any older mums miscarried and gone onto conceive again

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Pamela - posted on 02/26/2009

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well, i'm probably the oldest in the circle....so i should be able to give some encouragement! I had a son at 42 after years of trying and a failed in vitro, and then to my surprise got pregnant at 45 and miscarried and then 2 months later was pregnant again and had my son last April at 46 years old! Talk about SHOCKED!! He is a healthy baby boy and the cutest thing ever....

Louise - posted on 10/07/2013

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l had my last baby 8 yrs ago. When she was 1.5yrs old l had a termination as her fathers and mine relationship was extremely rocky. l regretted that decision before l even went through with it (there was alot of pressure from those around me to terminate). My daughters father and l went on to change our lives and resolve our problems and got married and bought a house. we then decided to try again for a baby. I suffered through 7 miscarriages. After the 7th l was to devestated to keep trying even though we longed for another child and decided l didnt want to keep trying. l told my husband it was time for him to go to the doc and get the snip. Due to him working away frequently he didnt get there and within 6 mths of making that decision l fell pregnant again. I now have a beautiful healthy 5 mth old daughter and l am 44 years old. So dont ever give up or give in if you really want a baby :)

Kathy - posted on 09/23/2013

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I miscarried at 7 weeks pregnant at 44, conceived again over 4 years later at 48 and gave birth to a healthy baby boy.

Wanda - posted on 10/21/2013

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I miscarried after my first baby, I was 12 weeks along and 38 yrs old. I did go on to get pregnant again and have a successful pregnancy.

Kristy - posted on 10/19/2013

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I hd a miscarriage in Jan 2011 at 39 thn found out in June this year 2 week's b4 my 42 nd bday u was pregnant was so happy. Sadly 20th July aft spotting there was no heartbeat nd miscarried the nxt day. So want to try again as this would be mine nd my husband's 1st child I've gt 4 boys 23 21 14 6. It is down heartening when u read wat chances uve got when ur over 42 but thn there are stories of woman conceiving over 40 so does give u some hope. I've hd bloods dne at the miscarriage clinic get results the 19 th Nov so goin to keep on trying

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Catherine - posted on 09/03/2014

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As for how soon a woman must try to get pregnant after she suffered a miscarriage, the general opinion is that, after waiting for a month to pass, she can safely try to conceive again, without worrying about something going wrong. Don't give up. There is hope. With the proper knowledge and methods, you can reverse your body's hormonal related disorders and lifestyle. When you do that, you are creating a safe place for your baby to live during your pregnancy. That makes your body a healthier home for the entire length of your pregnancy. This is the ONLY way to make your body a safe nest for a healthy baby. Anyway, if you are trying to get pregnant, there's a lot of things that you can do to improve your chances of conceiving. I've bought the 'Getting Pregnant Plan by Michelle Adams e-book' from http://aboutgettingpregnant.com, it has a lot of information about boost your chances of conceiving, pinpoint your ovulation, improve your fertility and pregnancy related. Hope it helps

Rose - posted on 06/12/2014

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Yes I got pregnant at 41 but I lost the baby at around 6 weeks . It was are 1st pregnancy after trying for so many years we were devastated but being a Christian I believe in god and prayer and I knew in my heart are prayers for a child were answered so we kept believing and I conceived again at 43 . Unfortunately the heartbeat wasn't strong and despit being put on progesterone I suffered another miscarriage but I still stood on gods word and I did concieve again and this time the heartbeat was 169 bpm I had a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby boy at 45 he's 15 months and a handsome boy . Miracles do happen and god answers prayers . I still hold a place in my heart for the 2 babies I lost but I know there with Jesus in heaven . Never give up on your dreams to have a baby when your over 40 even after an mc . God bless

Sandi - posted on 05/23/2014

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I, too, got pregnant and also miscarried at 44. At first, with a 19 year old daughter, I did not want to start over. So I cannot say I was real happy, but after 2 positive home pregnancy test and one positive given, and being numb from shock, got excited. After having sex with my man, I started bleeding for about half of the day. I did not actually soak a pad,(I hate the feeling of wetness, sorry for the TMI) but I changed twice. The next day was very light. It may have reached the pad once or twice, but I could see light pink to red blood when I wiped myself. I did not get the excruciating pain that everyone talks about, but I did have light cramping that got heavier at times.

