even the day before our divorce trial Robert’s attorney called my attorney just before 5 pm and said, ok he wants to agree on the what Robert and I had discussed the previous Monday. No such luck, I called Robert to clarify that he wanted to agree once again. He told me NO I am not agreeing. I felt like no matter what I agreed to it was NEVER enough for him. I felt like what I was offering was fair to both of us. I have never wanted to keep my kids away from their father! Robert had been telling me that he wanted to work this out, after Robert told me that he wanted to agree on an arrangement then calling me back to tell me that he spoke to his attorney and the attorney told him not to agree. My attorney would call the other attorney and he would call his own client a liar and say that he never spoke to Robert about that and never said that. I am at this point totally lost and confused, as well as my attorney. So the final divorce trial date comes, Thursday July 10, 2014 (THE DAY MY LIFE TOTALLY FELL APART!!!!) The judge presiding over our case was Tracy Sheehan, Plant City, Florida family court. I had brought 4 witnesses (would have been more but we were under the impression that this was all going to be worked out and we would never make it to trial) No depositions were taken because two days before the depositions were to take place, that’s when Robert decided that he wanted to come to our own terms. So the depositions were cancelled. It was a ploy to avoid them all together. He didn’t want to be caught in all his lies. Did I mention that the so called job that he has driving a truck for the owner operator, making $600.00 cash a week was just another lie? He owned the truck and on his 2013 tax return stated that he made 82,224.00 that year. He lied to me about owning a company. Maybe I was too naïve but I thought I could trust my husband? None of the evidence that I had provided to my attorney was even submitted to the courts! Reports card, doctors note nothing!!!! All I had to count on was witnesses in court. Court began and I was the first witness, then our old neighbor, my sister, my oldest (25 years old) son, and then my 22 year old son. The only evidence that my attorney showed in court was: My financial affidavit, Robert’s financial affidavit, Robert’s tax return and a stack of household bills that Robert provided. I felt like my testimony was going well. My sister and our old neighbor went well also. Then my oldest son, 25 years old named Michael took the stand. My son has several tattoos and has had some drug addictions as an ADULT. I marchman acted him when he was 20 (not living with me) due to drug use. He was placed in a drug rehab facility for a year to battle these demons that he had. I cared enough about my child to get him the help that he needed. Having to go to the mental health division of the court house and having to have him picked up by the police, taken to a detox center and taking him to court to force him to be admitted into rehab was the hardest thing I have ever had to do! The emotional toll that this took on me, when my own child had no place to live except his car sue to the addiction. All of that is VERY hard for a mother to deal with. I could not allow him into my home to protect my other children from his choice of lifestyle. But I took up the “Tough love” approach and he got the help that he needed to repair his life. During the time when Michael was going through this time, Michael made the choice to get a tattoo on the side of his forehead of “FL”. He claimed at the time that it was a reminder of where he was from. Clearly not in his right mind when he made that decision. I did not agree with it but he was an adult and a parent cannot control their children after they are adults and move away from my home. So as soon as Michael took the stand, before he even opened his mouth, the judge said to him “FL what is that?” He replied, Florida. I took her comment as if she had already labeled him just according to his appearance. Robert’s attorney began to ask him questions and because my ex-husband was aware of my son’s past drug problem that is the first thing they laid into him about. Michael had a look on his face like he was embarrassed and humiliated for his past. Michael really didn’t feel like HE was on trial here and didn’t want to answer any questions regarding this matter. If I’m not mistaken, I think that Michael is protected by the marchman act regarding this private matter. A marchamn act is not public record and is part of the mental health division, don’t think that he is required to divulge this information. It is not on his record as a crime or anything. A person is supposed to be protected when they receive this type of help. Anyway, the judge proceeded to “ride” him about his drug addiction and he did finally admit to of having this problem and being placed in to a rehab at one time. Michael even told the judge that he was 20 years old when this happened. Michael did not even live with me or my children! So after this testimony needless to say the judge was “Pissed off” and I believe had it out for me at that point. My 22 year old son was then placed on the stand and Robert’s attorney proceeded to question him regarding his lifestyle (this child does not live me or my children either) He was asked if he used marijuana and as I raised my children to be honest. He admitted that he did, but not much anymore due to his current employment. Robert’s attorney then asked if he had ever smoked marijuana with me! My son looked SHOCKED and said “With my mom? NO NEVER! Robert was claiming that I smoked marijuana with my son! I do NOT DO DRUGS OF ANY KIND!!!!! Robert was LYING under oath! All of my witnesses stated that I was a great mother, that Robert was never at our home with the children, that he did not ever take the kids to doctor’s visits, when he was home all he did was yell at the kids. They testified that Robert would leave me and the children home all week with no food and no money to buy food or gas to get our son to the doctor or school. That I had to borrow money from these people in order to feed our children. It was all brought out in testimony. Robert even admitted that when my oldest son was 14, Robert grabbed Michael by the neck and lifted him off the ground because Michael called me a name. That was Robert’s idea of discipline!! When that happened I informed Robert not to ever put his hands on my children. I don’t even spank my children!!! Then they called Robert’s witnesses. They tried to call three witnesses but one of them was not even on the witness list so Robert’s mother was not allowed to testify. First witness was another old neighbor named Barbara. She is very close to Robert, She even told me right after I filed for divorce that she wanted to date him and to have sex with him! She moved to the same city as Robert. (Did I mention that Robert also lives in another county, he moved to Polk County and lives in a home that his mother purchased with the intentions of transferring it into Robert’s name after the divorce was final) He admitted that on the stand as well. Also listed on his financial affidavit that he paid the property tax on this property. Barbara stated that I was a great person and mother until I filed for divorce, then I totally changed. That she is a med tech and did not agree with the ADHD medications that Eric’s doctor had put him on. Next witness was Robert’s current Girlfriend and she testified that Robert was a great father. She was NEVER around us or our marriage and had no idea what kind of father he was prior to the divorce. Robert dated his current girlfriend in high school and then began dating her again in September 2013. That was the only evidence or proof of anything. He didn’t produce ANY not the first piece of evidence during this divorce trial. Just his word and his witness’s testimony. He accused me of being the worse person to walk the face of this earth and could not produce ANY proof of any of it. My attorney even out me back on the stand and asked me about all of the things that he had accused me of and I clarified that they WERE NOT TRUE! So now it was in the hands of the judge………

