Any older moms with ADHD?

Holly - posted on 11/23/2012

I just went to see a counselor for my extreme rage/anger ect. She told me I had ADD, I never even thought that this was a real disease! I have been to a few counselors over my life for anxiety, eating disorders, drug addiction (pot) ect. Noone ever mentioned this dx. As I have been studying it I realize how could I have never seen this, too busy smoking trying to keep my brain on slow mo I guess :( Now that I have been sober for a few months I can't seem to get any kinda control over myself. I fly off the handle at the slightest annoyance, and with 3 little ones that can be often. I have been looking for someone to see that can steer me in the right direction. UGH!! There seems to be a couple different treatment options, and plenty of strategies to deal with this issue. I just feel pretty overwhelmed right now, and basically want a QUICK FIX!! I know that is not really gonna happen. I am 44. Any advice would be AWESOME!!

Joyce - posted on 01/30/2012

Oh, I am Bi-polar too!!!

Joyce - posted on 01/30/2012

Hello, Andrea!! I am almost 55 and I always knew I was unique from my peers, but I was recently diagnosed w/ ADHD. It IS aggravating and frustrating, however, you are not alone. But I will tell you this: I am so relieved that there is help out there. I no longer feel confused about the merry-go-round in my head all day long.

Tami - posted on 01/24/2012

Wow nice to find other's my age with the same type problems, not that I would ever wish anything of the sort for anyone. I always say I would never wish any of my problems health or otherwise on anyone. I am 50 I have four son's aged 31, 29, 25, and 22. They were all diagnosed with ADHA at one point or another during grade school. Thats when I figured out that was what I had been dealing with all my life but when I was 5 they had no diagnosis for my problems said it was my nerves. They started me on nerve med's when I was in kindergarten. And yes it is exhausting. Hang in there you have made it this far.

Janine - posted on 01/11/2012

Hi, I've worked 16 years for a speech therapist and pshycologist, so I quickly picked up my problem but always kept quite as people would think I was stupid. I always struggled studing, and later struggled coping at work. When I realised the problem with my first son at 4yrs, now 18yrs and my 2nd son at 6yrs, now 16yrs and had them tested, I too confirmed I was ADHD. My Boys now both on Concerta. Doing well. I've always just managed, never claimed to be a mom that can do 20 things at once. When reading all your posts I realized it wasn't just the begining of menopause at 46yrs but my adhd. Then tonight was the last straw! I was so busy, arranging school uniforms,my sons 16th birthday party I forgot to buy his card and gifts I wanted to get him! I thank God for a wonderful other son that grabed his father and went 5min before the shops closed and bought everything while mom was left to calm down. I think its time to go see the Dr!

Julie - posted on 01/06/2012

YES! At my son's psychological evaluation it became clear to me that he had inherited the brain disorder from MOI. The psychiatrist let me know that there is help available for adults with ADHD and referred to me to a specialist. She stated for the record that there are not may psychiatrist out there who treat adults accurately so do your research. Dr Oz had a show on it as well. More men than women have it, so we are less likely to be diagnosed and treated. The research found it really can ruin a marriage. My husband has recently mentioned it's "getting old" and I feel awful that it effects my household, husband and kids. Caffeine helps, and knowledge of how our brain works differently will help you and your loved ones have more patients...

Andrea - posted on 12/12/2011

Oh Candic you have gone through ALOT! I feel I get worse with age and less kids at home rather than better? ? ? And how did you get disability? My husband jokes about me getting it all the time! I honestly have tried working several times and when I have MY LIFE AND HEALTH GETS SO BAD I END UP QUITTING AND STAY HOME AGAIN! it is so tough to find the right combination and handle daily life! ! Just the last three weeks I finally got my house clutter free and started keeping the house cleaner so I can focus! Cooking and extra stuff still affect my anxiety and blood pressure! But my CHILDRENS choir at church and my friends get me through most days :-) in box me if you would like to talk more :-) and hope things go better soon :-)

Candis - posted on 12/11/2011

Hi, Im now 45 but about the time i turned 40 i was going through menopause and my ADHD got really bad my house my family my life fell apart completely I was able to get disability and get my home and family back but was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder i struggle every day but am still looking for solutions other than medication