The blood stayed light to none and back to light for days, but the day after I started having pain, my boyfriend took me to the ER. There, they told me that my HCG levels were 85 so I maybe having a miscarriage, but I was to take a blood test in 48 hours. Those were the longest 48 hours ever. I know I got on my boyfriend's nerves. It was then that it dawned on me that I wanted this baby. Yes, going through this totally all over again, would be challenging, but I had gotten used to the idea so I started planning early on. When you're older, you have a lot more experience about things than you would when you're 25 (that's when I had my daughter).

I had gotten used to the idea of only having my daughter until I got pregnant at 44. Well, my HCG level lowered to 30 but the hormone is still in my body so I have to take another blood test.

Now that this miscarriage seems like it is what's happening, I am not sure if I will try for another baby(I did not try in the first place-it just happened). I will go back to being used to my daughter being the only one.

They told me that my HCG

Julia - posted on 03/18/2014

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I'm 46years, have just lost my baby at 14 weeks. I conceived naturally after my 3rd child who was born full term and healthy at the age of 42. Naturally I'm upset but it has made me realise how lucky I am to have my daughter at such a late stage in my life. All my pregnancy have been conceived naturally the last 2 were unplanned so don't give up ladies miracles happen.

Tracey - posted on 02/03/2014

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Hey there vivienne
I will be 43 this yr I do have 3 girls from a previous partner ive been with my new partner for nearly 10 yrs and we have miscarried 3 baby angels we have been to see an re and had all fertility testing and scans and they found nothing wrong with either of us very frustrating its been 2 yrs since the loss of our 3rd baby and we are ready ttc again ive been reading so many posts on this thread and I take my hat off to them there very brave and lucky to have there little miracles x

Vivienne Frances - posted on 01/04/2014

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thanku for this,i will check out website,i am 44 and trying for baby number 5(after 6 year break!!)...there is hope for me yet :)

Vivienne Frances - posted on 01/04/2014

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oh wow that's wonderful,I am 44 and trying for my fifth child,so that gives me hope,thanku:)

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You and I have just gone through the same experience and dates. I am 41. Baby was also 6 weeks and 1 day. Any woman over 40 needs to check for any Auto Immune diseases. Thyroid and arthritic are at least 2 of them. Usually the first weeks end in an Chemical miscarriage related to the Autoimmune disorder. Thyroid issues are the number 1 cause in the early weeks. There are woman who do conceive in early 40's but not without heartache along the road. Please talk to a specialist. There are medications used in high risk pregnancies to help prevent likelihood of loosing pregnancy. With all do respect, only God knows why we conceive and can't. A lot of women have to have In vitro to plant a good egg and sperm.

Metua - posted on 10/01/2013

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im 41 have 5 children with my partner but now he my husband we got married last year so i said to him it would be niece to have a baby in widlock. so we tryed i have had 3 miscarriages so far just had one yesterday at 6weeks 1day its heart breaking i got to see this baby on the scan i was so happy thinking im gonna make it then i started bleeding 27 sep but it was only light then i started cramping monday 1st oct then woke up the next morning with heavy bleeding but i knew went to the doctor she check me and the baby was just sitting there on top of my cervic . my doctor said to me there nothing wrong with my health its my ages then she suggested for me to take evelit .so scard to try again my husband said when im heal we can try again but i said no cant go throw this again but love to but to scare any advise or anybody been throw this.....

Raven - posted on 09/22/2013

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I had four miscarriages before I had my daughter at 43. It's normal with "old" eggs. I also had a child in my twenties and a miscarriage. In my thirties I had my son, bam the first try. So maybe thirties are the sweet spot. Or maybe it's just not predictable. I didn't use IVF, the nurses couldn't believe it at the hospital. I've always found this confusing as all my great grandmothers had kids from 16 to 50. They didn't get much else done obviously, but keep trying. If it's meant to be...

Elle - posted on 09/20/2013

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Miscarried at 8 weeks and 5 days. I am 42 and conceived via IVF. Everything was going well. My RE and nurses said I did nothing wrong and the good part is I can conceive. We are going to keep trying and praying for healthy babies. Has anyone experienced this and gone on to get pregnant via IVF and make it to full term. I will be 43 in a few months.