THE MOMMENT MY HEART WAS RIPPED OUT OF MY CHEST AND MY WORLD CRUMMBLED!!!

The judge looked over her noted for about 5 minutes and then stared telling me that I was a horrible person! She told me that I didn’t even love my children, that I only thought about myself, that my oldest children were a good example of bad parenting, that I WAS A DRUG ADDICT (SO SO SO SO untrue! I would have submitted to a drug test on the spot), that because I did not work and I lived with my boyfriend of a year that I was not stable (I really had no choice of where to go, Robert would have left us sleeping under a bridge if my boyfriend had not taken us in) She said that I was an alcoholic and so was my boyfriend because we drank socially and because when my boyfriend was 22 years old he was arrested for DUI and it was dropped, never convicted. She said that our household had domestic violence in it because my boyfriend was arrested in 2011 (Before I even knew him) for domestic violence and was NEVER convicted of anything! It was dropped! He was married at that time and him and his wife had an argument and the police said he was SUSPECTED of pushing her. No marks on her and it was dropped. When Robert was arrested in North Carolina for 3 counts of battery, one being on a minor. Robert admitted this in court and that was ok to the judge. That I refused to let my children see their father, she said the main reason she sided to give the children to their father was because I allowed them to go to an elementary school with a “D” Rating. Even knowing that they were honor roll students! Robert told her that the school he would sent the children to an “A” rating. She didn’t check herself, once again took his word. I looked the school rating up and it also is a “D” rated school. The judge stated that Robert was a very involved parent but yet on the stand he admitted that he did not attend but only 2 or 3 doctors’ visits (since we have been apart) and he didn’t even know the doctors names! She ordered for my children to be turned over to Robert and that I am only to have visitation. Every other weekend and dinner on Wednesday’s!! I don’t even know how this could happen and I NEED HELP GETTING MY CHILDREN BACK!! The judge said that he was a great parent because he does school projects with the kids (Just since we have been apart) and she didn’t hear me mention that I did any of that. I was not asked that question, I was only able to tell what I was asked. When I would try to tell the court other thing regarding me and my children, the judge would tell me to stop, that I was not being spoken too!!! She hated me and didn’t hear anything that I or my witnesses said. I thought that in order to punish someone for something you had to prove it. Proven innocent until proven guilty. Something is really wrong with the way that this judge runs her court and the decisions that she make. She has children’s lives in her hands and in the end the children are the one that suffer due to her own personal feelings. My oldest son pissed her off and I paid the price. I lost my precious babies. I am very close to my children. Really I am all they have ever had. Their dad was never there until he thought he was going to have to pay child support! I am at a loss and don’t know what to do. My heart was ripped out and stomped on!! My 8 year old even asked me and my boyfriend last night if we could have a yard sale to sell all of his toys and we asked him why he wanted to sell all of his toys. He replied, so that we can raise money so that mommy can get us back! The children are aware of the situation because Robert told them. Do you know how that broke my heart? My baby wants to be with me and there’s nothing I can do about it. I don’t have a lot of money to hire another lawyer. My boyfriend has a good job and makes good money. He had been employed with the same company for 13 years, lived in the same home for 12. He is taking care of 7 people and can’t afford to hire me another attorney either. The judge ordered me to pay child support. She also said that Robert was not to pay any retro child support to me because he paid 5 months of my car insurance. For a vehicle that he was also listed on the title and was also covered by insurance through the same policy. The judge said that I don’t get any additional marital property, even though Robert stole my wedding ring and engagement ring and pawned it. The things that he took from the home were worth over double the household item that he left in the home. I have to pay half of the household bills, including a Verizon wireless bill that Robert had in 2006. Robert was married to someone else and I didn’t marry him until 2008. How does this happen in America? I really have no faith in our justice system anymore  I just don’t know. I am begging someone to please HELP ME!! I may not know anything about myself but I know I am a good mother. I had a child at the age of 15, I gave my life to take care of my children. I live for my children. I love them more than breathing!!! I am forwarding this letter to anyone that will listen to me. All the way to the president of the United States. Someone out there had to do something to help me get my kids back. I will never be the same without them! Today is my birthday but I really don’t have anything to celebrate without my babies. I am willing to do anything I can to reverse this bad decision. How does a mother lose her kids when they are truly a good person?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this!
Jennifer Kendrick

