Feel Alone in my Marriage

Samira - posted on 08/03/2012

what about me, I no longer feel love my husband, im a working mother and when I was off work at the moment, he did not help me look after the children, he also dont wanted to drive me up at my office, while i never felt the spoiled, , and I was not afraid to lose my husband, when I asked him about us he simply replied, "every decision is up to you" should i keep this marriage?? i feel he doesnt love me anymore and im feel alone facing all the problems

Cecilia Marie - posted on 07/21/2012

I no how you feel because my husband does the samething but he is more wores because mine is lieing know and I found out he was with other women and i do not no what to do any more so that's why i didn't say anything so don't feel bad cuz there others just like you :(

Amber - posted on 07/11/2012

Tell him that he is making you feel unloved! Alot of the time men dont get the little hints we drop..you just have to say whats on your mind. I hope things get better for you soon

Denise - posted on 05/28/2012

Wow,Amy! Your situation seems a lot like mine.Most days my husband leaves for work before the sun is even up so I dont really see him for most of the day.He usually gets home around 2 or 3 pm on a good day but sometimes goes straight from work to hang out with his loser friends.I try hard to accept it because I figure he needs to unwind after work sometimes.However,I'm beginning to feel more and more like he doesnt want a family.The kids keep me going because they are so sweet.They are my reason to not give up on it all.

I thought maybe if I did more to make him wanna be around he'd change.Lately I've been wearing my most flattering clothes,putting on makeup,and fixing my hair differently to make him notice me to no avail.I even rush to put the kids down for a nap when he's supposed to get home so we can be alone.I have literally thrown myself at him but he doesnt seem to care.The past 2 nights I initiated sex because I just wanted him to kiss me and hold me.I told him I miss the way we were before the kids because we couldnt wait to be together after work.Now Im lucky if he even says hi when he comes through the door. I feel like he regrets marrying me and having kids.The worst part is despite all this Im still madly in love with him because I can see the real him through all the bs.Hope your situation gets better.

Amy - posted on 05/01/2012

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Been there, done that. The only difference is when my husband was in that stage, I was working full time and the three kids he was leaving for me to completely care for are all his kids. Their bio mom is not in the picture so I am mom to them and in the beginning of our relationship, he would go out ALL the time and wouldn't come home until 2am and be completely intoxicated. I don't think he stopped this behavior because he realized how lonely and unloved it made me feel, I think he finally outgrew it. We've been together 8 years now and this stopped after about 3-4 years. We now have a 20 month old together and he's around a lot more, although I will say, I still feel unloved quite often even with him around. Before we were married, he was very affectionate and loving and now I'm lucky if he even says hi to me when I get home from work. He's never loving or supportive and my step kids are teenagers. I often find myself feeling completely alone in a house with 6 people in it. My baby is the biggest blessing to me, always happy to see me and give me kisses. I don't know what I'd do without her. I still question whether or not my husband is who I should be with forever, but I do really love him and I know he loves me, I just don't know if that's enough.

Denise - posted on 04/22/2012

Thank you for your reply to my post,Louise.However,I feel that going out together isnt really an option for us.We dont have anyone reliable to watch the kids and cant really afford a sitter.The only person who's reliable to keep them is my mom who lives an hour away.I dont complain about feeling left out to my husband because he works long hrs and we are still barely making it.I know he needs to have a life outside of work to relax sometimes.The problem is when he just does it without letting me know and has me worried or stays out til late instead of checking to see if I need anything.
I also dont really want to go and do the things he does with his friends.They're ok with me I guess but we're into different things.They like to go play golf or take a ride in a boat when the weather is nice but they usually go to someone's house and zone out for hrs playing violent video games.I consider myself a pretty simple kinda woman to figure out.He can have his fun as long as he does stuff w me like watch a movie or cook together sometimes.I suppose I just have to find the right way to tell him I feel left out when he chooses others over our family.

Louise - posted on 04/22/2012

You really have to get across to him that if he wants to go out after work fine but you would like to come too. Book a baby sitter and go with him. He is being very selfish to make you stay at home all of the time. Try and go out at least once every two weeks as you need to keep as a family unit. If you involve him he has no choice but to interact with the kids.