just SAY IT!

Barb - posted on 12/25/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I LOOVEE this man, i really do, but sometimes as i lay there watching him sleep it's a debate on if i'm going to make him breakfast or bash his face in with a baseball bat. It's been 17 years so i guess.. Waffles anyone?

He does this thing where he hints around at stuff and then gets mad at me when i don't get what he's hinting about. We've been together long enough where he should know if he wants me to do something or understand something just fricken SAY IT!

Here is an example a conversation.

"What time is it, girlie?" Him
"8:20, why?" me
"I don't know about you, but i'm about ready for bed" him
"nope, i'm ok" me
we watch tv for another half an hour
"that bed sure is looking good, i'm thinking about crawling into it" him
"ok" me
we watch tv for another 15 to 20 minutes
"I think it's about bedtime" Him
"ok honey, goodnight" me
He sits there for another 10 to 15 minutes
"girlie?! aren't you about ready for bed? i've asked 3 times now!" Him
No! no you haven't! you have HINTED 3 times that YOU would like to go to bed. you want to go to bed, go to bed! i'm too fricken sick to play hide the damn pickle, just go to bed if you want to go!


So are you a hinter? or are you married to one? Why can't the person just come out and SAY IT! Wouldn't that make life so much easier?

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"I LOOVEE this man, i really do, but sometimes as i lay there watching him sleep it's a debate on if i'm going to make him breakfast or bash his face in with a baseball bat. It's been 17 years so i guess.. Waffles anyone?"

Bahahahahahahhhhaaaaaa!!! That almost made me pee my pants laughing! I have those moments from time to time Barb. I think my number one issue with my husband is that he beats around the bush so much, instead of just saying what he means or (heaven forbid) how he feels! I mean, with him it's even the simple stuff.

Me: Steve, do you want green beans or broccoli with dinner?
Him: Either one.

This, at the end of the day when all I want is for someone else to make a decision so I don't have to. I mean, I decide everything around here and like Roseanne Barr said once, "I'm tired of it always being my turn to hold the brain." He has no opinion about pretty much anything....unless it's something he REEEEALLY wants...like sex, or some useless gadget that we don't need. His way of asking for sex is to basically come up from behind and rub his privates on me. Not sexy in the least. Not when it's 2pm, I'm still in my robe, haven't had a shower since yesterday (I think) and I'm in the process of emptying the overflowing garbage. Really? THAT'S the time you pick to try and get romantic? Because I look so hot in my 2 day old pony tail with a bag of stinking trash in my hands????
And it's a good thing I am the family financial advisor or else we'd be constantly broke and in way over our heads....but we'd have a lot of super cool and useless gadgets around the house to amuse ourselves with while we wait for payday to get the power turned back on. As you can tell, I'm a blunt type, say it like it is and no one ever has to ask me how I feel. Even if I don't say it out loud, it's written all over my face. It's taken me many years to not always be on the rude side of blunt....but for a long time, my mouth would just open up and out would come the brutal truth....

Caitlin - posted on 12/27/2010

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lol.. too sick to play hide the pickle.. sorry, i'm tired and that was good..

My man is blunt.. sometimes it's annoying, but I love him for it, but sometimes I share that wanting to bash his face in.. reminds me of this song from Avenue Q..

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Amber - posted on 01/07/2011

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You ladies really make it hard to throw myself a pity party. I'm laughing so hard I have tears coming down my face. Thanks for that :)

Tah - posted on 01/06/2011

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my husband doing the rubbing IS his hinting, otherwise he'll just walk around the bedroom, with his slong(i know tmi.lol) hanging out, at that point i know what he wants..but just to be smart ill say..did you want some tonight honey..and he has the nerve to say.."well, i know you're tired"....as if you really care..lol...its the same with the holding the brain..lmbo..sometimes i do want someone to say i want broccoli normandy tonight, not corn on the cob....i also found out by default that he doesnt like tomatoes, onions, baked chicken or cornbread mixed with his stuffing...because it would have been too hard to say he didn't like them, instead of sending the plate back with everything heaped on the side..i actually had to say.."do you have a problem with x,y,z..."...before he actually told me...so yeah, id say we have this problem...lol

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"His way of asking for sex is to basically come up from behind and rub his privates on me. Not sexy in the least. Not when it's 2pm, I'm still in my robe, haven't had a shower since yesterday (I think) and I'm in the process of emptying the overflowing garbage. Really? THAT'S the time you pick to try and get romantic? Because I look so hot in my 2 day old pony tail with a bag of stinking trash in my hands????"

ROFL Joy i am so happy that i'm not the only one with a husband that does this.

Barb - posted on 12/28/2010

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LOL Hold the brain for awhile.. YES!! That is hilarious Joy and so relate-able



It isn't like we haven't had this discussion before.. I've said "If you would say what you want it would have a better chance of happening. It is easy, i don't say, "honey, the trash is getting full" and then get mad at you because you didn't take out the trash. I say, "honey, the trash is full, please take it out on your way to the shop" Then i get mad when you forget. But there is no doubt as to what i want.



We have a running joke that the only thing he doesn't like is green peppers. Because when i first started cooking for him that is what he told me. So i cooked foods i liked and soon found a whole LIST of foods he does NOT like besides green peppers.

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Hmmm...with Jason I have to spell it out for him if I'm not in the mood..."I don't want to have sex because I spent the day throwing up in the bathroom!" Geez, you'd think it wouldn't be hard to put that together!

I more have the problem of Jason omitting information or forgetting to tell me something. He doesn't do it on purpose, he's just pretty clueless. Like the time he "forgot" to tell me when this person in our church was arrested then I told his wife that we missed seeing her husband and asked where he was that day...yeah...not so good! That's the most extreme example I have...there's other less embarrassing and inappropriate times this has happened as well. But this issue is slowly improving.

Barb - posted on 12/27/2010

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that is awesome Caitlin!! LOVE the song!! hahahaha

Kati, Doug did the grabbing the boobs thing until i started grabbing his nut sack and asked him if that turned him on. He got the point lightening quick.

Rosie - posted on 12/26/2010

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my husband gets straight to the point, and it pisses me off, lol! i want something other than coming up to me and grabbing my boob. i've told him numerous times that it pisses me off, but it doesn't seem to matter. then he whines cause he doesn't get laid. stupid man.

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