Betsy - posted on 07/09/2014

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So I have 2 daughters and have been a single mom their entire lives my oldest is 23 and my youngest will be 16 shortly. Up until 2 years ago My younger daughters father really took no part in her life. I found out when I was 6 months pregnant that he was married. he had begged me to get an abortion all the way up until I was 5 months. When my daughter was born I took him to court to establish visitations and the judge ordered him every other weekend which he declined because he didnt want his other daughter to know that "daddy had a baby with someone else" I have had her for 13 years raising her on my own. I moved to another state because her father had held me hostage at gun point for 6 hours where he raped and sodomized me while my oldest daughter was awake. He was a police detective for 22 years when this happened. I was taken to the hospital where they did a rape kit and was then taken to Internal Affairs He was arrested later that day. On bail He threatened me and told me he had a lot of bad friends that owed him favors. I ended up dropping charges and he raped me twice after that. Out of fear I moved 400 miles away. through the years I allowed him to see her and talked to her as often as he liked however, he did not take advantage of it . He would see her maybe twice a year and would call every now and again. He was eventually forced into early retirement as a result of my accusations and thats when all hell broke lose. I received a petition in the mail stating he was fighting for custody in the state i had fled 7 years prior... I consulted with an attorney who told me to file for custody in the state I had lived in for the last years an did I was awarded custody in my state and he was awarded custody in the state he filed. He than petition the courts to allow the state my daughter was born in to have Jurisdiction. He won.. At 14 years old my daughter had to leave with a man she hardly knew. She begged him to not take her but he did. I filed an appeal and have went through 10,000 in legal fees. I was awarded joint custody where I can get her every other weekend and all holidays and full summers. The judge also ordered that she call me every day. It has been almost 2 years and have only saw her twice. He has manipulated the system and every time i drive 400 miles to get her, he makes sure she is not there. I have called the police many times but each time one of his buddies would show up and i would be advised to take it to court which I have and he either doesn't show or postpones the hearings.... i am out of money and at my whits end. I miss my daughter very much when she gets a chance to sneak a phone she calls and tells me she wants to come home... I really need help.. I am so broken over all this and need help or advice.. thanks Bjetsy212@aol.com Oh I forgot to mention that my daughters were very close being that we were a family of 3, since her father took my youngest girl (they have different dad) He has not allowed her to have any contact with anyone on my side of the family. Not her aunts, uncles, cousins, Grandparents Her own sister not even me. Even though this man did horrible things to me, I never spoke bad about him to her and never denied him any rights. He is out for blood and doesn't even care about here. he just wanted to "pay me back" because he lost his wife and job.

Cassie - posted on 07/04/2014

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It is very wrong and disgraceful that there are so many mothers who don't have custody of their children. Even more sad if they're denied even seeing them. I have 4 kids and 2 of them live with their aunty. Been there 2 years and I've only been able to see them a handful of times.. Their aunty ( who is my eldest 3 kids' brothers wife) have recently split up and she's moved out with the kids ( hers and mine) and I don't even know where ( surely I have a right to know where my children are).. I've tried contacting their aunty via phone ( txt and calls), Facebook ( which she blocked me) have sent Xmas and birthday cards to their school ( I at least know they're still at the school) but nothing. I've spoken to lawyers but they don't seem like they know what to do. I'm very worried for my kids as my eldest daughter who is almost 10 is back living with me ( thank God!) because she was living with another aunty.. We'll dhs took her and gave her back to me as the aunty wasn't taking care of her like I thought. Now I'm scared my other 2 kids are being abused and brainwashed against me which isn't fair. They are 7 and almost 5 and I've missed a lot of their lives the past few years.. I'm meant to see them once a month and on special occasions like Xmas, birthdays etc but I either get ignored or get excuses. One lawyer I spoke to sent a letter out to the aunty warning her about breaching orders but things were ok for a short while now they're not. Ever since I had to go to court with dhs on my side to get back custody of my eldest she's gone into hiding because I have a feeling she's scared the other 2 kids will go back to me.. I thought I could trust her to take care of my kids and admit I wasn't coping with being a single mum of 3 at the time.. I thought I needed help not for my kids to be taken away forever.. I am now in another r/ship with a great guy I have a new son who is 3 months old and I'd love for him to meet his brother and other sister.. As I said my eldest is back with me which is great but she misses her siblings too.. Dhs won't help either but I may be getting a different case worker soon so hope he/she can do something.. Every day I miss my kids it isn't fair..:((

Heather - posted on 06/26/2014

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I also have three sons that my mother wont let me see. all three just had birthdays Zachary 17 june 12th, Jacob 16 june 4th, and Isaac june 10th... after 5 years of no contact she let them message me on the 10th out of nowhere on facebook. my oldest leaves for the navy next year and I begged her to let us start a relationship, she blocked me again. every single day is a nightmare. I miss them...

Kimberly - posted on 06/04/2014

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i gave my 2 kids to my mom now im 6 months pregnant would cps come to the hospital ??

