I have a 22 yr old daugther who has cervical

Holli - posted on 07/11/2009

Hi April, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I am 30 and was diagnosed with cervical cancer in early June (boy has 30 thrown my mortality in my face!!). Honestly, it was the scariest thing that I have ever delt with, and if I could have just hidden away and pretented that it wasn't there, i probably would have. I bet that is what your daughter is going through....thinking "hey, i'm 22, i'm too young to have to deal with something like this!!" I thought 30 was to young.

But being a wife and a mother of two (8 and 5), I couldn't just run and hide like i wanted. I had to face reality and deal with.

One thing that helped me was the movie "Crazy Sexy Cancer". it is about a girl in her late 20s/early 30s dealing with cancer. It is an awsome movie and i highly highly suggest ordering it (net-flix or amazon). there is also the book, but i haven't read it. there is a facebook page for it, so look that up. After watching the movie, I was finally about to say "I have cancer" out loud and not break down. It felt so good to see someone else around my age in a simular (although different) situation. please get this movie for both of you!!

and as for her cancer, how far along is it? cervical cancer is one of the easiest cancers to deal with, it you do it!! i had a total hysterectomy about 8 days ago (i am stuck sitting down for two weeks so catching up on facebook!). if your daughter has ANY questions, please feel free to contact me. I would love to help!

Jac - posted on 06/17/2009

I’m 31 I was diagnosed last year after just turning 30. I have now finished my treatment both chemo & radio in November 08 and it was not as bad as I expected it to be I even got to keep my hair...



I was diagnosed at the same time as Jade Goodie, however she had an abnormal smear a few years before & did nothing about it I believe she had that same attitude that she would deal with it later but when she did deal with it was too late, get your daughter to search for her name online & I bet you will find a few stories about her. I’m not trying to scare you with Jade Goodies story but maybe you will have to point out the harsh reality to your daughter of what will happen if she does not get treatment.



If your daughter wants to speak to someone I'm just a click away....



maybe your daughter is like me when I first found out, I did not want to discuss it or talk to anyone about my cancer as I felt that I was dirty,, & although it was cancer it was where the cancer was that bothered me most. I know that sounds silly but I was not thinking straight at the time, but once I came to terms with what I had then it got easier.



I think as long as your daughter gets the treatment than she will know herself where or not she needs any further outside help like counselling or other groups but the best thing I found was speaking to other cancer suffers that helped me more than anything else.



My thoughts & Prayers as with you