I'm Emotionally Drained. Please any advice.

Blaaaaah - posted on 05/12/2012

U r in the beginnings of a dangerous situation and u need to put ur kids interests first and get the hell out of there before no one on this entire planet as the right to call any child stupid or any names for that matter!!! Get outta there!

Claret - posted on 06/25/2011

I see two sides of this. On the one hand, all that verbal abuse can lead to something physical. You don't want your kids thinking this is the way husbands are supposed to treat their wives & you certainly don't deserve to be treated this way. On the other hand, divorce & childcare are expensive and your kids may end up spending days with your husband w/o you to protect them depending on what custody arrangement the court orders. I definitely agree that this isn't a healthy situation, but take your time and count the cost and plan for a future w/o your husband before you make any life changing decisions.

Christine - posted on 06/19/2011

I agree with all of the above! Leave him! He is a sorry excuse not only for a man but for a human being to have to put you and his own defenseless children to make him feel better. Take it from someone who grew up with it and had to hid it, always feeling shameful because I thought it was true and I deserved it. After ALOT of therapy, I know now that I don't deserve it and I am a good person. If my husband EVER said that even once to my 4 year old, I would not hesitate to leave! Please confront him and/or leave him if he doesn't change. It is not fair for your beautiful children to hear such disgusting things.

Tina - posted on 05/19/2011

Leave his sorry ass! You and your kids don't need his abuse...

Christy - posted on 05/19/2011

Look at it this way. What is he contributing to this marriage? All it sounds like to me is hurtful words and heartache. You don't need this, and his children ESP don't need it. They will grow up believing the nasty things he says to you and to them. Please consider leaving ASAP.

Jessicca - posted on 05/12/2011

these lady have said it .... LEAVE HIM ..

onec me and my husband was like that and I PACKED the car with the ( at the time we had 1 kid and i was prego with our second ) everything i need for our baby my oldest son stuff and my stuff and i told him i was out the door , he would not let me go he cryed like a baby saying it was stress , he was tired , he never helped with the baby's and never helped with the chors never did anything i left for 1 week and he told me he would change and he would help more , when i came back to the house i told him there would be NEW RULES and if at anytime i felt i needed to leave i would ( i love my man and was and will always try to work it out )

so plz if not for ur kids for ur self .. show him that u do matter and that thing have to change even if u have to walk out them doors doing it girl cause when a man is faced with loosing his love he will change and if not ...well then it was never meant to be .. hope i helped

Tristan - posted on 05/12/2011

i would leave because he is not only being mean to u but to ur children and it will hurt them in the long run my son use to hae nightmares all the time and he would confine himself to one room everytime his father was around cus he didnt want to make my ex mad . either make him leave or u leave ur kids will thank you in the long run

Tarra - posted on 05/12/2011

my suggestion? Leave him, its not a healthy place for your children, or yourself.
That is verbal abuse and if you let it go on, it will start pulling you & the children down. No one deserves that treatment.
Either kick him out or pack up and leave. If you dont feel safe, see the police, they can make sure that an officer is there when you tell him