Chonta - posted on 09/17/2013

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I had my son at the age of 38, I had a 2 misscariage at the age of 40 . Now I will be 42 in Dec. I would love to give my son a brother or sister. But I am afraid based upon my miscarriages and baby possibly having down because I'm over the age. I am a only child and I live to have another child.

Pires - posted on 09/02/2013

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Pires - posted on 09/02/2013

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mrs keith.brand | 7/18/2013 15:43:34 pM |
Good Day Every One On This Sites,,

I have a testimony to share,,My Name is Mrs keith.brand am from the United State Of America am now 54years old Am a Medical doctor in California,I married for about 24years ago without any child then me and my husband go for an adoption of 2kids male/female.
Last years something wonderful and gracious happened to me i came across this witch doctor IMONG in the internet that promise to help me get pregnant which i totally disagree,,,How can i be pregnant looking my age he ask me not to worry that he only specialize on pregnancy no other. That after the job has been completed there is no any side effect,that was how he told me what to do which i did, could you believe i miss my periodical time that same Month and i was pregnant.Today am now the happiest woman on Earth,,While am i testify to this site i know there are a lot of people that are in this kind of trouble some will decide to commit suicide.
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Angel - posted on 08/28/2013

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Hi Louise,
After getting pregnant and giving birth at 41 for the first time, we were hoping for a sibling for our son. I did conceive again after a year, but miscarried at 8 weeks and ended up having a D&C. I thought that my chances of getting pregnant again after 40 were nil. But I was in for a surprise! I got pregnant again (conceiving naturally) at 44 and gave birth to a lovely daughter at 44!
The risk of miscarriage increases after 40 as our eggs age. However, there are natural ways you can reduce miscarriage risk after 40. You can read more on it here: http://achildafter40.com/reduce-miscarri...
Oddly, it was after I gave up completely on getting pregnant that I conceived again and went full term!

Kaitlyn - posted on 08/18/2013

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Yes I am an older mom. I'm 51 and done but it was hell to have the 3 kids we have. Our youngest is 12 and I was 38 when I conceived him after 2 miscarriages before him and a total of 10 over the course of our conceiving years. I got the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It teaches a family planning method that you use to avoid or become pregnant but it tells you exactly how to track your cycle using your basal body temperature and it really does work. I also had to take aspirin and progesterone because turned out I had luteal phase deficit. I would never have known if I hadn't tracked it. I delivered my son when I was 39 and he is the joy of our family. Just keep trying until either you or your husband know it is time to find another way. I only say that because my husband had said it was our last chance as he just couldn't watch my heart break anymore over all the lost babies. I agreed and luckily it worked.

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just found out im pregnant again age 45 scary after 3 years of miscarriages 4 in all x hope this one is a sticky one taking asprin 75mg a day and folic acid x

Trina - posted on 07/03/2013

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had 1st mc at 27 (long time ago) after trying for 2 years. then after 3 cycles of AI and surgery and another 2 years had my son. we decided that if it happens it will happen. and NOTHING happened for 10 1/2 years when at age 40 to our surprise was pregnant. had genetic testing at 11 weeks and everything was fine and heard heart beat at 12 weeks!!:) unfortunately the morning of my 16 week check up started bleeding and no heartbeat. after ultrasound to confirm he had stopped growing at 12 weeks. that was 3 weeks ago. have no idea if we'll try or not.

Christine - posted on 03/20/2013

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Hi, I went on to have a child after four miscarriages. I used progesterone cream before I became pregnant for the last time and well into the pregnancy. Delivered shortly after my 41st birthday. I found a lot of support from www.resolve.org. Hooked up with a local chapter, attended a support group, and learned about fertility and adoption resources. Very helpful to talk to other people in the same boat. The best decision I made was to see a specialist. My regular ob was only prescribing the cream after I'd become pregnant, and that was apparently too late. Best of luck to everyone!

Julia - posted on 03/15/2013

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Hi,
I've just found out this morning I'm 2-3 weeks pregnant with my 3rd, after two m/c. My first was a mmc, baby reached nearly 8 weeks, my second was a mc and came away naturally. Both devastating, but I continue to have hope with this one. Never give up, keep trying as long as your emotions let you.

