Anyone annoyed when you are out with your children and get called grandma? I am 44. I had my first girl at 32 and my second at 36. Now I know I'm a little older, I don't look like I'm in my 20's I pretty much look my age, but I do get really annoyed when I am out with my girls and a stranger asks if they are having fun with their grandmother. You'd think if they weren't sure they wouldn't say anything.

Ronni - posted on 02/28/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Anyone annoyed when you are out with your children and get called grandma? I am 44. I had my first girl at 32 and my second at 36. Now I know I'm a little older, I don't look like I'm in my 20's I pretty much look my age, but I do get really annoyed when I am out with my girls and a stranger asks if they are having fun with their grandmother. You'd think if they weren't sure they wouldn't say anything.

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Joanna - posted on 04/16/2012

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Happens to me all the time. I had an unexpected bundle of joy when I was 41. He is now 12 years old and I am 54. It offends him worse than me when someone assumes I am his grandma and he quickly informs them, "This is my MOM!!" Love my boy!

Darlene - posted on 03/08/2012

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My only child was born when I was 44! She is my whole world. I was out with her when she was 2 to 3 months old, and some one asked me how old my Grand Child was. I very politely stated her age and simply said "My Daughter was a great baby, I could not have asked for better"! They quickly apologized and walked away.



It is very anoying when people "ASSume". Now that she is older and people tend to not think I am Grandma, but Mommy since she calls me that now.



It is hard as an older Mom, but don't let peoples remarks get you down, they just don't understand.



Good luck to you.

Silke - posted on 02/29/2012

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So I'm not the only one in the same boat. My two are 9 and eleven and I'm 48 - was I miserable when this one women asked my 9 year old daughter if I was her granny! I definately don't look like a granny yet!! Chin up at least we're more mature, and wiser than we were when we were younger and so have much more to offer our kids now in emotional support then if we had been much younger moms!

Silke

Angi - posted on 04/08/2012

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Hey Ronni you think thats bad - I have two sons age 9 & 11 yrs whom I absolutely adore, I also have a step daughter aged 28 yrs who has two children age 3 & 7. When I go out with my step daughter, my kids and her kids, everyone presumes I am mum to Kate and Nanna to the other four, it really does annoy me. I am proud to be 50 and have two young sons and I want to shout at the world "They are mine".

Sherry - posted on 04/06/2012

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I am a Mother of 4 beautiful children, 2 girls 24yr & 22yr my boys are 15yr & 3yr. When I became pregnant with my last child I was just turning 40. When I had him he was 2 months early, so needless to say I had to take him back after he was discharged and re-admit him. My oldest daughter at the time was 4months pregnant and had the baby bump. Yep we were pregnant at the same time!!! Anyway, while in the hospital she would come visit us and every doctor and or nurse that would come into the room would address her as the mom and me as the grandmom. At first I was hurt and alittle embarrassed. Sometimes alittle annoyed. She would point at me and say that's his mom. Now this happened at the same hospital I had him in!!! Argh! But anyhow, I take him 3yr, my grandaughter who is 2yr & my grandson who is 2yr to the park all the time and we have fun with it now. Besides, on the flip side its fun when we are all together and I get to say that is her little brother!!! The reaction we normally get: "Oh I thought you were all sisters." hahahaha!

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Lucy - posted on 11/10/2013

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Never had that happen! I am raising my 10 year old granddaughter and have had her since she was born. I am currently 61 and often folks think I am her mom. I don't think I look all that great. I have bad knees and am overweight. But I do have a pretty good attitude and sense of humor. My daddy was 45 when I was born and had snow white hair for as long as I can remember. Folks often thought he was my grandfather and I would get livid when they made that mistake, until he pointed out that most of my friends' grandparents were about his age and that he totally did not mind. I guess its all in how you look at it.

Cassandra - posted on 11/05/2013

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My children are 27, 26, 24, 22, 8 and 5 1/2.
My grandchilden are 5, 3, 2 and 1 yr old twins. I think people just wonder what other peoples' lives are like. I often dont know myself if someone is the parent or grandparent. Its just curiosity. Flip side is my 8 and 5 yr old often think young parents are the siblings. We went to visit a friend of my 5 yr olds family for the first time. My 8 yr old assumed the dad was a big brother and asked if they could play his PS3. Lol

Jennifer - posted on 11/04/2013

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I didn't have my 3 girls until I was 41 and they're 3 years old now. There are some days that it bothers me that that people ask if I'm there grandma...like when I'm feeling tired.
I've had someone ask me "are they yours?"
Seriously sometimes people just ask stupid questions.

