husband driving me off the wall? i dont know what to do

Beatriz - posted on 08/18/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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i have been marry for three and half years it feels like forever. my husband has this two cousins that like two party and when i say party is all out they go to the bar, strip clubs you name it. one them is marry the other one is not i totally don't like them all. my husband wont tell where he is going or when he is gonna be back, i get to sit home like a stupid bitch watching our daughters while he is off somewhere. he thinks he has the right to come and go as he pleases. i don't go out anywhere and when i do he throws a fit like a two year old. he doesn't have a job so we struggle but he doesn't care because he always runs to his mommy and grandma . im going crazy, im never happy anymore and sometimes i feel like i take out on my daughters and is not fair, so depress that sometimes i don't want to get out of bed. any advice

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Christy - posted on 09/06/2010

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Can you talk to him about how you are feeling? If you have and this is still going on, I would plan on getting your life together NOW, get an education if you haven't already, and prepare for the inevitable break up. Put yourself into a position where you can take care of your kids and yourself financially. Hell, it may be cheaper to go ahead and do it without him since he isn't working and contributing to the household. Don't waste your life on someone like that, you are worth so much more. And NEVER let anyone tell you otherwise.

Jacqueline - posted on 09/03/2010

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wow i know exactly what u are going through my bf yes were not married but we are common law have been together for 3 years and have 2 kids he still likes to live as if he has no priorities when it comes to our kids have nag abd beg for him to do much of anything and u get to the point of either dealing with it or leaving and moving on he likes to be at his friends at night after work or be up all night on his computer which really sux i feel for what ur going through its not easy do what u can to try and get him to see ur ways and ur points with out him acting like a child if he still doesnt grow up then do what u feel is best for u and ur children either way good luck to you and hope things get better whichever the out come

Kris - posted on 08/30/2010

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I hate to say it... But I think you should leave him. Go to your parents house, a friends, wherever and let him see how fun it is to be single. Sounds like he thinks he is anyway. Why should you have to be the one to support this lifestyle. You have your own kids to raise and don't need a grown adult acting like one of top of it all. Perhaps if you leave and just go about your life he will come around. If not then divorce him and move on to bigger and better. You and your kids deserve to be happy.

Ntombi - posted on 08/19/2010

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Hmm. This is a tough one. Your husband believes he is a child and the mommy and grandma are allowing him to be a child. Unfortunately you can threaten, plead, cojole until you are blue in the eye. He must want to change. He is having such a good time and why would he stop now. You need to decide whether you want to carry on like this or you are going to put a stop to it. You cannot afford to have a big baby like. Maybe you need to tell him to go and stay with his mother since he is behaving like a child.

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Beatriz - posted on 10/07/2010

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thank you very much lady's i really appreciate your opinions and all of you are right is like have another kid and don't remember giving birth to another you know lol things are little bit better now he still doesn't have a job so that part sucks but he doesn't go out as much. now he takes care of the kids more than he use to of course i go to work and that's why he does it not because he wants to. hopefully things will work out if not there would be better and bigger things in store for me.

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