The difference with my pregnancy this time is I take pure Vitamin D and NatPro progesterone cream, daily. Under the advice of an expert who has helped many women with their pregnancies. As I say, I'm very early on in this pregnancy so I can only hope and pray all is well, but I will say, I have been taking this supplements for 4 months, since my last m/c basically and the Vit D alone has really helped my well being. I haven't been ill, feel more alive, nails and hair are growing great, so I do truly believe it is doing something. I do hope it helps with the pregnancy. Good luck to all of us. God Bless. x

Tracey - posted on 02/17/2013

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awwww lis im sooo sorry i have lost 3 babies and turing 42 this september and this is why it scares me soo much to try again knowing the chance is high of me loosing another but i do want to try if you know what i mean life is so crule they carnt find a reason for my losses however i do have 3 girls from previous partner they wont give me IVF because i have children and can conceive dosnt help the fact i can get pregnant but end up loosing them at 8-11 wks missed miscarrages .

i really sorry for your loss but we are hear to support you if you need to vent or talk take care . hugs to you xxx

Lis - posted on 02/16/2013

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Thank you all for encouraging stories. Devastated at 42 to be going through 4th consecutive miscarriage in 2 years after 4 IVFs. Feeling hopeless and empty.

Olivia - posted on 02/09/2013

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Thank you Tracey very bit of encouragement helps. I will you keep updated. Best of luck to you. Keep us updated as well. ♥

Tracey - posted on 02/09/2013

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olivia

im so sorry for your loss its heartbraking i know dont give up ive lost 3 babies with new partner and we are ready ttc again since loosing our 3rd one last yr and im 42 this yr x

let me know how your getting on x

Olivia - posted on 02/08/2013

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A baby by Feb next year. How soon before I should try again or am I crazy to even try? Thank you. And best luck to us all ♥

Olivia - posted on 02/08/2013

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Hello, Thank you all for your stories. They give me hope. I'm 41 (42 in 13 days). I have a healthy 25 year old son. Great pregnancy. Unfortunately, we lost the love of my life after 24 yrs together. We never tried to not get pregnant but we were never so lucky. Well I found out I was pregnant with my new but just miscarried yesterday. Here's my question. I don't want to give up and my goal is to have a

Tracey - posted on 09/02/2012

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hi elaine how do you women do it im so scared of it happening again and i dont think i could go through it all again but i want a babie so so much so i supose i have to do it all over again. any tips on how you women coped with the next pregnancy its so hard just to stay calm .

Elaine - posted on 09/01/2012

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Had a miscarriage at 38 but went on to have a beautiful baby girl for my 40th birthday.

The year I had my miscarriage two of my sister-in-laws also had miscarriages. We live in different parts of the country. It is sad and it happens way more than people know.

Tracey - posted on 08/31/2012

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hi im new to this site i just want to sound off my story right here we go im 40 yrs old i have 3 girls from a previous partner all heathly pregnanceys no problems at all then i seperated from the girls dad and i met my new partner of 8 yrs we have miscaried 3 babies all at 5-8 wks 4 yrs ago we went to fertility clince had all kind of tests done scans blood tests swabs sprem tested you name it we had it done well to our amazment they found nothing at all wrong which is so frustrating so here we go again 5 months ago we miscarried again had to have a D&C with the last 2 first one came away naturally which isnt any better.



so after the 3rd loss we went to a different fertility speacialist 3 wks ago only to be told that there are no more investigations or treatment they can offer us we were devistated so now what do we do now risk of having another loss or just hope that fate gives us this gift we have long waited for im so scared of trying again the re said that egg and sperm are too old to substain the pregnancey if this is true my eggs we old at 34 yrs old thats wen i lost the first i do truley belive in my self that this is not the fact.



i also have great inspiration for those older moms to go on and have the determination to carry on trying ttc and get there much wanted babie in the end i just wish i could i just dont know what to do.



when i got pregnant with the 2nd babie my re suggested i take babie asprin i did this both times and both babies died :( i have however 2 months ago found out that my thyriod is low im taking meds for this now and has gone back to normal but i have to contiue taking the meds .



im sorry ive gone on a bit lol just a bit of info for you ladies to get to know me x

Mari - posted on 08/05/2012

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Hi i had 4 miscariages from the age of 19 to 26. No reason was found.When getting pregnant for the 5th time i had to go into hospital and was given pesseries to keep pregnancy going.went on to have a trouble free pregnancy. I had a healthy boy at 9lb 2oz then 3 years later another son at 9lb 9oz no problems. 8 years later i had another son at 11lbs. Now at the age of 40 iam with a new partner we had a miscariage in February this year and currently trying again so fingers crossed x

