Am I being old fashioned?

Ramona - posted on 05/17/2012

Depends on the who, what, where, when and what's playing. Too many variables in this. If it is a matinee, or a family friendly movie, in a nice area, then perhaps it is OK. If it is a slasher film, at 10pm on a Saturday night on the seedy part of town, then no. We have a tiny 2 screen theater 4 blocks from the house, my kids have walked there for an afternoon movie, why not?

Sheila - posted on 05/17/2012

You are your child's mother not the mother of his class you do what is best for you and your child. This may not be what is best for his classmates even though you have to know and understand that you will do what is best for your family as a mother who is using what she knows and feels to be right not necessarily what will make the child happy.

Gina - posted on 05/14/2012

NO!!!!!!! is the answer. You have two boys and both need to understand that they aren't old enough to be out with the parents, that is the bottom line and that's all. If you want, you can be near when they out; stay close be assure he (both) are fine.
good luck!!!

Judith - posted on 04/15/2012

I have to agree with you.There are to many 'questionable' people in todays society.I am 44 years old and have two boys age 6 and 8 .Maybe you could take them and sit elsewhere in the theater ? Even if one of the kids had an older sibling(16 or so ) that could be trusted.

Karen - posted on 04/15/2012

I dont think its a question of your being old fashioned, I think you should only allow what your comfortable with. My 19 year was not allowed into town until he was 13 and even then we would often be in town at the same time.

I have often wondered if i AM TO STRICT BUT YOU CANT LET YOURSELF BE SWAYED BY OTHER PARENTS WHO ARE NOT AS RESPONSIBLE. aLSO EACH CHILD IS VERY DIFFERENT.

pERSONALLY WE TOLD OUR SON THAT WHEN HE WENT INTO TOWN HE WOULD BE A TARGET FOR SECURITY STAFF and that he must get use to it as groups are suspisous, we also told him if he ever got caught shoplifting not to call home as we would not pick him up...it worked for us

Donna - posted on 04/15/2012

Years ago it was fine to go at that age. I know I did. I wouldn't let my kids go at that age by themselves. I would give it a couple of years and if you pick them up and drop them off then they should be fine. I would also make sure they have a cell phone with them to contact you.

Erin - posted on 04/15/2012

go with your gut! Sit a few rows back if you need to. But I also think they need to be accompanied.

Louise - posted on 04/09/2012

Each child is different, but if your heart is saying he is not mature enough to do this, or you live a particularly long way from town, then no follow your heart.



My sons did go into town quite young as a group, never on there own. I used to take them to town and then arrange a time to pick them all up again. They never had phones in those days though! lol



If your uneasy about it then its not right to do! Simple!

Gaela - posted on 04/08/2012

I think you should trust your instincts and not worry about what other mums are doing! There are always going to be moms who allow their children to do things that you're not comfortable with. I can't tell you how many times I've heard "everyone else's mom lets them". I just told them, "when I meet this kid Everyone Else and his mother, we'll talk about it! Until then YOUR mom says "no". Stick to your guns.

Michelle - posted on 04/08/2012

I am 35 and we allow our son to go to the movies with his buddies on their own however I usually take his little sister to a different show at the same time so that at least if there is a problem he has an adult around to go to. I also let him go off in the mall on his own depending on the friend, he has a few who are 13 and 14 and the three of them go off all the time. This being said he has known these kids forever and we consider them more family then friends.

Brittney - posted on 04/08/2012

I'm 20 and I think that 11 is too young to be wandering the streets. Now if you mean dropping them off at the movies or the mall then picking them up at a certain time, then depends on the child, some are trustworthy and others are not. 13 I think would be acceptable.