I'm the only disciplinarian in the house and because of it, all of my step children and my husband hate me. I feel so alone.

Amy - posted on 04/26/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My husband doesn't like to deal with anything. Never have, never will. My three step-kids are all teenagers and need some rules and discipline. The problem is, I'm the only one who thinks that is necessary and because of it, it's making my kids hate me and my husband resent me. I'm thought of as the "mean" person in the house all the time. If I tell my kids to clean their room or ask them about a missing assignment, it annoys my husband. He thinks I'm getting on them about things that aren't important. If for some reason we ground them for a few days, they will call him and ask him if they can go spend time with a friend and he says yes regardless of wheter or not they are grounded. There is never any follow through with discipline on his end at all, so again if I hold them to something we've put into place, I'm the mean one. I feel totally disrespected and unsupported in everything I do in our household and I feel completely alone. I'm so done....

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Gardensparrow - posted on 05/02/2012

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Oh, that's such a hard position to be in! No parents likes to always have to be the bad guy and the one laying down the rules. And, I think a lot of step-parents can relate to your situation. In fact, during my time at Focus on the Family, I came across a post from one of their counselors that explained why biological parents sometimes tend to go easy on their kids after a divorce or when they remarry. So, you might want to take a look at it at http://bit.ly/JDfJO2. Also, there's an article I found at http://bit.ly/JeXzQa that I thought had some good thoughts on the topic of step-parents and discipline. Might be worth reading through...Well, hang in there. I know this transition period can be really tough, but often it just takes time for blended families to settle into their roles and find some common ground with eachother. Praying for you...

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