Christina - posted on 05/01/2014

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I have custody of both of my kids but my 16 year old has been living with his grandma(adopted mom)there had been no rules,no consequences,he comes and goes as he pleases,I've called the police numerous times,they don't do much and now he's run away and has been gone for almost a week.Not to mention he's hanging around bad people and doing bad things and now he hasn't been out of school even .though its court ordered.Why isn't the grandma ever held accountable when he's in her home and I'm being left in the dark about everything?

Vanessa - posted on 03/14/2014

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I need advice on what to do about my child's paternal grandma who has custody of my 16year old she took her to live in Texas today without telling me and I live in Iowa what can I do?

Vanessa - posted on 03/14/2014

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I lost custody of my child 15 years ago but just recently my 16 year old wants to move back in with me her paternal grandma has custody of her and took her to live with her in Texas I live in Iowa what can I do?

Linn - posted on 02/27/2014

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Its sad that their are so many mothers here without there children. Ive gone 2years without my 3 and I wake up crying and he got physical custody because he had a lawyer and a nice house and I had nothing and because I now have the same thing the courts find it fit that they stay with their father until they are old enough to decide. Ive fought many times only to lose. But my children know Ive fought that I will notgive up and iI believe later on in life they will realize how much I loved them. Not a day goes by that I dont think about them and Ive made it known by calls letters and gifts. I even email their teachers and help my oldest with school projects over the phone. I may not be there physically but I'm still there and I think it really matters. Dont give up hope keep praying and fighting. In the end whether you win or lose your children will know and love you more. My oldest is 12 and when she was here for Christmas she said "I know your doing all you can mom we all know you love us and soon we will be with each other more, I pray for it. I prayed for a sister and I got one so I know this will happen just dont give up" and coming from a 12year old its a huge statement.

Sophie - posted on 02/23/2014

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I have been going through a rough patch I had my daughter at 15 and this year I signed the residence order so her dad could care for her, I wanted her to have stability as I didn't when I was a child. Since her father has been granted residence he has stopped all Contact with my daughter she is 16 months now, and I have not seen her for 4 weeks now, any help or advice would be truly appreciated I'm 17 and can't stand this any longer

Tiffany - posted on 01/12/2014

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I need your help. I lost custidy of my kids to my mom. Then she moved out of state. Now she has brought the kids back to me but we havent went to court so I still have no rights. She has all the rights. Can the state take them from me if they find out the kids are living with me?

Mizz_21_nsexzee - posted on 12/19/2013

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It seems like we are all in the same boat and honestly who's helping us? No one. My kids were taken and honestly I don't even know why. My mom has them and I haven't seen them in two years. Goin back and forth to court. I have a son in my custody and I still can't get them back. It's like the courts enjoy taking our kids from us. What is this world coming to? How can they take control over another human beings offspring? How? I know I'm a very good mother or else I wouldn't have my son yet I can get girls back or see them due to the restraining order my mom has on me. How can anyone help?

Leah - posted on 11/21/2013

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please help me. i am going insane not having my beautiful babies with me. my name is leah and i lost my virginity to a bastard out of pennsylvania. im from mississippi and moved to pa 3yrs ago with the father of my children. i came from an abusive childhood of polygomy ran away because my dad arranged a marriage for me with an 50yr old man when i was only 19. .ran away into the arms of another emotionally abusive man. something inside told me to leave and to struggle to make it on my own and i was confident that i could with college. but boom... found out i was pregnant. so i decided too stay. moved to pennsylvania to be closer to the dads fam. i felt so alone in a alien state and he lo ved it. his own mom helped me get my first pa job and she also helped me hide ut from her son. it was hard living under the same roof as him aand hhiding a fullyime job. but i was determined get my own apt and raise my babies. and i did but being so desperate to grt from under his abusive thumb i was blind to all of financial obstacles having my own apt paying for my daughters daycare on a mim wage job. held onyo my little one bedroom apt for as long as i could before landlord kicked me iut fir losing my job. thats when i became homeless and felt forced to. let my babies dad take care of my little ones temporairily until i got on my feet. i recently fiund the best job ever and i rent a room in a townhouse so not living iutta my chevy astro anymore. but now the controlling bastard wont even let me see my babies. he is trying to take me to court for childsupport and get full custody of kids. i dont think so! someone please help me. i am sorry abiut all the typos. its 3am right now and am shakinng from pure determination to get my babies back with

Louise - posted on 11/06/2013

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p hav custody of a 10&13yr old...they dont want to listen or do anything but sat&wait 4moma to call...other than that all they want is to eat snaks&do nothin,they make me feel like they are using me till,deadbeat mom can get them...how should i deal with this??dont know why court dont wise up&see her for what she is???

