So I think we're getting a divorce.

Ashley - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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As you can see from my last post, my husband and I are having marriahe problems. Most of them are long brewing problems. The most recent being the text message I found on his phone about him wanting to have sex with another woman. Since our argument he hadnt worn his wedding ring, and has made no effort to try and fix things. He feels that an unheartfelt sorry should fix it all. he ruined mothers day. I came he mothers day to find out that he was talking about this woman, I got no flowers, no card, he didnt even have our kids tell me happy mothers day. I work full time and take care of the kids 90% of the time and this is the thanks I get? He thinks that since he didnt act on his words that I have no right to be hurt. Instead he is just bringing up and throwing in my face all the reasone why he thinks I am a bad mom or wife. So since I cant work, watch the kids, AND keep the house SPOTTLESS he should be allowed to belittle both me and our marriage by saying to his buddies how much he wants to do some random chick? Last week we went to Olive garden for a date night, he spent the whole ride there and back as well as the better part of dinner on the phone. I litterally had to beg him to get off the phone and pay attention to me and only me. But this random girl had no problem catching and holding his attention. He was even talking about her 2 days later? But I have to beg for his attention? His wife, the mother of his kids, the woman that does his laundry and cooks his dinner, has to beg for attention? Anyway since he ruined mothers day for me, my kods and I are going to dinner this weekend, hes not inviyed. And tomorrow, I begin moving into my sisters house. All I wanted was respect, appreciation, loyalty, is that so much to ask? Because I got none of those things. And now I feel so betrayed and pathetic, I feel like crap about myself.

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Louise - posted on 05/13/2011

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It takes two to make a marriage work and if he is not willing there is no point in carrying on. You have self respect and you are moving out and all power to you. Just remember it is not you it is this pillock that has lost the best thing that will ever happen to him. Hold your head up you are worth more than this. Good luck to you. xx

Buffie - posted on 05/13/2011

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Girl, I know just how you feel. I stayed for the longest time because I wanted my kids to have us both under the same roof. He's precious computer games were more important than me or the kids. No one should ever be allowed to make you feel like he did. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Christin - posted on 05/10/2011

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omg, i am sorry marriage is work and if he is not willing to work at it then its not going to work it is not good for the kids to be a round that and you deserve better. it willhurt but you have to do whats best for kids and you. hang in ther