Jackie - posted on 09/05/2009

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hello louise, i was 26 and a mum of 4 when i had my first miscarraige, i then went on to have 2 more children and after a gap of 8 years i got pregnant again i was 37 and sadly miscarried again , i then had a baby boy at 38 , this was followed by 3 more miscarraiges i was now 41 and then thank godness i got pregnant and had my little girl , i really wanted these last two precious kids and feel blessed to have them . when i was in hospital the woman accross from me was 44 and my doc. told me he had just delivered a baby from a 50 year old , now of course i was worried and scared tru it right up until i held them in my arms . im always here for any questions you have lots of love jackie ps Never give up hope xx

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Louise I was 39 and miscarried. Six months later I was pregnant again with my now 2 year old daughter. Keep trying and best of luck!

Sheila - posted on 09/05/2009

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I miscarried twice before having my beautiful daughter, Maya, at the age of 39. I had 3 children before her with perfect pregnancies. After the miscairraiges, needless to say, I was terrified for the first few months of my pregnancy. It was a somewhat difficult pregnancy and she was taken emergency c-section 3 1/2 weeks early. She was perfectly healthy and beautiful! Dont give up. You are in my prayers.

Kim - posted on 09/05/2009

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I had 2 m/c's, then my son at 33. Then another m/c, then my 1st daughter at 36, I then had 2 more m/c's(one was a set of twins) then at 39 on Clomid about to try injectables again(how I concieved my son) I got pregnant with my last daughter. I was 40 when I had her. I had other issues and that is why I m/c'ed a lot, but I was able to do it :)

Cynthia - posted on 09/04/2009

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I am glad your baby is healthy. I do midwifing and I tell you the things people are told annoy me. I hate hearing stories like yours where people have to worry. A lot of ladies I know have babies over 40. for thousands of years babies were born to women over, then in the last century women were pushed to stop that. sad. again. I am glad to hear your child is fine.

Sarah - posted on 09/03/2009

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At 42, after having a laproscopy, I was told that I had a 2 per cent chance of ever conceving naturally, but was too old to be have IVF on the NHS. One month later I was pregnant! Unfortunately I miscarried at 3 months, but within 3 months of that I was pregnant again and now at the age of 44 I have a lively 16 month old little boy. So don't give up! Good luck...

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Story for you!! You know the first trimester prenatal ultrasounds to see if your baby had Down's or genetic problems. I went in at 11 weeks and they did the ultrasound . The check the fluid behind the neck it was normal range. But the new thing or looking for a nasal bone was done which some studies have been done saying if you can't see one then there is a chance the baby might have down's syndrome. Well the girl doing the ultrasound coudn't find one. Then we met with a genetics Dr who said because of my age 40, and that they didn't see a nasal bone that their was a 1 to 3 chance that my baby would have down's. Well of course I freaked. And for 6 weeks worried. I finally had another ultrasound at 21 weeks and the girl that did that one said she couldn't see any signs of Down's. Wll, I worried for nothing!! My daughter is healthy and happy!! And I am still questioning how in the hell can you see a nasal bone on an 11 week fetus. And ironically, my daughter has a very small nose!!! I get irritated when you hear about all the statistics of older women having babies with genetic defects etc. Well, think about it. Years ago there were only a handful of women having children over 35. Now, with all the technology intervention. More and more older women are having babies!! So, to me they can throw the stastics in the garbage.

Liz - posted on 09/02/2009

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the hospital was hopeless I had no scan spent the night in A & E on my own crying hooked up on a drip sent home mid morning next day with no answer on what happen.

I had blood test hcg Levels done at 5 weeks read 200 then at 6 weeks it read 165 my doctor rang two days after I lost it I was so mad why didnt she tell me my levels were dropping and I was heading for miscarridge and was i really pregnant grrr

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Hey Liz,

I was 39 miscarried at ten weeks, got pregnant 5 months later nad found out was partial molar pregnancy there is just a stem no baby at all. I waited for 8 months got pregnant again at 40 and had my daugter in Feb at age 41 so yes there is time and you can have successful pregnancy after miscarriage at older age!!