Nikki - posted on 10/21/2013

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Hi, I need help and advice, ive already posted on here, I just want my son back hes my world n my ex is just being sn a**hole even down to limiting the time my 3year old spends with his 4 month old sister (40 mins a week) childrens services are involved and they believe hes bettrr off with hid dad who lives with his parents his bron his lil sis (they are aall at work except his sis) so no1 really spends time with my son, my ex has been on 3 hols this year all with his gf n 1 witn our son which he didnt even go full the fulk time!! My sons was diagnosed with hsp, due to constantly being ill since living with his dad, n his dad banned me from bisiting the hosp n told nurses not to give me info!
His gf haas been introduced to our son despite my concerns of her alcohol consumption (my dad was a violant drunk, one reason my ex was givin custody, but I havent spoke to him since that and havent seen him since a month later) I see my son 3 times a week for 2hours. n its not enough for me, I want custody or atIeast shared? The other reason he was given custody was because I was juggling my son, work and college on my own, and one day social worker came early in the morning (7am) and my home needed tidying a bit, however the worker exaggerated saying it was 'squalid' im worried ill never get him back because social workers reports stand above all else?? Please help!? TIA X

Judy - posted on 09/11/2013

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I am new to this and very frustrated. I left my ex after being married for 16 years due to him hitting me in front of my oldest child 11 at the time. I did not file any charges against him ( big mistake ) I had a bad lawyer that told me to give him temp. custody and get my own place to live, I did that very same day. Turns out she never put in the paper work that it was temp. so it looks like I just gave them away. I was a stay at home mother and my world was my two kids. In that order I was to pay child support and did not know it long story short I went to jail because In did not pay it. My ex has hit my oldest son and his own mother but when I took him to court for an emergency hearing after cps removed them nothing was done the were sent right back to him. Both kids last year miss 24 to 30 days of school, they had doctors notes but never did he send any meds. or did they seem sick to me at all. He was not taking them to their regular doctor just like different walk in clinic. Now this year they have been in school since August 1 and have missed five days all ready. I asked why the did not go to school and they told me because their dad did not get them up. what do I do?

Dawn - posted on 09/09/2013

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Oh I Am one of those mothers who's child was raised by another women. I have tried over the years to have a good relationship with my daughter, yet we live so far away from each other ( 10 hour).

My question is (or I should say any input) She is getting married in oct 2013 and I am missing all the mother duties of a wedding> She is my pride and I am feeling very left out. is this normal? Am i being selfish?

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/06/2013

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And its annoying to know that he doesn't spend anytime with him he is always outside n ma son inside the house with his girl. I hate that he can b home with me if he dont wanna pay attention to him.

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/06/2013

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Wow. I see. Yea karma is deff a bitch. Ma ex owns a bussiness n he ridin around with a bmw n a cr-v ballin. N thru my divirce i lost ma car in repo cuz i was spendin so much on ma lawyer. I basically gave him freedom by givin him his residence to b an american n he makes me look bad to ppl. Makes me look like im nobody. 'Cuz he got 4 days with ma son.' He a piece of shyt man. He says im ungreatfull.

U think by me being married helps?? He has diff girlfriends too n they take ma son a bath, i dnt like that. Right now he steady with one, im hopin he stay with her n stop changing girls.

Cheryl - posted on 08/06/2013

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Because my Fiance' died in a car accident 2 days before we were moving to New York, and I was understandably off the deep end, ex took the opportunity to ask me to sign a temporary res. agreement, then went straight to court and applied for perm. he was paying 2300 a month in child support, didn't want to pay I spent 35000,00 fighting him, finally gave up moved by my parents bought a house, and got on with my life, started fighting him on my own for every right that I was owed, and in the end guess what mr big stuff 16 years later lost his business and him his wife are each facing 15 years in prison for numerous federal tax charges, I feel sorry for their two sons, and my daughter who is 23 and lives in west palm beach near him, Karma what a Bitch! I am married for 12 years to the best guy in the world, my daughter still loves me, and I am happy, so who won? Certainly not him!

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/05/2013

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I have one question. If u dnt mind me askin. How/why did u loose the residential custudy of ur daughter

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/05/2013

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Ok thank u. I hope everything goes in my favor after iget married n have my day job

Cheryl - posted on 08/05/2013

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You will have no problem getting your son, you are what is best for him, and are trying to give him a family environment, I will email you tomorrow with the resources that are available to you, we all are allowed to get mad, we are Human, and Jersey girls, I was raised in Elizabeth, and will never be a Florida girl, but have to stay here to be close to my Daughter, and parents!

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/05/2013

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I don't bother him or anything. Buh im angry today because he made me look bad and was sayin that ma son will always live with him. And that he won the case. And i got loud telling him what a lier he is. So im guessing im only going to see my son in my 3 days for now.
I live in Newark NJ.
I didnt want to start this situation againg but i know for a fact that my son is better with me during the week for school. He is in preschool and they started to give homework with pictures. Right b4 the summer his father would pick him up from school n hand me his homework and pick him up at 8pm after work on his days.
I have my bachelor degree so I can b a teacher and i think im going to do that. Its only day time.
I wish he wasnt so hard headed. He told me today that he has a consultant for any desisions with our son. Because i asked him if in the summer time we can switch every week. He wants to b in control all the time. Its notgonna hurt beither one of us it willb better that way. Buh watever. Idk. But at the same time i want him on some weekens so that we can allgo out me my fiance and his 3 boys. But theres always an issue. I like when the 4 boys areall together instead my sin alone in the summer time

Cheryl - posted on 08/05/2013

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No Judgement is final,you can always file A Motion to Modify Residential Custody, put your baby first, don't listen to your ex husband he sounds like my ex husband, and after I got away from him I fought him, and his lies. We shared custody but he had residential, and took that ball and ran with it told everybody I was a drug addict, a mental case, and unstable, he thought he had sole custody, and I found out I had more rights as a non custodial parent, your baby will be starting school in one to two years, and you want to have a stable structured environment (extremely important) you don't need a Lawyer, and your state should have forms available or local courthouse online, that is what I did, you speak better for yourself than a Lawyer can, because Judges want what is best for the child, Lawyers give free consults I went to one, and wrote down what he said HE would do for 5000 and did it myself! You have to put up with your Ex, he will have visitation, and make sure he does not violate your rights to see your baby until you get this thing going. stay strong you will be surprised what you can do, stay calm and focused no matter what no fighting, or anything else, he will use it against you the father of your baby is NOT your friend, he just wants to hurt you. What state do you live in, I will see what resources I can find for you to get help. Keep your head up, you CAN do this!

