Would you charge your 18 or older kids rent if still living at home?

Shannintipton - posted on 10/05/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Just wondering. I was thinking I would want them to get to school and get a part time job depending on school schedule. But then save the money for them after they move or to help them move out. I wouldnt tell them that though just encase I spend it. LOL

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Jurnee - posted on 11/18/2011

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my daughter is 18, she works and goes to school. its a private culinary school, so even with grants and loans she pays 400 a month and about 40 a week in gas and tolls. So at this point im not charging rent, since it is about her whole salary to pay that amount. She does have to help out around the house, and she watches my younger son when I need her too. She also pays for her own clothes, etc. If she were not in school though,I would expect her to work and pay towards the household expenses.

Nena - posted on 11/18/2011

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I have a fourteen year old so this situation is right around the corner. Once he turns 18, I willnot charge him to live at home unless he is not getting some type of education (trade school or college). As long as he is in school (undergrad..LOL) I will allow him to live at home free of charge. However, I do expect for him to get a job to help cover his non-living expenses while he is in school.

SAC - posted on 10/12/2011

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Yes, I do and have...to explain:

When my children were in school and working part time...I supported them and what they earned was their money. That being said, when summer came and they went to full time work...they were charged their fair share of expenses. I still have a son who is home, works full time and pays his way...he pays me rent every week out of his paycheck. The rent he pays is less than it would cost him to survive in the world, but it covers his portion of the expenses. My children are now 30, 24 and 21...none of them have ever complained about me teaching them responsibility in this manner. In fact, they seem to have appreciated what I tried to teach them (for the most part). Each child is different and they perceive things uniquely.

Oh, I thought I would save the money for them, but it just never worked out that way. Life has a way of getting in the way, but the money always seemed to go to them in some way. Even after they leave home, there are times you can't help but help them...so they get the money back one way or another. : )

Emma - posted on 10/09/2011

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When mine are that age i will defiantly be charging them rent, it will go in an account so when they do leave the nest they will be used to paying there own way and will have money to set up there first place i think teaching your kids how to Handel there money responsibly is So important.

Julie - posted on 10/06/2011

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I think they should be able to help out. I know a guy at work whose son lived with him (not sure if he still does) and he saved everything his son gave him in an account so when the son does move out, he can give him that to go toward a house. Thought that was a great idea. Of course, I would end up needing the money and my kid would be left to make it on their own. :/

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Patricia - posted on 04/22/2012

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I think this depends on the situation. I lived at home from about 25 yrs old to about 35 and my parents didn't charge me rent but they knew that I was saving to buy my own place and I respected the house rules. I was grateful that I didn't have to pay rent or bills for the time being and I was able to afford my own condo on my own as a single parent.
This isn't always the case - if the grown child is lazy and doesn't want to work or help out around the house - charge rent and put the money aside for them. But if they help out and show signs that they want to move out but are just trying to save up for their own place I think it's ok for them to live rent free.

Nataschia - posted on 03/27/2012

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No. However they do need to get a job for food and anything extra they want instead of rent they need to save up so they can have money to move out and encourage college college is a lot on a persons plate then add extra stresses of a job give them the tools to be a responsible adult before they're ready to move out

Nicola - posted on 03/14/2012

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If they were working full time or part time then yes I would charge them to live under my roof.

Jacqueline - posted on 12/12/2011

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I would probably tell them to help out around the place, like get a job and buy groceries and whatnot.

SAC - posted on 12/06/2011

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@ April...good luck with that...it sounds great and I wish you well. Would you have handed your whole paycheck over to your parents at that age after working hard for the money? Just saying, you may want to re-evaluate the fight coming. Otherwise, I wish you all the luck in the world!



Reread to make sure I was reading things right...you may be able to accomplish what you say...taking only half of their paycheck. On the other hand...I have seen parents who struggle with young ladies thinking they are above working and refuse to even consider having a job, no matter how much their parents tell them to get one. My boys all started working with their father when they were about 14 because they wanted to earn more money than our little allowance was able to provide.



For some reason, many of our young ladies develop the idea that the world owes them something and they do not have to work for anything...The Diva Mentality. Hopefully, your daughters will not get caught up in this mentality and will appreciate the sound moral values that you are trying to teach them.

Alicia - posted on 11/23/2011

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Yes I would charge them something plus they should help out with the upkeep of the home,and buy food

April - posted on 11/19/2011

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I have already decided that my girls will get jobs at 16 and I will take 1/2 of their pay every week. I will take 1/2 of what they give me to cover their expenses and the other 1/2 and sock it away for when they are ready to move out, they will have a nice little chunk of change to help.

Shannintipton - posted on 11/18/2011

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I agree with you 100% Nena. That is exactly what I plan on doing. He is only 8 but the way he has been acting lately .......its like hurry already. LOL

Constance - posted on 10/18/2011

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As long as they are attending school full time then no I wouldn't charge them rent. Once school ends oh yeah they are paying their own way.

Kimberley - posted on 10/11/2011

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I think that if they are still in school and have a job, I would expect them to pay for their clothes and fun stuff, I hope to be able to pay for their education and NOT charge them rent. The idea bothers me.

Tammy - posted on 10/07/2011

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My 19 yr old daughter and her 1 yr old son live with me. I charge her 200.00 a month. She rarely buys things for the house or to help take care of her cat. She is a wonderful mother and her son never goes without.

I think 200 is fair. It is helping her save to get her own place in a few months. She works fulltime and I am her main babysitter.

As a parent, you do feel guilt for charging them rent. Just keep in mind you are helping them learn responsibilty to pay their bills and budget money. And ofcourse, it helps us out too.

Denikka - posted on 10/06/2011

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If they're in school full time and getting reasonable grades, probably not. Of course that depends on how much they're using. If we're paying $900 a month for food and the kid is eating half of that and taking hour long showers, then yea...they can contribute :P
If they're at home and working, even just part time, then absolutely.
That being said, I like the idea of putting the money away for them for later. I think I'd put a portion away to give back to them, either to move out, or to help with a down payment or something. Not all of it though, momma wants to eventually be able to get her hair and nails done on occasion :P If I've raised them for 18+ years, they can give a little bit back just for my enjoyment :P not much, I'm thinking like 10% of what they give me, something like that :P

Carolee - posted on 10/05/2011

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I will definately make them help with rent and food. I won't chagre them too much, and I won't kick them out, but they will do their part to help out if they are going to stay at my house.

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