So I was told to find...

Buffie - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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A very dear friend of mine told me that I need to find a support group, be it online or otherwise, for people going thru a divorce. I'm hoping to maybe find some of that here.
My marriage was never one of those picture perfect ones like on leave it to beaver, more like Roseanne lol, but things really went south last July when he just went nuts. I have never seen him that mad before and it was over nothing, just the kids being like every other child on the planet and bickering.
I have done the state mandated parenting class, required to get divorced and after...well I feel even more like I am in a hopeless situation. The teacher has been in the business of shrinking heads for 32 years and even he couldn't think of anything to say to help.
I mean, I always knew that he had some problems and was self centered, I just didn't think that he would ever hurt the kids. Then he threw our little girl down the hallway and threatened to kick our little boy in the nuts. Fuzzy only wanted to spend some time with daddy. He's very controlling, even now, sending me letters, telling me how to run MY house.
I really don't know what to do and feel like just giving up. Any help is appriciated.

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Buffie - posted on 06/07/2011

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I have an attorney, she's doing what she can. I just really don't know what to do anymore. He's....several words that I can't post on here.

Suzanne - posted on 06/07/2011

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I don't know and am afraid of giving bad or obvious advice, but have you contacted a lawyer? It sounds like your ex-husband is abusive to both you and your children. You probably need to speak to someone who specializes in working with women leaving abusive men. Controlling is a red flag for abuse and, as for hurting kids goes, all I have to say is that there's a special place reserved for people who do so.

Buffie - posted on 05/21/2011

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I have and am doing this, however he has a clean record and actually has the kids this weekend. I'm hoping that when all this is said and done that it gets easier and he gets the kids less. Maybe he will find a replacement for them like he did me....

Christy - posted on 05/19/2011

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Since you are getting a divorce, you should Document EVERYTHING he has done recently, in writing. All the letters he send you, make copies. Write down instances of ANY aggressive behavior. In the case that even after the divorce he is agressive to you at all, you have documented proof. Since he was abusive to your kids, you must have this info so he can't go for custody or even have unsupervised visits.