Hnoemi02 - posted on 08/05/2013

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My ex husband lives behind his business in the old apt we were living in when we were married. And has a door right from the bussiness. Its an illegal apt and only one window and one exit. And he is never with our son he is always outside chillen and workin and our son inside with his girlfriend. He use to let me stay with ma son till he get off work but sinse his girl there he leaves him with her n he stays outside.

I gave him residential custody in our last case because i wasnt stabled financially yet. He took me to court after he had his residense to b a citizin for the USA and put a restrainimg order against me for physical abuse. He lost that case because he was lying. Then he put an emergency custody case and took my son. N i only saw him supervised by the babysitter. He had said i was on drugs n left my son everywhere to go party (not true). I got tested n he had no proff. I won that case. I was runimg out of money to keep fighting for half of his money so i let him keep that but not my son. Then we set a schedule and he was trying to give me a hard time because he wanted me to only have him 2 days. He said i abandoned my son (not true) after a year of battle we sat down n i fell for his lyes again and he said "i will pay the rest of what u owe ur layer n just let me have primary custody, n u will see how im not the person u think i am. I can b ur friend n help u financially" i believe him and let him have it. We were fine n i had my son everyday n 3 nights and now its all diffrent for the past 3 weeks. Everytime he gets mad at me he wont bring me my son on his days like he use to. We live a few blocks away. And i also work a few blocks away.
My son is now 3 goin on 4 in december. And hes been with his dad for 2 years total. Only 4 nights. Our divorce ended last year. The only diffrence is that my son is with me monday tuesday and thursday. Im trying to work with his dad in the schedule because i work nights too sometimes. But he is giving me a hard time because he feels like he is in control of everything. We both have legal custody.
Im getting married in september 21 2013 and i believe my son is better off living with me once i get a day only job, and school starts. His father doesnt have patients to sit there and help him learn. 1 because he has a very bad accent and always talkin spanish. 2 because he doesnt pay attention to him at all. So one more day in the week (wednesday) shouldnt b a problem. But he makes it seem like its a competition n tells ppl he won the case.

What can i do to get primary custody?
I have no money for a laywer. But he always has a laywer.

Brandy Renae - posted on 07/20/2013

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no your not a bad mom. I was in a similar situation. I know God has control of everything and its his will not anyone elses. I left my abusive ex and lost everything due to staying in the relationship and dr put me on some meds that made me get a dui and wanton endangerment and lost my kids its been 9 yrs and still trying to get my kids. but he judge and social workers are against me and I am happily married and have a stepson I hate not having my kids but I wouldn't go back cause I know one day I will have my kids and then my life will be complete. you staying just for your kids sake and if something worse could have happened to you and you being unhappy would not have been better. I kmow it will work out for you and me in GODS time. faith trust. Ill pray for you

Vicki - posted on 07/06/2013

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Hello, I haven't seen my son in 2 1/2 years. He is now 6. I understand the pain and grief. I am not yet strong enough to do the court battle and don't have enough money yet. Good luck in your battle. Keep in touch.

Ruth - posted on 06/08/2013

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Hello my name is Ruth I'm 32 my problem is that ever since I was joung I was in a abusive home alchohol, drugs, beating constant arguments, got kicked out a few times and my bro and sis got married at 15my father forsed me to marry at 17 after I got pregnant but not with the father of my child since he was rasist.. my ex husband hurt my son after we got married and hurt me so my parents took custody of my son I was heart broken to have lost my son, ay least that's what they told me.. reality was they had lied for years manipulated me and make me feel bad all my life.. I lost my son thanks to my parents and stupid me for letting them, still till this day they show no love, make me feel guilty and put my son against me and all my family.. then lost my daughter to an abusive ex that said he would bring her back and never did once I went to go get her cops said it was to laye. I got in depression and feel like such a looser mother.. I love them to death but I sometimes wonder why me lord I'm a good person.. my parents hate me, my son hates me because my parents made them belive his father didn't want him when that was a lie he always wanted him.. soon as my son wanted to live with me they moved to pr, soon as my daughter wanted to be with me his dad said he would take her to Honduras and I would never see her again.. I have a good man now, really suportive he sees all of the abuse and told me that I had to put my foot down that enough is enough.. my sister and I were molested by our father. I'm traumatized and have not yet heard I'm sorry I love u none of that, I feel hated.. I don't want my kids to hate me to.. that's just the start of my miserable story if I keep writing ill write a book.. please help

Promise - posted on 05/21/2013

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I hav eno clue how I found this but I would love to find more support in my area. I am in central Fl. It has been a very hard road. After 12 years of marriage, ex found a flirt who he later married and she is a very smart woman. Of course,since he makes over 9k a moth, she was not going to jeopardize any "mula". Savvy got a hold of my older children and turned them completely against me. As of today, 05212013, it has been 3 yrs I have not seen my child. Just began court battle on my own and every help will be greatly appreciated. I hope to find a group in the area. I knowthat I do not have any strength but God is the One that Hold me still.

