I am leaving my husband

Madline - posted on 05/14/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi,
After 14 and 1/2 years of marriage and six of his affairs, I have run out of tears and have walked out the door. We have 2 children. I tried to get husband out of the house in Nov. 2011 but it broke my kid's hearts and they wanted him back home. I was forced to try again because of the pain I wanted to spare my daughter (10 years) and son (14 years). I have known of his affairs for the past 7 years, he knew that I didn't believe in divorce so he kept up his affairs with 6 women that I knew of. The breaking point for me is one more email that he sent professing his love and promise to drop everything for her (his girlfriend) at a her becking call. The problem is he used the children and my beliefs for leverage. He is a good dad and the kids are close to him. He is not a drinker and is very involved in their everyday lives. The only problem is he has affair after affair while flaunting it in my face by leaving his email open. I walked away yesterday with nothing. I am not going back. Maybe he is the better parent and better everything. I am broken and poured out. Empty. I have nothing more to offer anyone in life...

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Christina - posted on 05/25/2012

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Don't be so down..I have been there. I wasnt married as long as you, but I had a child with my x, another child that calls him dad, and the situations were a little bit different. But you are a strong women, and you have to believe that. You have done everything that you could to save your marriage, but be strong. You have already made your desision on leaving, and life will never be the same. But the one thing I think you have to remember, is that the kids are watching both of you, and will be learning to imitate both of you. So be a strong women...explain to you kids (more then once) that you and their father had problems in your marriage not that it was anything that they have done or could have done differently. Kids always think its their fault! Never give up on your kids. It will be very rocky for a while, to figure it all out, but it wil! Dont give up!!!!!

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Cecilia Marie - posted on 07/25/2012

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YOU SHOULD NOT BE PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN CUZ HE THE ONE WHO BROKE HIS VOWS NOT YOU AT LESS IF HE TRYS TO COME BACK YOU CAN SAY I TRYED YOU JUST WANT MORE AND KEEP LOOKING IN THE MIRROR AT YOUR SELF AND SAY I AM PRETTY I AM STRONG AND I CAN DO THIS AND BELIVE ME YOU WELL BE OK THERE NO LOOKING BACK AND MOST OF ALL DO WHAT CHRISTINA SAID TALK TO YOUR KIDS THEY WILL SEE YOU THROW AND BELIVE ME HE WILL GET EVERYTHING BACK WHAT HE DID TO YOU I CAN'T TELL YOU MUCH CUZ I TO HAVE A HUSBAND LIKE YOURS AND IT DOSE HART.

Elisha - posted on 07/06/2012

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Have you gone to talk to a counselor? That sounds like it would be your best decision first, to get some perspective and help you figure out what your next step should be. Praying for you, hon!

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