Gail - posted on 11/03/2013

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OH YES! This happens to me all the time, and has been happening for over 14 years, ever since I had my second of four children. I'm 46 and have four: 25, 14, 11, and 8. It even happened when I had my second at 31 - more than once we would be out and someone would assume that my oldest, then ELEVEN, was the baby's mother and I was grandma. Granted, even then my oldest was taller than me and very developed, but really?? It only got worse when I had the next one at 35, then my youngest at 37. And it still happens today. It really does annoy me, one of the few things in life that really does. I know I should be a bigger person, but I also think people should refrain from making comments when they are ignorant of the circumstances. I will usually say, "They are all mine. I am MOM. I don't have any grandchildren." Then they apologize, and I say, "I'm sorry, too, but that really bugs me." Thing is, I don't even look my age; I usually get mistaken for ten years younger! Sadly, I think it says a lot about our culture and what has become the norm - babies having babies.

Cynthia - posted on 10/29/2013

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I was called grandma twice this week, it was the first time for me, being called this. I will soon be 44 and I had my 1st child at 37 and my 2nd child at 41. I am still trying to cope with being called grandma, but I am happy to know I am not alone.

Angel - posted on 04/23/2012

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I had my daughter at 33.She's now 11 and I'm 44.We look like twins,so we are not confused alot.

Marla - posted on 04/18/2012

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I have 2 "sets" of kids 14,13 6,&4. Its agrevating when they think the too little ones are my daughters and she is the 14 yr old. lol

Kaye - posted on 04/13/2012

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I get the reverse! I really do look 55 and still get called Mum even when people hear my little ones say grandma!!! I just ignore it and smile, the kids know who I am, and bad manners should be ignored and not aknowledged. my Mum gets refered to as my sister also. People really should just say hello and leave it at that :)

Tena - posted on 04/11/2012

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I have had that happen a lot. My oldest is 19 and the other two are 7 and 2. But I had to think about it my mom was 41 when I had my oldest. I am 42 now and my daughter is the same age as a lot of my friends grandchildren.

Chris - posted on 04/08/2012

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Fortunately, it really doesn't happen to me. I had my first daughter at 32 and my second daughter at 43.5. Most people assume my husband is the youngest's grandfather which annoys him. I am only three years younger but someone even thought he was my father. I love to tease him about that! People never are usually surprised to find out that am 54. Sunscreen is my best friend. :)

Beth - posted on 03/28/2012

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I get that a lot! I had my first two kids when I was 23/24, and my last three when I was 37, 39 and 41. People always assume my younger kids are my grandkids.

Mary Anne - posted on 03/28/2012

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Im 40 about to be 41. I have 4 spanning between 17 and 4. I was at Sams and I could sworn a woman made a comment on how grandmothers like to spend time wiht the children. IDK the hand dryers were on my kids were ready to leave the bathroom. Yeah it makes me rethink my anyway I love my kids but im mom not grandma MOM

Tessy - posted on 03/21/2012

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Oh I'm 44and I do get upset when someone ask me u have beautiful granddaughters or ask me if they are mine is very annoy those questions my daughters are 10 and my baby soon be 8 April 21 and in may I will be 45 just because my age right away assum I'm grama grrrr

Like I told my daughters u don't have nice thing to say don't say anything at all and be careful what u say u can hurt someone feelings

Tracey - posted on 03/11/2012

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I had it happen to me on Saturday. I was at my friends daughters first birthday party with my 5 year old son and my 6 year old daughter. I am 44 and admit I do look my age. Someone said 'It must be nice for you to be able to enjoy your grandchildren'. I said 'I will when one of my children has childred, but as my oldest is 17 and my youngest is 5 I hope that doesn't happen for a while yet'

I also had it in a shop that I go in to regularly. The woman behind the counter said 'It's lovely you spend so much time with you grandchildren'. Seriously, I was always with my kids, they never went to anyone else to be looked after, so that ould be one devoted grandmother and one neglectful mother if that were the case!!

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