Tina T - posted on 05/05/2013

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My children's dad has custody of them but he is using drugs, how do I go about getting custody?
Two of my children live with their dad in Wyoming & he has legal custody of them. I live in Oklahoma now but I have just learned that their dad lost his job because he wrecked his work truck & since he damaged their property he was told to go to the hospital and give a URIN TEST (U.A) from what I was told the boss gave him 2 hours to get to the local hospital to do the test. I was told that he just never showed up at the hospital to do the test and this has been a few days ago.

He does have a previous history of drug use and even previous charges.I understand the law pretty well for the most part & from what I understand, him NOT going to the hospital and giving them a UA like his employer instructed him to would be him refusing to take a drug test since he was instructed to do so by his employer, Right? Not only that but most would see it as an admition of guilt because if he had nothing to hide he would have been there & did the UA with no problems, Right?

I am so far away from them now that I live in Oklahoma & I know that since he is using again MY CHILDREN ARE IN DANGER & I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! I know how their dad is when he is using, I have seen him lock himself in the bathroom for 4 or 5 hours after getting high,It was nearley impossable to get him to come out and when he gets high he uses a needle & he has left it laying around before! My children are only 5 and almost 3 they wont really know not to touch it! PLEASE HELP ME...TINA

Ebony - posted on 04/22/2013

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my brothers and sisters are in cps custody, they are currently staying with family members i have my little sister i have questions about the whole thing. first they told my mom as soon as she finish her classes and drug test she would be able to get the kids back, my mom was staying in a motel at first then she got an apartment the case worker then told her she had done everything she was pose to do all she needed was one more drug test and if she passed she would get the kids back, so when time came to take her last test they called and said we had another case worker so we had to wait a whole month for her to take her last drug test so now that we have case worker number 3 she said she dosent know whats gonna happen now because my 14yr old brother was picked up with alcohol in his system when he was at a friend house now their trying to put it as my mom gave him alcohol when he wasn't even with her he was spending the night at a friend house, so they put my brother in a shelter and he ran away from cps twice now they cant find him. i really need to know what can i tell my mom she can do to get her kids back because everything is just messed up right now. it is a 8yr,10yr, and 14yr old. she is now staying back in a hotel but she has a job and is a great parent can she get them back while staying in a hotel and they put the whole alcohol situation on my mom even though he was even with her at the time ,she is currently looking for an apartment right now

Linn - posted on 04/09/2013

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Could use help! I have alot of children. 4 of my own and 3 step children. I was in an abusive relationship with my ex husband whom I have 3 children with. We divorced and he took everything and I was homeless and had no choice but to give him custody of the children. I got a house, got joint custody, went to college, got re-married and had a baby girl. My current husband is from arizona and his children were there. He was without them for 4 years and they were out of control. Living with there grandmother, hardly ever seeing there mother whos on drugs. My husband and I decided we should move to arizona from california because his family has property here for us to live on rent free, he could see his kids and had a job here. Hardest thing I ever had to do was say goodbye to my 3 children. I wanted to take them with me but we unable since they are from california. I've been gone for a year and they spend summer with me and I've been down 3 times to visit them. my ex husband says i abonded my 3 children to start a new life and always tries to make me feel guilty about moving but its been the best thing i could of done. I have had to go to court 2 times since I moved becaue my ex husband refused to let me talk to my kids, he was ripping up letter to them from me, and last time I went down he wouldnt let me see them at all. When I did live in california my ex husband knew everything I was doing and knew everywhere I went, I have no idea how. He knew he couldnt physically abuse me so verbal abuse and stocking had started. Now when he says mean things I can just hang up the phone and not worry about him knocking on me door. I really miss my children and think about them all the time. I cry everyday and even had to be put on anit depressents because of it. I am sad that they are growing up without me, they aren't around to bond with there half sister and dont really know there step siblings. I miss out on events at school and miss sport games. I feel I miss out on EVERYTHING. My step kids are great and they are here 4 times a week and always cheer me up. Since we have moved here their grade and behavior has improved and they are generally more happy. I hope one day one of my kids will move here to live with me. I pray everynight for there safety and well being. I love my 1 year old daughter. She is adorable and funny , she does cry alot but i love her. I just feel incomplete without all my children here with me. I dont really want to do anything. I sit at home all day with my 1 year. I clean my house and watch T.V. and think about my other 3 kids. I miss them so much. I did the right thing 4 years ago by leaving an abusive man and yet he got everything and i was left with nothing. California court system sucks. Am I a bad mom for trying to start over somewhere else? Am i a bad mom for leaving? Am I just a bad mom?