Liz - posted on 09/02/2009

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Im 36 we just miscarried 3 weeks ago at 6 weeks gestation :(, my first we had been trying for two long years and then we got the news we were pregnant a week later we lost it.
We have a wee boy whos almost 6
This miscarridge has put a strain on our 10 year marridge it was nice to read your post

Emily - posted on 03/27/2009

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Yes, I miscarried at age 39 my twins.  I concieved 4 months later and have a beautiful boy.  I also miscarried 4 months ago and trying again.  I'm 41 now.  Good Luck

Robynn - posted on 03/26/2009

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I have started a new group for women who re 40 or close to it and have had a baby or adioted a baby or would like to have a baby or adopt a baby. This group is all about women who are facing menopause and potty training or pushing a trike while dealing with arthritis or fibromyalgia. Or maybe you want to talk to women who will not say better you than me. Aplace where we can rejoice about our chidren or worry about getting pregnant or not getting pregnant, whatever the case may be,but together.

Robynn - posted on 03/26/2009

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Doesn't it just pi** you off when someone says it was for the best because there was something wrong with it? I always want to say" So if your child gets sick and dies that is okay because there was something wrong with him?!?" Makes me furious. Yes I would love to stay in touch. But in case you cant tell-I am a bit of a rebel. I do not like other peoples know it all attitudes especially if they have never lost a baby. In my experience some women think their success is because they have done something right and our miscarriage is because we did something wrong or are lacking some how.

Lisa - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Robynn:



Quoting Lisa:

Wow! Now I think that I am one of the oldies on here! I am 43! I have three 'grown' daughters from my previous marriage. They are 17, 15 and 11. Then I re-married and we had a little boy two years ago. I found out in February that we were going to be blessed again. Sadly I miscarried two weeks ago. I am so down about it because I have read some really crappy statistics on getting pregnant when you are 42 and over. Poor egg quality etc. The incidence of miscarriage really rises too. We really want to have one more baby. A sibling for our son! I can't handle going through another miscarriage. There is just so much sadness....still. Can anyone add anything to help me feel better about trying again? Should we even try? Am I out of my mind?






Hi Lisa, I delivered my seventh child which was my 15th pregnancy when I was 44 and my husband was 66. She is healthier than most of my older kids were.  there is always hope.





Robynn you have given me HOPE!  I would love to stay in touch with you.  I feel so alone.  It seems like everyone around me feels like I should just "keep a stiff upper  lip and move on because there was something wrong with the baby".  Be that as it may.....it isn't that easy.  Please feel free to contact me anytime.  I would really like to be more connected to this board.  Thank-you ladies for all your great comments!

Robynn - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

Wow! Now I think that I am one of the oldies on here! I am 43! I have three 'grown' daughters from my previous marriage. They are 17, 15 and 11. Then I re-married and we had a little boy two years ago. I found out in February that we were going to be blessed again. Sadly I miscarried two weeks ago. I am so down about it because I have read some really crappy statistics on getting pregnant when you are 42 and over. Poor egg quality etc. The incidence of miscarriage really rises too. We really want to have one more baby. A sibling for our son! I can't handle going through another miscarriage. There is just so much sadness....still. Can anyone add anything to help me feel better about trying again? Should we even try? Am I out of my mind?



Hi Lisa, I delivered my seventh child which was my 15th pregnancy when I was 44 and my husband was 66. She is healthier than most of my older kids were.  there is always hope.

Christina - posted on 03/26/2009

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Yes, I did miscarriage my first  at 33 and got prg. at 34 had my daughter with some complications but she came healthy.

Robynn - posted on 03/26/2009

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Louise, I always had a negative preg test even though i was preg almost every time i miscarried. They would have to do a blood serum preg test. I do not always produce enough hormone to sustain the pregnancy.

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Yes, twice. Got pregnant the first time with a girl. I was thrilled that I even conceived because I wasn't supposed to be able to have children. I lost the baby around the 10 wk mark, and they determined through blood that it was a girl. I got pregant 2 yrs later with my 1st son. 12 years later, I got pregnant again, had a boy, and 2 years later, got pregnant again, miscarried another girl in the18 week. It was determined that I have an issue with the estrogen that my own body produces, hence by adding a female child into the mix, and adding more estrogen, the body attacked the fetus, and thus ended in miscarriage. I look at it as it was meant to be. While I grieved the possibility of having my own daughters, it wasn't meant to be. I have 2 handsome somes to show for it!

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