Amanda - posted on 03/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi. I am Amanda. I have been married for almost 5 years. We have been together 6 years. In the beginning he was great. We were together 6 months before we got married. I had a daughter before he came along. She was 2 months old when we got together. When we got married, I was 2 months pregnant with our son. After we tied the knot, things changed. He started controlling everything. He didn't want me working anymore, I wasn't suppose to see my friends or family. Then, I told him I wanted to move back to my hometown. We did. Things get better, then worse, then better, then just as bad. I wanted my tubes tied after I had our son, and he wouldn't let me. Since then we have had 2 more children, which is ok. I love all our children very much. Now, he is constantly accusing me of cheating, and I am not allowed to be on the phone when he is home (he is a truck driver). He is very jealous of my mom, dad, and sister. I was raised in a very close family and my family is very important to me. He says my friends call too much and just yesterday he cussed my best friend out for calling me too much. I have kicked him out before, but have ended up going back because of empty promises. Now, I haven't had a job since last year, he pays all the bills in our home, I have no vehicle of my own, he has taken all of my independence away from me. My family doesn't like to be around when he is home and our oldest daughter cries when he comes home because she is scared that we will be arguing. That breaks my heart more than anything. I am going back to work at the end of this week and hope to be able to regain some of my independence. Any advice from some of you other moms out there that have been there??? Thanks!!!