Natalie - posted on 02/14/2013

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my name is natalie garcia i live in tempe i lost my rights to my kids cps and now i am alone at first my reaction was i wanted to die i used meth so much to the point i was no longer able to work now i am sober no job i recently got sick with heart spasms and doctor told me whatever is going on in your life that bis causing you stress needs to stop as ilayed there alone i cried and toldgod whatever idid in life that was so bad i am sorry i miss my boys its so true you dont no what you got until its gonei scream to myself just to go to bed made bad choices that caused the removal of my kids in 2010 cps served me with a court order to take kids away which i fled to california with the kids and there we were with no home food money so i asked strangers if they could help me out i would lie and make up a story that i left my abusive husband for 3 years this went on we had bad and good days i would put my kids to sleep and leave to find food things i have done went through were horible my son was molested so hard on the children but all i had was on my mind was not letting the police stop and take them i was in hell now all that is behind me and finally accepted my kids are doing good have a stable home go to school and have a beautiful mother named stacy she truly loves my kids i didnt no good people do exist so now i want my life to be drugfree i want to get a job i have very littleclothes food i currently stay with a friend vfrom my job but its only a matter of time befor they need rent so if there is anyone who has extra clothes shoes or even hygene or i am willing to clean houses yards anything i told god if i try and sucseed to allow me oe day to see my kids again thank you very much my name is natalie my phone mumber is 480 228 9405

Maria - posted on 01/27/2013

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Hi..im new here. My daughter 13 & my son 10 live with their dad after he got resid. custody 4 yrs ago. There was a picture taken of my son with fingers marks on his upper rm & dad said it was me (mom) my son @ that time was asked many times to repeat hs story as to what happen, he kept asking his dad "you tell them". Records of ACS worker & social workers show that dad was "leading the kids into what to say". After 3 yrs of fighting in court he won. i see my kids every weekend, but lately he doesnt bring me the kids as he suppose & my son has been coming to me with bruises on his arm just like the ones that i was accused of (yes i got pics). Now dad has an open ACS case because he hits the kids (no i didnt call them). Kids are also doing poorly in school. I have to mention that i have a 16 yrs old son who was also given to him but my son ran away from dad 4 yrs ago because he was getting hit by him. so he now just has my 2 youngest kids with him. i want to go back to court & fight for my kids which i am going to do. But i live with a friend cause my husband lost his job. were looking to move in the nxt mth or so. Can anyone give me adice on how i can win bak my kids. I dont work i go to school, & my husband works nights.

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I am new here too. I became homeless last year due to losing my job and my home. I was evicted and moved to Mesa with my 2 daughters. We stayed in hotels living off of my income tax. My youngest daughters father got wind that I was homeless and threatened to take custody of our daughter. He told me that he was going to only take her till I was able to get stable and have a job and get a place. I was wanting the best for our daughter and if she didnt have to be going thru the homeless trauma I didnt wanna expose her to that. I didnt have that option for my other daughter since they have different dads. He also claimed that he wanted to get it court documented incase I tried to say he kidnapped her. I was like, fair enough, so we went to his lawyers to draw up the paperwork and my daughter went to live with him in texas while my other daughter and I went into a shelter. This was in February and I was able to get a very stable job in July since jobs are so scarce in AZ. I am in the process of getting into a place of my own and now my daughters father will not give me our daughter back after agreeing he would once I was stable. He now is wanting to take full custody and charge me child support. My question is, what can I do to get my daughter back now that I have a job and will be moving into a new place?

YOLA - posted on 11/13/2012

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IM NEW HERE AND I NEED HELP, I HAVE A SON WHO WILL BE 6YRS NEXT WEEK HE IS IN A FOSTER HOME MY ADULT DAUGHTER HAD GUARDIANSHIP OVER HIM DUE TO MY DRUG ADDICTION IVE COMPLIED WITH CPS TO GAIN CUSTODY. SINCE HE WAS STILL IN MY DAUGHTER CARE SHE LOST HIM DUE TO HAVING MARIJUANNA HOW CAN I TRY TO GET HIM BACK IN MY CUSTODY. CAN ANY ONE PLS. HELP AND GIVE ME SOME POSITIVE ADVISE IM AT MY WITS END

Desiree - posted on 08/25/2012

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I have 3 boys one of which lives with his father he took me to court and at the time i was in an abusive relationship so he won custody now 3 years later my little boy is out of control he tells me no and wont listen i went to put him in time out and he wouldnt stay so i put him on my lap he then smacked and kicked me when i tried getting him to put his shirt on i got kicked in the jaw i want custody back so i can try and help him his dad refuses to do anything his dad told him i abandonded him and i did not and encourages him. I NEED HELP i dont have a lot of money especially raising two other boys and only being a server.

Cheryl - posted on 06/29/2012

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P.S.No Judgement is final find out how long you have to file a Modification to last custody motion,all states are different,let me know.

Cheryl - posted on 06/29/2012

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You are being abused,reach out to the people you know for help therapy wise to keep you strong.DO NOT JEOPARDIZE YOUR JOB!What you do for a living is a major plus for you, not to mention the job you have is so IMPORTANT to others, and allows you some resources for the help you need talk to someone in your work circle that can guide you in the right direction to keep you strong!Get a notebook,and start documenting everything that happens in your life EVERYDAY,I will tell you in my work I always told my trainees, if you don't document,it never happened!your journal should not be shown to anyone,and by documenting everything that goes on will help you later.I am here for you too!

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