46 with a 5 years old.
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Tracee - posted on 05/12/2012
I definitely look like Grandma. But my kids don't care. At least they say they don't. My 14 year-old asked me to chaperone his 8th grade field trip. I teach him about classic rock-n-roll. I play baseball with them. I don't go out running the roads like a lot of the younger single moms might do ( no offense younger moms) - I have more patience with them, I know, than I would have had if I had had them in my 20's instead of my 40's. I don't care what the 20 somethings think. I never did. The only thing I care about is how my kids feel, and how they turn out, and if they are happy. And of course I was worried if they would be embarassed - My 12 year-old just came in and I asked him if I ever embarassed him ( not the first time I asked him this) - he said no. I asked him why not. He said "Why should I be?" He told me he knew I was probably smarter than the other moms because I was "old" LOL!!! Kids are just mirror images of what you project! - If you are confident and they know that you absolutely LOVE being their mom, that's all they care about.
Sandra - posted on 05/05/2012
I am 54 with a 8 year old daughter (adopted our granddaughter). It has been up and down but I wouldn't trade it for all the world. The interesting part is that my oldest daughter has children and we can talk about children issues in today's terms. Yes, I am tired at the end of the day but it has been worth it. This child is special needs and needs the one on one attention that I can give her. I also homeschool her since the public school system failed to see to her needs. My husband and I are finding that we are more tolerant of some things that younger parents stress over. We seem to be a bit more easy going this time around. It also gives us a reason to keep going, making us feel younger. I love having her around. We are blessed to have her in our lives.
Louise - posted on 04/11/2012
Having had children in early twenties and a baby at 38 I can say that I am knackered at the end of the day with my now 3.5 year old. Things were much easier when younger but I think it was the fact that I had two children to keep each other occupied, whilst this time I have one and she wants me to play with her all the time.
May be the answer is to have another! lol
Julie - posted on 04/11/2012
I am 49 with a beautiful daughter from SE Asia who I began to mother when she was 6 weeks old. I often wish someone could find a way to bottle 1.3 of a child's energy to be given to her parents. Hmmm. If I could find a way to do it...I wouldn't need to wonder if I have enough saved to meet our needs during retirement. LOL. Seriously, I wouldn't trade my little girl for the world.
Jennie - posted on 07/18/2012
I'm so glad I'm no alone. I am so tired sometimes. I don't know where I'm going to find the strength sometimes. I feel the same way about living long enough to give my daughter everything she needs...Especially, being there for her during the birth of her children. I cry sometimes, it scares me so much. Thanks for your response..It really helped.
Jennie - posted on 05/14/2012
Thanks you all for the words of encouragement. Blessings to all the forty moms out there. I feel much better now knowing I am not alone in my journey..I just watched my daughter graduate to kindergarten this morning and I cried. She is a gift!
Wanda - posted on 05/11/2012
I am a 43 year old with a five year old and I also have 4 other children. I have an 18 year old,13,10,and 8. I guess you can say that I have been a mom at all ages. My husband and myself wanted a big family and planned all of them except for my 18 year old son. He was from my first marriage but my husband raised him since he was 2 and is called dad and has been since the age of 4. It can be trying at times but I wouldn't have it any other way. I am certain that if I was younger I would of had another one. My husband is only 36 but to look at the two of us you could never of guessed that he wasn't the same age. The last of my children will be going to school this August and I am so worried about being the oldest mom in the class or people thinking that I am her Grandmother. Have any of you older moms ever had that happen? I don't think I look like a grandma nor am I one. Almost everyone of my friends and cousins have grandchildren but I don't and I am sure that I won't be for a long time. I have been a sahm for the past 12 years and I am scared of being without a child to look after. How do the other quote (older moms) end quote feel about being older? Am I the only one that feels worried about her child being embarrassed about my age or wondering what the 20 somethings will think when I go to the school for field trips? It is nice to hear some of your thoughts as well.
Tracee - posted on 05/10/2012
I was 46 with a five year old and a 3 year old. Now I am 55 with a 14 year old and a 12 year old. And I am a single mom. And have my 91 year-old dad living next door, so I look after him as well. And I am the sole support for my kids, and run a business. My boys are what keep me young, even though I look like their Grandma.
Gaela - posted on 04/08/2012
Hi Jennie, I'm 53 and my husband is almost 62 and we're raising a little one who is 4! Yes, it's hard, yes, they take tons of energy, but there are many things that an older mom can give that a younger one can't (and vise versa). What helped me was to get our little guy involved in things. He goes to preschool 5 days a week for about 5-6 hours a day, he takes karate classes at preschool, he's involved in Cubbies (a church activity for his age) and in the summer, her plays bitty ball. It really helps to have him socializing with other kids (he's the only one we have) and it also gives me some time to take care of my own needs, the house, the laundry, and my work as well. We keep a pretty strict schedule as far as our routines at home because he does much better this way. I wish there was something I could tell you to help with energy and patience, but I'm still working on that because there are those days! LOL! Hope this helps.
Yvette - posted on 04/02/2012
I'm 46 with a 5 year in preschool (6 in Dec.) and will be starting kindergarten in the fall, my oldest will be 21 next month and is in her third year of college. At first, when my husband and I found out we where expecting, my first thought was will I be able to handle this at this age; but my faith in god and the strength he has given me has erased all doubts in my mind. My little man a blessing and joy I wouldn't change for nothing in the world!! He keeps his dad and I on our toes! He's very much loved by us and his sister and anyone else who comes into contact with him. He's that missing piece that we longed for after we got married. Don't get me wrong...it is hard sometimes, but when you see him and he has that sparkle in his eyes, you can't help but be patient and understanding. So, to all the mothers in their forties, it'll get better!!! don't give up!
Nina - posted on 04/01/2012
I HAD my daughter when I was 46. Now I'm 52 with a 6 year-old-kindergartner. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Sure, some days are hard, and I can't do the monkey bars like I used to, (but I'm not sure the 30 year olds can either!) but heck, we sure have a lot of fun!
Just think, if you hadn't had a child at 41, you'd still be 46 and life might not be so, um, interesting and eventful. My kid keeps me young (most of the time) but tired too. At our age we're not embarrassed to have fun with our kids and I don't think we care that much what others think about us looking goofy. I also think we have much more patience than we did when we were young. My friend's mantra when times are trying is: "It's just a phase."
(Some phases last longer than others, it seems)
Sometimes my mantra is: "Tommorow will be better."
Denise - posted on 04/01/2012
I adopted my grandson who was 5 months old, when I was 43. Wow, what a difference it is being a mom in your 40's in comparison to your 20's! Not sure if it's because he has special needs or if I am just getting old, but I sure am tired! LOL
However, I would not change it for the world. He keeps me on my toes, but he brings me so much joy and laughter. I love this little angel so much!
Angela - posted on 04/01/2012
I just turned 44, and I have 4 children, 4 years and under (4 year old twins, 2 1/2 years, and 1 year). Some days I feel like I'm going crazy, but then there are many moments that I wouldn't change for the world. I'm glad that I have a husband that helps me a lot!
Ida - posted on 04/01/2012
I am a mom 48 and my son is 7 turning 8 this year with 2 older siblings 20 and 17, he keeps me young but the thing that I have difficulty with is having him play with kids his age, I have him in baseball, so he practices with other kids then, but not really just to play with,
Suzan - posted on 03/28/2012
I'm 46 with a 4 year old. My oldest is 30.. In total I have six children. The age difference between the youngest is 14 years and believe me it is very hard. I'm loving every minute of it, but in every way it's different from my last child. Hoping my body & mind catch up soon, heheheh:)
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