Terri - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I really shouldn't be joining because my kids havnt been abused but I thought I could help a little by telling you my story.
My mother went threw the same thing when I was abused, I was only 6 years old at the time. Even now she blames herself and im 24 years old now. I went threw years of counciling, to find out Im never going to forget what he did to me. I keep telling mum that it not her folt what happened, she did what she thought was right and did everything to protect me when she found out what he was doing. It was never her folt and whats happened to your daughter/son isnt your folt ether. Its the abusers folt, they did it because there sick in the head. I couldnt cope with what happened to me, I turned to drugs and alcohol. Iv now been sober/strait since 2005 but I went threw a lot and being raped at the age of 15 didn't help. What happened still affects me to this day and always will, the abuse more than the rape as I dont remember really what happened when I was raped but being abused is different and people dont understand how different. Its worse than rape but Its behind me and im living my life. I have 2 beautiful daughters and a partner. Im happy now, and it took me so long to be happy with life but iv done it and your children can too xx